No tree this year

[TinkerPixie]

I have decided not to bother with a tree this year, it is too soon after my Mom's passing. I just cant make myself feel any joy. DH says that's fine, but I still feel guilty about spoiling his christmas.
These days, I just feel guilty about everything....

Maybe I'll go buy a couple of red poinsettias for the living room, they were my Moms favorites.

 

[kejoda]

{{{HUGS}}} Susan. I've been where you are. Don't feel guilty. Its hard for me to express what I want to say too many thoughts are going through my mind.

 

[olena]

*HUGS*

 

[Pin Wizard]

((((((((((((Susan)))))))))))

Do what's right for you! I'll pass on another piece of information...forget the word guilty! When my DH died 10 years ago now , it was in November. I certainly wasn't in a Christmas mood that year. But my boss and coworkers gave me a table top sized tree. It worked out okay, but I wasn't really into it. Do what's right for you!

 

[Pooh93]

{{HUGS}} for you as the holidays rapidly approach. I agree with the others...do what feels right.

 

[believe]

I would also do what feels right for you. If it is important to your DH then he can put the tree up.

 

[AirForceRocks]

I agree with the others - do what is right for YOU!

My grandfather (he and my grandmother raised me, so they were really my "parents") passed away on Dec 12 a few years back, and I was really in no mood for a tree. My aunt and uncle decided they would do one anyway, go through the motions, etc.

It was horrid. You just can't force what isn't there, so there is no reason to try.

 

[JasonLyons]

hey

 

[Poohbear123]

Thats how I feel this year, as both my kids are grown and OUT of the house. I am both sad and happy at the same time. So, I plugged in the fiber optic 24 inch tree. No cutting, no sawing and NO SAP!

 

[tkyes]

{{{{hugs}}}}

 

[browneyes]

Don't feel guilty. {{hugs}}

How about buying a real Christmas tree, digging it up by the roots, and transplanting it to your yard in honor of your mom?

 

[Tony-NJ]

{{{{HUGS}}}}
When my Dad passed away it was just MOM and me at home at that time, MOM wanted a tree because she new that Dad would have loved it. The year after my MOM passed away - I did the same, I put up a tree, it was hard but brought back so many good memories too. But you have to do whats right for you.

 

[antnee]

Sorry to hear about your moms passing. You have to do whats right for you. After my grandfather(moms dad) passed back in 82 we didnt put up a tree. But my dad reminds me that his mom died a month before I was born and his father made him put up a tree for my first Christmas. I think the pointsettas would be a good idea

 

[Cindy B]

Well, sometimes thats for the best. The poinsettia will be really nice this year..

 

[phins_jazy]

((((((((hugs))))))))))

 

[TinkerPixie]

Thanks guys......

I really appreciate the support! I think I will get the poinsettias, and maybe we'll try browneyes idea of planting a real tree.

I like that idea, my Mom would have liked that, she would have strung the tree full of popcorn for the birds!!!!!

 

[Disney Doll]

You have to do what feels right for you. My DH's mother died last year on December 9th, but we put up a tree because we were afraid she'd come back and haunt us if we didn't ! She was one of those "life must go on" types, and it would have made her mad to not have a tree.

 

[browneyes]

Need help stringing that popcorn?