Not happy, what should I do???

[Banshee]

We have it almost all planned for our Christmas 2005 trip. We planned on staying at the Poly, and having a great time. Now my FIL is coming with us he does not want to pay for a room at the Poly. My DH doesnt want him to be at a different resort while we are at the Poly. We would pay for his room but he wont hear of it! He wants us to stay at a mod. in connecting rooms. I have nothing against mod. resorts they are great we stayed at CBR our last trip,and really enjoyed it. I was REALLY looking forward to staying at the Poly, and trying something different. I dont know what to do!!!!!!!

 

[TigrLvsPooh]

I've been in your shoes. One time we went on a big family trip to WDW and everyone decided to do 5 rooms at All Star Music. I didn't want to stay there, but went along with it so dh and the kids would be near the rest of the family. It's not somewhere I would stay again, but it was really nice to be near each other in the evenings and stuff.

 

[debbiedoo]

OH NO!! Another family issue--can you get some input from the MIL?? Get her to help persuade him??

 

[thumpersfriend]

I want a big trip for my immediate family and will pay for 3 rooms at the Poly. My son asked if some friends of his could come too. I actually said I would rather just take our family. This was because they wanted to all stay at a value resort. My kids all understood and it never was a problem, thank goodness. I think if you have your heart set that is where you should stay. Keep talking to him and get him to change his mind.

 

[funnybunny921]

He doesn't want to pay for it, and he won't let you pay for it?

Personally I would have your DH tell FIL that you were looking forward to staying there and if he doesn't want to pay for it you will but you don't want to change your plans.

IMHO he shouldn't dictate where your whole family stays, but if he isn't willing to budgeyou might have to compromise.

Did you explain how much closer the poly is to the MK etc? for my grandmother and even my parents proximity can be worth extra money.

 

[denman007]

I would give him 2 choices - stay with you for free at Poly (perhaps you can offer to pay the overage only)

or

He can stay somewhere else.

I would not change my plans because of this. For him to consider that(changing plans) an option, is rude at the very least.

jmo

 

[Loves2Travel]

I would just tell him you called, and got a "special" rate, and for what it costs to stay at a moderate he can stay at the poly...hehe it might work!

 

[Kae]

Wow, that is a tough one. Since you are willing to pay for him at the Poly maybe he be couls pay what he would pay at a Mod & you pick up the rest. I guess if he knew that you really want to stay at the poly & knew the cost then he should accept that.

Do you have a good rate? Maybe a code will come out.

Kae

 

[Tikiman]

Ask him if he wants to spend much more of his time riding buses. Than tell him at the Polynesian he will have not only better access to some of the parks but he will have access to other resorts. Does he golf? There is golf courses right across the street. You will also have a lot more room at the Polynesian.

Have him visit my web pages.

Aloha

Steve

 

[Banshee]

Well my MIL is not an option as they are recently divorced. And he has offered to watch the little ones so Dh and I can have private time. And I did explain to him that Poly. is a hop skip and a jump away from MK. But he just feels it is soooo much money when all the moderate resorts ar sooo beautiful. He likes the look of CSR my Dh has told him that I really want to go to the Poly. But like I said it is soooooo much money! Thanks for the advice!

 

[Banshee]

He might actually fall for the special price thing!!! Steve (Tikiman) I showed him your site!! He thinks the Poly. is beautiful but he also feels the Mods. are beautiful too. He has something for CSR?!? I have never stayed there and neither has he but he jus likes the way it looks in the pictures.

 

[goofy4tink]

Lie!!! 'Sorry Dad...we double checked. No rooms at the moderates for when we want to go.' Then he pays what the mod. would have cost and you pick up the rest. And there is the kid card...'But Dad, the kids so want you to be with us and we have been so looking forward to staying at the Polynesian and we probably will never get to do this as a family again and it would make us sooooo happy to have you with us at the Polynesian!!'

 

[Banshee]

Lie!!! 'Sorry Dad...we double checked. No rooms at the moderates for when we want to go.' '

Yeah he is pretty Dopey! (no pun intended) He might fall for that too I am just not sure!

 

[susy]

CSR is really nice, but if you want to stay the Poly and have the money, why not???
Life really is too short people... I am not advocating going into debt or antyhing like that, but really...it's ONLY money! You are not taking it with you. I have never seen a hearse pulling a U-HAUL!

 

[Banshee]

CSR is really nice, but if you want to stay the Poly and have the money, why not???
Life really is too short people... I am not advocating going into debt or antyhing like that, but really...it's ONLY money! You are not taking it with you. I have never seen a hearse pulling a U-HAUL!

I love it you are sooo right! Life really is too short I have told him that since I got seriously hurt 3 years ago and my mom almost died I am going to live my life and enjoy it every step of the way. But I dont feel like bickering with him. and really its not like bickering its more him beign whiney!

 

[ExPirateShopGirl]

Have your DH politely tell him that he would prefer to keep his own marriage intact. Let him know you would love to have him join you at the poly, your treat, or perhaps he would prefer to visit another time.

Private time is nice, but when push comes to shove, you need to be able to have the vacation YOU want for your family instead of allowing your FIL to dictate the family's plans. Don't they have kids' activities at a few of the resorts for parents to catch a few moments?

Good luck!

 

[debbiedoo]

Since they have been recently divorced. . . .I would say it on the line--this is somewhere I have always wanted to stay--go for it!!

After taking my FIL in 2001--never again!! He is divorced--only spent one at the parks with us out of 13 days!! met one of the CM's st CBR--Old port royale--the manager and she saw him more than we did!!! She no longer works there. . . . I was shocked that we had tried to include him and enjoy ou daughter and look at what happen!! He did not even go swimming!!

Good luck with your situation. . . .hopefully you will have better luck than I did. . . .

 

[MINNIEBOWSER]

I agree with the other posters. Put your foot down! Stay at the Poly. If he won't let you pay the whole amount then tell him he can pay the price he would pay if he stayed at a mod. and you will pick up the rest. If he does not go for that then I would get mad because he is being selfish. Let us know how you make out. GOOD LUCK!!!! Just think of all the Aloha's you will miss if you give in to him!!!!

 

[johnsonet]

I would give him 2 choices - stay with you for free at Poly (perhaps you can offer to pay the overage only)

or

He can stay somewhere else.

I would not change my plans because of this. For him to consider that(changing plans) an option, is rude at the very least.

jmo

ITA!!

 

[cra-z-4-dizney]

Tell him the CSR is a convention resort and not very kid friendly(no flaming anyone I know all Disney resorts are kid friendly..just for this situation)...I also like the other one about the code with a special rate...just tell him that...have him give you the money that it would cost to stay at CSR and you pay the rest.