No sex please - we're daddy's little girls

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From http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/2007032...sexchastity;_ylt=Aucn4QHKRilaGzy3UsjdGWwDW7oF

Yahoo! News said:
No Sex Please, We're Daddy's Little Girls
by Jocelyne Zablit
Thu Mar 22, 4:21 AM ET


WASHINGTON (AFP) - It has all the ingredients of a wedding. The proud tuxedo-clad father, the frosted white cake, the limousines and an exchange of vows.

But there is no groom and the girl in the long gown is no bride. She's daddy's little girl, there to take a vow of chastity.

In what is becoming a trend among conservative Christians in the United States, girls as young as nine are pledging to their fathers to remain virgins until they wed, in elaborate ceremonies dubbed "Purity Balls."

The gala affairs are intended to celebrate the father-daughter relationship.

The highlight is when the fathers and daughters exchange vows, with dad signing a covenant to protect his daughter's chastity by living an unblemished life and the daughter promising not to have sex until marriage.

Many fathers at the ceremonies also slip "purity rings" around the finger of their misty-eyed daughters or offer them "chastity bracelets" and other jewelry that the girls can entrust to their husbands on their wedding night.

"The father makes a pledge that he is going to keep his mind pure and be faithful to her mother and there is also a time when there is a conversation about putting the right kinds of things in your mind, such as the father not using pornography," Leslee Unruh, founder of Abstinence Clearinghouse, a leader in the so-called purity movement, told AFP in describing the balls.

She said some 1,400 Purity Balls were held across the United States in 2006, mainly in the south and midwest, and double that number were expected to take place this year.

Mike Parcha, who recently attended one of these balls with his 11-year-old daughter Lora in the western state of Colorado, said the events reinforce his family's Christian beliefs.

"We realize that purity is a lifestyle, not an event, and this is just a celebration of that lifestyle and of that relationship that I have with my daughters," he said. "The ball is a culmination of the relationship we have with God and with each other."

He said his three daughters have looked forward to attending the balls and have no qualms about pledging to remain virgins until marriage.

"They are just all for it, they think it's the greatest thing," said Parcha, 43, who is a college math teacher. "We raise our children as Christians, we share the same beliefs .... and we're on the same page.

"It's not like there is a tug of war of any kind going on."

His two older daughters, aged 11 and 18, have attended the balls while the youngest, aged 4, must wait a few years. The three girls, along with their three brothers, are all home schooled. Parcha's oldest daughter Christy, who recently graduated from high school, is now working on a fictional book about "the emotional purity of a young girl as she grows up."

The first Purity Ball in the United States was organized in 1998 by Generations of Light, a popular Christian ministry based in Colorado Springs, Colorado.

Randy Wilson, who runs the ministry with his wife, said the idea was to create an event that celebrates the bonds between father and daughter.

"We saw that in our culture there wasn't a place for the father to work for a good relationship with his daughter," Wilson told AFP. "So this (relationship) allows the daughter to become a stronger person in her culture as she is bombarded with all the sexual images that are out there."

Wilson, who has five daughters, said the balls have become so popular over the years that there is now a waiting list for those wishing to attend.

Enquiries are also pouring in from aboard with organizations or churches in New Zealand, Britain and other countries asking for guidance on how to organize such gatherings.

The popularity of the balls in the United States, especially among evangelical Christians, mirrors the Bush administration's support of abstinence education in US schools. The government's funding for such initiatives has more than doubled in recent years to 206 million dollars (150 million euros).

But critics say that while teaching abstinence to children may be laudable, it is just as essential to make them aware of sexually transmitted diseases and condom use.

They also point to studies showing that the majority of adolescents who take purity pledges break them within a few years, often by engaging in risky and unprotected sex.

One study conducted by researchers at the universities of Columbia and Yale found that 88 percent of pledgers wind up having sex before marriage.

"Unfortunately these young people tend, once they start to have sex, to have more partners in a shorter period of time and to use contraception much less than their non-pledging peers," said Debra Hauser, executive vice president at Advocates for Youth, a Washington-based non-profit organization.

"Teens may pledge with the best of intention... and then as they break their pledges they are so shamed and embarrassed that it's unlikely they will go for help."


How come only little girls have to be 'pure' and only daddy's have to remain 'faithful'?:confused3
 
In addition to agreeing with that question,
IMO this is about as ridiculous as the 'Promise Keepers'. If you stick to your personal belief, you shouldn't need something like this to enforce it.
 
Do you watch Bill Maher? I know he and his panel discussed this.

Certainly it is not my cup of tea.
Frankly I do not subscribe to the no sex before marriage "thing".
I do not think it is a sin. So right there I am not in agreement.

As far as the daughter/father issue they are full of it. My DH is very close to his 2 dd's.
And that is the key.

The father is either close to his dd's watching out for them or he isn't. Doesn't matter what "ceremonies" and "pledges" you made.:sad2:

And that is the bottom line.
 

That is the creepiest thing I've read ever. Ick, ick, ick. :crazy2:

Reminds me of that creepy father of Jessica Simpson. Way way too involved in his adult daughter's sex life (or lack thereof), imo. :crazy2:
 
The father is either close to his dd's watching out for them or he isn't. Doesn't matter what "ceremonies" and "pledges" you made.:sad2:

And that is the bottom line.

What gets me is all of this "patting yourself on the back" for doing things you should already be doing (Not speaking specifically towards the sex before marriage thing, even though that is already these particular people's personal belief, but more about the role as a father,husband, etc.).
 
That is crazy. Who knows at 9 what they will be doing 10 years later and who would take that seriously. I've heard of virgin rings, but this is taking it way to far.
 
You'd think that it would be far more important to have mothers and fathers spending time with their sons cementing the bonds of a "No violence" pledge.
 
That is one of the creepiest most disturbing things I have ever heard of. ICK!
 
From the bottom of the OP:

But critics say that while teaching abstinence to children may be laudable, it is just as essential to make them aware of sexually transmitted diseases and condom use.

They also point to studies showing that the majority of adolescents who take purity pledges break them within a few years, often by engaging in risky and unprotected sex.

One study conducted by researchers at the universities of Columbia and Yale found that 88 percent of pledgers wind up having sex before marriage.

"Unfortunately these young people tend, once they start to have sex, to have more partners in a shorter period of time and to use contraception much less than their non-pledging peers," said Debra Hauser, executive vice president at Advocates for Youth, a Washington-based non-profit organization.

"Teens may pledge with the best of intention... and then as they break their pledges they are so shamed and embarrassed that it's unlikely they will go for help."


Irony often exists when something ends up with the totally opposite result of it's original intent.

While the intent here on the part of the parents is sincere, I can't help but think that like many of their practices, they end up doing far more harm than good.

By the way, aren't evangelicals one of the segments of the population most opposed to teaching sex education in schools? Hmmm........there's that irony thing again.....
 
I am curious. We are talking about teenagers, right? Any parents want to tell the rest of us what happens when you tell most teenagers "absolutely no never!!!!!":rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2:


There is comparatively little data to suggest the validity of abstinence only education. Some of the more positive data doesn't allow for the increase in "technical virginity" which may not lead to pegancy, but certainly can lead to seious diseases. :confused:
 
Creepy. And kinda manipulative, if you ask me. I mean these girls are nine, they love their dads, of course they'll promise.

If my dad had made me promise this at nine, I would have been pretty resentful at 24 or 25. A child's sex life is, of course, the business of their parents'. But after 18, it is no longer their concern.

I'm all for closeness between fathers and daughters, but my dad took me to the movies and out on hiking trips to get closer to me. Sheesh.
 
The whole idea of celebrating a 9-year-old's purity just creeps me out. Those little girls don't have any sexual urges -- they probably think sex sounds gross and can't imagine ever doing it. So having a party and getting to dress up sounds like fun. The dads, on the other hand, have a few screws missing.
 
Ewww. :eek:

That's just beyond strange. :eek:

I just can't believe any adult male would think that was a great idea. :eek:
 












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