DH's sisters daughter is getting married on the 13th and the closer we get to the date, we are finding out more information about my SIL that is just making it very hard to not rip her a new one. I am venting here, sorry so long. Can't vent at home because DH is ticked at his sister and every time we talk, he gets more upset when he hears it from a womans/moms point of view.
Long before our niece and stb nephew were engaged, we have had issues with SIL and her midlife crisis. She walked out on her family 3 years ago and moved in with a guy the same age as the groom. She stated that if her 20 year old could date a 25 year old, she should be able to too. Umm, no your MARRIED. She and BIL divorced a year later. She and the kid she left her family for are still together.
Forward to May of this year. Our niece and stb nephew are well into the planning stages of the wedding. All of a sudden, mom is going to move to Charlotte NC, because they can't afford to live here. Ok whatever and they move in July. Now here are the issues that we are just now finding out about.
#1 - SIL told the kids she would give them XX amount of money back at the first of the year, when they started planning. So after SIL moves, my niece is trying to get ahold of her mom to find out when she is going to get the money to them, as they need to pay some of the expenses. For 2 months, SIL avoided her daughter and once she got her mom on the phone, SIL tells her that its costing them more than what they had thought it would and she doesn't have any extra cash right now. So, now they are short on the budget.
#2 - When my niece picked out her dress, way back in April, she did not go with "THE DRESS". Why - because SIL was helping to pay for it and she agreed with the kid she lives with that $1000 was to excessive for a dress. And that if the bride picked out that expensive of a dress, she wouldn't be able to help with the cost. So my niece went with a 2nd choice and well, at her last fitting, she was in tears that she just should have gotten the dress she wanted, seeing as mom hasn't gotten her any of the promised money.
#3 - And this is the one we just found out about yesterday. Wedding rehearsal is on Friday @ 5:30. When my niece last talked to her mom, which was around the 1st of Sept, they were going to fly into FTW on Thursday. Then a week later, not flying they are going to drive and they will get in late Wed night/ very early Thursday morning. Well over the weekend, my niece got a vmail msg from her mom that they will be leaving Charlotte at 5 a.m. FRIDAY morning, not earlier as planned. This is a 600 mile, 9 hr 45 mintue drive and this does not account for any food, gas or restroom breaks. They will get in, if they have ZERO issues on the road, with just enough time to check into the motel, change clothes and get to the church. My SIL was to help set up the receiption hall on Friday morning, so now she isn't going to be there. The reason for the change, the kid doesn't think they can afford not to work Wed and Thursday. My response to that one is LEAVE THE BUMS BUTT IN CHARLOTTE AND COME BE WITH YOUR DAUGHTER FOR HER WEDDING.
Right now I am so ready to cry for my niece. I had already planned to be off work on Friday, so it looks like I planned that well. DH and I told her we would be there to help them set up the receiption hall.
We have tried to help our niece out as much as we can, but I still couldn't imagine not have mom around to help. For as much as my mom and I fight, I still wouldn't have had to plan my wedding without her.
Sorry so long, but I needed to vent and get it off my chest.
Long before our niece and stb nephew were engaged, we have had issues with SIL and her midlife crisis. She walked out on her family 3 years ago and moved in with a guy the same age as the groom. She stated that if her 20 year old could date a 25 year old, she should be able to too. Umm, no your MARRIED. She and BIL divorced a year later. She and the kid she left her family for are still together.
Forward to May of this year. Our niece and stb nephew are well into the planning stages of the wedding. All of a sudden, mom is going to move to Charlotte NC, because they can't afford to live here. Ok whatever and they move in July. Now here are the issues that we are just now finding out about.
#1 - SIL told the kids she would give them XX amount of money back at the first of the year, when they started planning. So after SIL moves, my niece is trying to get ahold of her mom to find out when she is going to get the money to them, as they need to pay some of the expenses. For 2 months, SIL avoided her daughter and once she got her mom on the phone, SIL tells her that its costing them more than what they had thought it would and she doesn't have any extra cash right now. So, now they are short on the budget.
#2 - When my niece picked out her dress, way back in April, she did not go with "THE DRESS". Why - because SIL was helping to pay for it and she agreed with the kid she lives with that $1000 was to excessive for a dress. And that if the bride picked out that expensive of a dress, she wouldn't be able to help with the cost. So my niece went with a 2nd choice and well, at her last fitting, she was in tears that she just should have gotten the dress she wanted, seeing as mom hasn't gotten her any of the promised money.
#3 - And this is the one we just found out about yesterday. Wedding rehearsal is on Friday @ 5:30. When my niece last talked to her mom, which was around the 1st of Sept, they were going to fly into FTW on Thursday. Then a week later, not flying they are going to drive and they will get in late Wed night/ very early Thursday morning. Well over the weekend, my niece got a vmail msg from her mom that they will be leaving Charlotte at 5 a.m. FRIDAY morning, not earlier as planned. This is a 600 mile, 9 hr 45 mintue drive and this does not account for any food, gas or restroom breaks. They will get in, if they have ZERO issues on the road, with just enough time to check into the motel, change clothes and get to the church. My SIL was to help set up the receiption hall on Friday morning, so now she isn't going to be there. The reason for the change, the kid doesn't think they can afford not to work Wed and Thursday. My response to that one is LEAVE THE BUMS BUTT IN CHARLOTTE AND COME BE WITH YOUR DAUGHTER FOR HER WEDDING.
Right now I am so ready to cry for my niece. I had already planned to be off work on Friday, so it looks like I planned that well. DH and I told her we would be there to help them set up the receiption hall.
We have tried to help our niece out as much as we can, but I still couldn't imagine not have mom around to help. For as much as my mom and I fight, I still wouldn't have had to plan my wedding without her.
Sorry so long, but I needed to vent and get it off my chest.
to you and your DH and especially your niece. 
