Not a very good Christmas after all :'(

[BabyPiglet]

Were in debt of about 120,000 dollars right now.

Actually...I know people in way way more debt than that. Most people have more than that just trying to pay off their mortgage. Not to mention cars.

I said it before and I'll say it again, your parents probably have it under control. Let them handle it. And there's nothing you can really do.

 

[BabyPiglet]

Oh, I actually didn't think of it that way...
I kinda just figured, if we spent money on all that stuff, we must still have had money left over...
Actually, I don't really know how I figured at all. Haha.

And after rereading what I wrote, it sounds a little condesending, and I didn't mean it to sound like that at all.
Sorry if I offended anyone.

And OP, I hope everything works out okay.

No problem, you certainly didn't offend me. I just wanted to point that out in case you hadn't though of it. =)

 

[ashleypmo]

Hey Cassidy! Honey, I feel for you! And I know what you mean. I don't think you were so upset about the presents, it's just that suddenly realizing that your family finances are tight is stressful.

Back in the 80's, my dad was making a good 6 figure income. Then when I was a junior in high school, he left us, and my mom was supporting two kids on her $14,000 job, plus about $14,000 in child support--I'll do the math for everyone because I know it's late!--our income went from over $100,000 to under $30,000 just like that. I remember my mom sitting at her desk in tears because she couldn't figure out how we were going to get by. That year, I learned to cook mac & cheese about 15 different ways, so between that and some very creative omelettes, we ate fairly well. Things were very tough, though. We were broke, but we survived. We had eachother. We had family.

Then about 10 years ago I owned a business which went under. That business burned through every dollar of DH & my savings, plus racked us up a considerable amount of debt. For the three years that it took for me to finally realize I needed to just pack it up, I was in this deep, dark pit. I cried every day. But it was in that pit that I found God. It was at that point in my life that I learned that He had me in His hand. Things might not always go the way I wanted, but He always knew where I was: I was always on His radar. And He used that experience to strengthen me. That strength pulled me through when my youngest son was born with Down syndrome two years ago. And recently while dealing with some health scares, I again realized that I have a peace and a hope that I don't know if I would have without having gone through those experiences.

I will be praying for you right now. I will pray that you will have peace, because you shouldn't have to be worrying about family finances. "Casting all your cares upon Him, for He cares for you." (1 Peter 5:7) I will pray that your parents will work it out as adults. And I will pray that you will have a beautiful Christmas, presents or no presents, that you will be overwhelmed with the love and joy of the Christmas season. Don't worry, Cassidy. It will all be okay!