Non-Smokers Would You Date A Smoker

[momof2inPA]

Dating a smoker would not be a problem. Dating someone who is obese is another story ..

If those were the only choices-- THAT would be a problem.

 

[momof2inPA]

I also understand that some wonderful people are smokers and it's an extremely hard thing to kick. I don't think I would write somone out of my life that would treat me like a princess and love me forever with a grace not found much anymore because of something that he/she could eventually stop especially with love and encouragement.

I didn't say that some smokers weren't great people, but the yucky side effects of smoking would make it impossible for me to date/kiss/smell the breath of said great person. But I'm glad that you're happy.

 

[BabyPiglet]

I would date a smoker, it doesn't bother me much because my parents smoked.

I would also date an overweight person, btw. Maybe not someone who weighed 400 pounds, but a few extra pounds wouldn't bother me.

 

[daughter_of_amid_chaos]

My smoker is attempting to quit.

 

[Sleepy]

When I am out with friends for dinner or out watching the game, they have to leave the table to got outside to smoke. I am forever finding myself sitting by myself and it truly bothers me -- not that I'm sitting by myself but the rudeness of leaving me there.

I patiently sat or waited for my husband while he would have his much needed cigarette. I did it for 17 years. One day recently I got tired of sitting or standing alone for minutes at a time and decided this was running into MY time. Now when he goes to smoke, I head in my own direction. He is doing what he wants to do and now I am doing what I want to do. If he wants to find me he can come look for me or he can call me on my cell phone.

What I am noticing is fewer people are smoking. With the exception of one person, all of our close friends are non-smokers and when we have get-togethers he is usually the only person smoking, therefore, he is isolating himself for those cigarette breaks outside. In a way he is experiencing the alone time I have experienced all these years. The restaurant situation still bothers me though. He leaves the table before I am done eating. However, since he has emphysema with no intentions of quitting I will be having alot of alone time at the table in the near future. I look at this as practice.

 

[PatsGirl]

that is so sad

 

[Camicar]

Absolutely not. No exceptions. Non-negotiable.

And when I was in the dating pool, I did turn down dates with smokers with no regrets.

Not only is the total stench, bad teeth, and film of gunk they leave a total and complete turn off, so is watching a death from emphesyma (like my mother). Or better yet, watching a person slowly die for TEN YEARS (like my father) from emphesyma and THEN have the horrible death.

Why bother opening yourself up for heartache by dating a smoker? There is always another fish in the sea who's not blowing smoke and committing slow suicide.

I've already done my time in the prison of watching loved ones die from smoking. Will NOT do it again.

 

[wvjules]

Wow, smoker-hatred is alive and well.

 

[DVC Sadie]

I have always been a non smoker and I married a smoker. I knew he smoked when I started dating him. He does not somke inside the house or in the car with me around. He very seldom very smokes around me and actually now he hasn't smoked in 3 weeks. I'm so proud of him!

I also understand that some wonderful people are smokers and it's an extremely hard thing to kick. I don't think I would write somone out of my life that would treat me like a princess and love me forever with a grace not found much anymore because of something that he/she could eventually stop especially with love and encouragement.

Very well said!

I am so lucky to have a husband, friends and ILs who never have smoked but love me even though I do and have never been rude or mean to me for my shortcomings.

I am currently on Chantix and trying very hard to quit and hopefully will be smoke free around the New Year.

 

[DVC Sadie]

Wow, smoker-hatred is alive and well.

Not only alive and well, but appears to be a socially acceptable sport.

 

[sweetandsassyfl]

Very well said!

I am so lucky to have a husband, friends and ILs who never have smoked but love me even though I do and have never been rude or mean to me for my shortcomings.

I am currently on Chantix and trying very hard to quit and hopefully will be smoke free around the New Year.

Congratulations, Sadie.

 

[phillybeth]

Not only alive and well, but appears to be a socially acceptable sport.

Seriously. And if you're fat and you smoke, well, it's amazing those people manage to find anyone to love them

 

[taylor1293]

Well, I can't date because my husband wouldn't approve , but if I were dating, I would NEVER consider someone who smokes.

It has nothing to do with hating smokers or thinking less of them (my best friend smokes, my mom does, etc) it has to do with the fact that smokers smell awful. Their hair, their breath, their clothes, their car, and their homes.

A gazillion years ago when I was in high school, I went on one date with a guy who smoked. When he kissed me it was NASTY. Yuck! When he asked me to go out again, I said no (made up some excuse) but it was all because he smoked. It was hard to turn him down too, he was actually a nice guy who was HOT, lol, but I just couldn't take the smell.

 

[DVC Sadie]

Congratulations, Sadie.

Thank you very much. I just hope that this time I will be able to quit for good.

 

[DVC Sadie]

Seriously. And if you're fat and you smoke, well, it's amazing those people manage to find anyone to love them

If the disboard is any indication of the national feelings then I have to say that it would not only be amazing but downright unlikely.

 

[phillybeth]

If the disboard is any indication of the national feelings then I have to say that it would not only be amazing but downright unlikely.

I better let my guy know just how lucky he is then!

 

[Camicar]

Wow, smoker-hatred is alive and well

Let's be clear -- I don't think ANYONE here is stating that they hate smokers. But why is it wrong to find bad breath, stinky clothes and hair and watching someone die a PREVENTABLE hideous death a turn off?

I also wouldn't date someone who picks their nose and eats it either or spends time digging in their rectum for dingleberries. What's the difference between those behaviors and smoking? They are all disgusting habits IMO and if all that blows smoke up your skirt, great. It doesn't for me.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I haven't read all the posts, but I doubt anyone said that smokers are unloveable or anything. My SIL smoked until she got pregnant. I still loved her to death and never thought any less of her for it. I just couldn't DATE someone who smoked. Obviously my brother could (even though he doesn't smoke), so to each his own.

 

[smartestnumber5]

Let's be clear -- I don't think ANYONE here is stating that they hate smokers. But why is it wrong to find bad breath, stinky clothes and hair and watching someone die a PREVENTABLE hideous death a turn off?

I also wouldn't date someone who picks their nose and eats it either or spends time digging in their rectum for dingleberries. What's the difference between those behaviors and smoking? They are all disgusting habits IMO and if all that blows smoke up your skirt, great. It doesn't for me.

I don't find smoking disgusting at all. I do find it quite disgusting to compare smokers to people who pick poop out of their butt. So while I have no problem dating a smoker, I would certainly never date someone with the disgusting habit of being so nasty.

 

[jrmasm]

Smokers don't bother me but I would never date ugly people.