Non-Smokers Would You Date A Smoker

[Jennasis]

Not a snow-balls chance in hell. There is a saying...kissing a smoker is like licking an ashtray. My DH quit right before I first met him after his father died of a heart attack. He says he still misses it sometimes (and it's been over 10 years!).

 

[smartestnumber5]

GF was a smoker when we got together. It was a complete non-issue to me. The smell of smoke on clothes doesn't really bother me and GF never smoked inside of any homes/buildings (except bars once in awhile) so our apartment has never smelled of smoke.

She had wanted to quit and tried to do so a few times before we met but it never lasted more than a month or two. This time she quit for good (hopefully!)--it's been 7 months now w/out a problem.

ETA: I can't say I really understand the idea of not dating someone who smokes specifically because of their potential health risks. I mean, I eat way too much junk food and have a history of heart disease in my family and a very serious risk of breast cancer which I haven't been at all pro-active in talking to a doctor about. So I can't imagine having ever considered the health risks GF's smoking might have brought on as a reason not to date her. If I did, it seems she'd have just as much reason to dump me for the health risks I take/don't work against.

 

[ozarkmom]

Nope

 

[sassyat30]

Nope, I would never date a smoker. Luckily, DH is a non-smoker.

The smell alone is enough to make me gag.

 

[Jennasis]

PS...it has nothing to do with health issues for me. It's all about the hygiene. Bad breath, smelly clothes/hair, yellow teeth...SEXY!

 

[goofygirl]

It's a dealbreaker. It's such a turnoff to me. He could be the hottest looking guy, but if he lights up, I'm totally turned off.

 

[taylorl25]

DH was a smoker when we met, but was always respectful by smoking outside and brushing his teeth straight afterwards (he wasn't a chain smoker.) The smell wasn't a huge deal to me, but I had watched both my grandparents die from smoke related illnesses so was always dead set against smoking. He quit before we got married, and although he's had the occaisional relapse, he always good about keeping it to a minimum.

 

[phillybeth]

I'm a non-smoker in love with a smoker, so no, it's not a dealbreaker and it doesn't bother me. He says he's going to quit in the new year, and he has all my love and support if he does- and all my love and support if he doesn't.

I would never insist someone quit smoking for the privilege of dating me- how presumptous, controlling, and rude to insist that someone else change their behavior just for me! If it were that big of a deal breaker, it never would have gotten to the point of dating.

 

[dturner]

Yes, I would date/marry a smoker as I already have.

Smoke doesn't bother me at all - my father smoked while I was growing up and that smoke didn't bother me either.

DH goes outside to smoke anyway but it still doesn't bother me.

 

[MushyMushy]

Probably not. I'm a former smoker and being around someone who smokes would get me started right back where I left off. However, if someone I was with started back up AFTER we started dating, I wouldn't break it off. I'd just deal with it.

 

[Imzadi]

I lost my father only seven months ago to lung cancer from smoking. So YES, it is a deal-breaker for me. I wouldn't even go out with someone who used to smoke & had quit. Smoking is a horrible addiction. Some extremely stressful incident may set it off again, & I'd be stuck with a smoker once again. NOT!

I already lived through the years of watching this addiction slowly kill my dad. When he was diagnosed with emphysema, I waited for many years, for that horrible phone call in the night, telling me he was dead or in the hospital. I lived through the episodes of a hacking cough so horrible it was gut-wrenching to hear let alone go through. I lived through the times he got walking pneumonia in the winter because his lungs couldn't get rid of fluid.

When that call finally came, he was in the hospital for weeks, while the doctors & we finally waited for his lungs & functions to fail.

It is a horrible experience to live through even ONCE. No way, will I ever put myself through that again.

 

[theycallmered]

I would never date a smoker (but I do not have to worry about it since I am married).

On the flip side of this argument I have a friend that will only date smokers. She says that smoking is something that she enjoys and does not want her significant other to always be pressuring her (however slight or forceful) to get her to quit.

 

[rascalmom]

No, I wouldn't date anyone who smokes. Besides the fact that my dh would probably object , I find the smell totally offensive.

Heck, I don't even let my dd offer her friend rides anymore. She's a sweet girl, but both of her parents smoke like chimneys. Poor girl always smells like an ashtray. The minute she gets in my car, I feel my sinuses start to close off. DD can't spend the night at her house either - she ends up sick each time.

To me, it's almost the same as asking if I could be attracted to someone with horribly offensive body odor. I know I have a sensitive nose, but smoke is just about the worst for me.

I had an aunt who smoked - I watched her die in her mid-50's of emphysema. It was a horrible death and I see how much my cousin misses her mom. Very sad.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

Yes, my DF is a smoker, he says he's going to quit though.

 

[sweetandsassyfl]

My DBF has no plans to quit....I do wonder if the fact that it doesn't bother me has to do with the fact that my dad smokes way more than DBF does (DBF might smoke three cigarettes a night....my dad is a pack a day smoker.) The health issues are the only thing that even slightly bothers me.....he's already 17 years older than me and I don't want to think about losing him too early.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

DH and I were both smokers.

Then I quit 5 yrs ago and he quit coming up on 2 yrs ago.

As long as the person smokes outside, it is not a deal breaker for me.

 

[Pigeon]

Blech, no. I don't like being in proximity to smokers, let alone kissing them!

 

[What the Heck]

I used to smoke (quit in 2000), still not bothered by smoke. I'd even carry a lighter to light her cigarettes.

 

[ImagineerM]

I dated a girl who started smoking while we were dating. that really turned me off....once she cheated on me and moved on I decided I'd never date a smoker again...

I'm allergic to some of the chemicals in the smoke, makes me

Not to mention i lost 2 of my grandparents to the stuff.

Cheers,
Josh

 

[sweetandsassyfl]

I was pretty sure that there would be more people saying no than yes.....but I'm surprised it's as lop-sided as it is.