No dancing at reception

[dopey1]

I was hoping someone might be able to help me. my df doesn't dance so we don't want to have dancing at the reception but I also don't want to have a boring reception. I was thinking about just having a short reception to eat dinner then everybody go back to their rooms then meet at PI at 8 or 9pm so we can party there. I wanted to see if anyone had an other suggestions. :confused2 :confused2 :confused2

 

[Darian-Dawn]

I have never really seen a reception without dancing, or should I say without music. No one really danced at my first wedding. It was very formal with lots of my mom's uppety friends and family. Imagine their shock when the D.J. played that song by Afro Man, because I got high. I thought people were going to faint!!

If you don't want dancing, I would suggest maybe having a piano, organ, or violin being played while you have cocktail hour, hor'de' doures then dinner.

All in all, you could still manage to have an elegant reception for about 3 hours.

Let us know what you decide. Congrats!!!! When is your wedding??

 

[dopey1]

We are going to have a violinst and then we will have cds to play but we just will not have a dance floor. My DF LOVES music so we could not skip music entirely just will not dance. I just don't want people to get bored so I was trying to think of something to keep them entertained. There aren't going to be that many people maybe 25 guests so I guess everyone will just be able to mingle. My wedding is on April 28, 2005 at the AKL. We are still debating on the location of the reception. Probably at the boardwalk or yacht club. Thanks you for response.

 

[Merandab4]

How about having dinner as you suggested, and then showing a slide show of the two of you. This could be photos of your younger years up until the two of you met. (I've always wanted to do this)
I'm sure you could rent a video projector from one of the resorts. I'm sure this will keep your guests entertained and it will be something that they will remember!

 

[Darian-Dawn]

Originally posted by Merandab4
How about having dinner as you suggested, and then showing a slide show of the two of you. This could be photos of your younger years up until the two of you met.

I love that idea, if the venue is set up for it that would be lovely. Or you could have karaoke for an hour after dinner. That will keep everyone entertained. I could just see old the seniors getting up and singing jeremiah was a bullfrog.LOL!

 

[annette_tr9]

i am worried that nobody will dance at my reception so we are having a piano just to add background music.
i hope he doesn't get offended if nobody gets up to dance!

 

[Darian-Dawn]

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i hope he doesn't get offended if nobody gets up to dance!


Hi Annette, did the two of you talk about whether or not you wanted this or not.?? I am confused as to whether you want dancing and you are afraid no one will or you just don't want dancing. If you are playing the piano and you have a dance floor most likely someone will dance. If you don't have a dance floor like in dopey's case then there will be no mis-understandings.

 

[annette_tr9]

we don't mind people dancing but in our experience the people that are coming over to florida with us for the wedding don't dance at any reception. I didn't want to have it completly silent (except for people talking!) so we are having a piano playing.

I believe there is a small dance floor but the tables for our meal will be all over it!!

 

[Darian-Dawn]

Ok I get ya!! I have seen many weddings that are very elegant this way. In not having an open dance floor you pretty much eliminate the possibility of some drunk getting up and doing the super worm.LOL I think your wedding will be just wonderful so don't stress. Good luck to you

 

[dopey1]

The piano sounds like a nice idea and I think is mainly used for background music. In my experience people don't dance to piano music unless they know the formal dance. The piano player probably will not mind. He is just getting paid to play not to get people up and dancing like a dj.

Thank you for the ideas. I might do the slideshow if I can work it out and get my df to agree. He will probably not want to do it because he says that nobody wants to sit and look at pics of us. I keep telling him that it's our day and they came to our wedding to see us get married. But I love the idea. I am also doing a scrapbook to put out as well of some out our trip together.
Thanks again for responding

 

[annette_tr9]

scrapbook, that's a great idea, mind if i "borrow" that idea!!!!

 

[dopey1]

not at all. Just a warning it takes a long time to do if you are just starting but the final product is worth it. It's really fun to do because you remember some good times!!

 

[phorsenuf]

Originally posted by annette_tr9
i am worried that nobody will dance at my reception so we are having a piano just to add background music.
i hope he doesn't get offended if nobody gets up to dance!

If your worried about the piano player being offended, just tell him up front that the piano is for ambiance and not to dance too. I'm sure he'll understand.

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

Originally posted by dopey1
I was hoping someone might be able to help me. my df doesn't dance so we don't want to have dancing at the reception but I also don't want to have a boring reception. I was thinking about just having a short reception to eat dinner then everybody go back to their rooms then meet at PI at 8 or 9pm so we can party there. I wanted to see if anyone had an other suggestions. :confused2 :confused2 :confused2

I DID THIS AT OUR WEDDING and the people had so much fun the time FLEW by! We were told ours was one of the best weddings people have been to. So much so our friends who got married a year later did the same thing.

Both Dh and I are not dancers at all and being an event (parties wedding etc) photographer I have heard countless guests complain that they could not her themselves think at a typical wedding because the music was too loud. There was no way I was going to have the ritualistic wedding where the people where told when to sit eat dance watch me dance OMG it was so not us.

Since we did not get married in Disney my dream but for health of family memebers we did it at a local place. Anyway being from Long Island Ny weddings here are psycho expensive but that means the places are becautiful just like the wedding pavilion. So we had classical music piped into the room (you have to find out if Disney has ceiling speakers and we had a formal dinner party type reception. People who haven't seen each other in a long time could just enjoy themselves and spend time with their families and friends without being intterrupted by a silly dance or scream over music.

I was worried about it being boring also but it was BEAUTIFUL. People were actually shocked when it was over because 5 hours seemed to go so quickly. We were thanked by our guests for making it so nice and actually thanked for not having music! I am telling you our wedding could not have went better. We did have the cake cutting though and that was just because I wanted it in my wedding album.

PM me if you want more details. Our friends who did it the same way also had their families raving about the fact there was no music. I guess people are sick of going to the same cookie cutter weddings No offense to you dancers out there.

 

[marn913]

Just like the last post - our reception FLEW by too!!! We brought a small CD player and a great Frank Sinatra CD and our coordinator placed it near a microphone at the living Seas during our reception (so there was background music). We also had a caricture artist to draw sketches for our guests to take home. We had about 35 guests, and everyone thought it was the best wedding/reception they'd ever been to (us included!) We were able to enjoy the meal and the cake and everyone just sat around and had great conversation and they had to practically drag us out when our time was up! Don't worry about it not being the "norm" - I don't think most people at our reception really even noticed or commented on the fact that there was no dancing! Good luck planning!

Marne
06-16-03
WP/LS

 

[grover]

No dancing for us either!
I can't afford to hire someone to do music and with such a small group we aren't going to worry about dancing. I will try to have some background music..I to am hoping that everyone will want to head over to PI afterwards!
Will you wear your wedding dress over there? I was thinking of changing into some sort of a smart little outfit..
Vanessa

 

[dopey1]

Hair/makeup ~9
Pictures ~11:30
Ceremony 1pm
Possible more pictures
Reception 1:30-4:30
Then everyone is going back to hotel rooms
Meet back at PI at ~9

I did this so people can change clothes and take a nap if they need to. Also so my DF and me can have alone time before we drink too much!!