Nichole's Wishes PJ 10/24/2011 ~ WP/ADH/SCP ** OUR WEDDING DAY ~ The Reception

[princesswendy720]

I'd ask the instigator/trouble maker to step down. Seems like she is trying to create drama and turn others against you. So third grade! And to do that on your birthday?! Completely inappropriate!

 

[lilsqueakrr]

I'm so sorry you have to deal with that.. hugs all around.

Honestly, I completely agree with Dustin. I would just send out a general email or text or something to ALL of the bridesmaids and just say that she has heard and gotten the vibe that everyone is really stressed out and not sure that they can handle all of the wedding you completely understand if they want to drop out, but they knew to begin with that weddings are not easy. The role of a bridesmaid is to help out the bride with whatever stupid little stuff there is to do,they have no right to call you a bridezilla, which you completely aren't! Tell them to watch the show one night and if they want a REAL bridezilla you'd be more than happy to oblige. =]
I would even throw in something how when you had asked them, you asked them because they were someone you felt you could rely and count on when times are crazy, not so that you can get b**ched at for stupid mediocre stuff.

Matching shoes and dresses are really not that big of a deal. How much are their flowers going to cost you? How much is larger transportation costing you so that you can get them there with you instead of having to fend for themselves? How much is rehearsal dinner costing you? How much is their bridal party gift costing you? AND WHO KNOWS WHAT ELSE. I'd say that they got the easy end...

Bah.. girls always get me all riled up! lol. Sorry!

 

[lilsqueakrr]

I'd ask the instigator/trouble maker to step down. Seems like she is trying to create drama and turn others against you. So third grade! And to do that on your birthday?! Completely inappropriate!

Totally 2nd this!

 

[Nichole33]

Honestly? If it "doesn't matter to her at this point," I DEFINITELY think you should tell her not to come. Really. She is being completely unreasonable and unfair to YOU. Remember, that this is your day--- well, yours and DF's day--- and you should only have people who are positive influences be there for it! You don't need people like her in your life, and I think your other friends should understand this.

Keep us posted on how it goes!

Honestly...is having a couple bridesmaids worth all of this?

Friends don't treat each other like this.

I'd release all of them from being in the wedding...and even from attending if they don't wish to come.

You are the Bride and the day revolves around you and your future husband....not them.

I went through some of the same and decided early on not to put up with any outside drama. Once a line was crossed...I released them from participation and moved on.

Don't worry about hurting any feelings by letting them go...they don't seem so concerned about yours.

Good luck.

Can you dump all of them? I mean, if they are going to do something like that, why bother having them there? They are supposed to alleviate your stress, not cause you more.

I would ditch all three of them for cornering you. It's not selfish to want the wedding of your dreams. Imagine how they would react if the situation reversed.

I'm sending you lots of pixie dust that they at least start acting like the friends you thought they were. Keep us posted. Good luck!

I'd ask the instigator/trouble maker to step down. Seems like she is trying to create drama and turn others against you. So third grade! And to do that on your birthday?! Completely inappropriate!

I'm so sorry you have to deal with that.. hugs all around.

Honestly, I completely agree with DF. I would just send out a general email or text or something to ALL of the bridesmaids and just say that she has heard and gotten the vibe that everyone is really stressed out and not sure that they can handle all of the wedding you completely understand if they want to drop out, but they knew to begin with that weddings are not easy. The role of a bridesmaid is to help out the bride with whatever stupid little stuff there is to do,they have no right to call you a bridezilla, which you completely aren't! Tell them to watch the show one night and if they want a REAL bridezilla you'd be more than happy to oblige. =]
I would even throw in something how when you had asked them, you asked them because they were someone you felt you could rely and count on when times are crazy, not so that you can get b**ched at for stupid mediocre stuff.

Matching shoes and dresses are really not that big of a deal. How much are their flowers going to cost you? How much is larger transportation costing you so that you can get them there with you instead of having to fend for themselves? How much is rehearsal dinner costing you? How much is their bridal party gift costing you? AND WHO KNOWS WHAT ELSE. I'd say that they got the easy end...

Bah.. girls always get me all riled up! lol. Sorry!

Totally 2nd this!

Thank you so much for all your advice! I have always hated dealing with groups of girls and this is exactly why -- it is always drama!!!

On a good note, my MOH and I went to dinner and talked through everything. In fact we had my first dress fitting yesterday!

 

[DisneyShamrock]

On a good note, my MOH and I went to dinner and talked through everything. What the one BM said to her was complete sh** and we are 100% okay now. In fact we had my first dress fitting yesterday!

I'm glad your MOH is with you. As long as you have her, the other chicky can suck it. I hope it all works out for you and your misbehaving maid will shut it.

 

[Nichole33]

I had my first dress fitting last night and I am so excited! My dress fits without any alterations except a little at the hem line!

I decided on the American bustle.

Here is a pic of me and my MOH.

With all the budgeted money I saved on alterations I got to get my veil!! I don't have a pic, but it is fingertip length with a thin silver boarder and a few scattered rhinestones.

They were filming Say Yes to the Dress Bridesmaids while I was having my fitting. It is a little crazy how much prep goes into that show. Those girls had to film the same stuff multiple times until they got the emotion or reaction they wanted. I had thought about signing up for the show, but now I am glad I didn't. It might be a nice experience, but the show turns your reactions into the story line it is trying to create.

 

[DisneyShamrock]

Nichole, your dress is beautiful! You look gorgeous!

 

[DisneyBrittany]

Your dress is absolutely GORGEOUS and looks FANTASTIC on you!!!!!!! Your hair looks beautiful in those pictures too by the way

 

[AmberHeartsDisney]

I hate to sound rude but this is why I am not having a wedding party. I just dont want drama haha

 

[lilsqueakrr]

That dress is gorgeous!! Love it!

So sorry to hear about the drama though, I'd just kick her out now if I were you! Obnoxious. =[

 

[lilsqueakrr]

That dress is gorgeous!! Love it!

So sorry to hear about the drama though, I'd just kick her out now if I were you! Obnoxious. =[

 

[tinkerbell 766]

Nichole sweetie - Glad you have figured out what to do about all the drama!!! I think you look absolutely stunning in that dress!!

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

Your dress is gorgeous!!!! You look amazing.

I am also really glad to hear you figured out what to do about the drama--- and I definitely think you made the right decision. (And I hope she backs out too, just saying!)

 

[elleinad16]

You look amazing!!! That dress is wonderful on you!

 

[Nichole33]

I'm glad your MOH is with you. As long as you have her, the other chicky can suck it. I hope it all works out for you and your misbehaving maid will shut it.

Thanks! I feel so much better now that my MOH and I are on the same page!

Nichole, your dress is beautiful! You look gorgeous!

Thank you!!

Your dress is absolutely GORGEOUS and looks FANTASTIC on you!!!!!!! Your hair looks beautiful in those pictures too by the way

Thanks!! I think I am going to wear my hair half up and half down with some curls -- something similar to the pics, but with a little pulled up in the back.

I hate to sound rude but this is why I am not having a wedding party. I just dont want drama haha

I completely understand and I in no way enjoy drama either, but I still have some wonderful friends that are so supportive. If I could do it all over again, I would probably do it a little different, but I think I would still want to have a wedding party. I guess it would be a wedding if there wasn't a little drama involved

That dress is gorgeous!! Love it!

So sorry to hear about the drama though, I'd just kick her out now if I were you! Obnoxious. =[

Thanks so much!! Hopefully it won't come to that, but I'm over it!

Nichole sweetie - Glad you have figured out what to do about all the drama!!! I think you look absolutely stunning in that dress!!

Thank you!! I am so happy with the dress

Your dress is gorgeous!!!! You look amazing.

I am also really glad to hear you figured out what to do about the drama--- and I definitely think you made the right decision. (And I hope she backs out too, just saying!)

Thanks so much!! A part of me is hoping the same thing

You look amazing!!! That dress is wonderful on you!

Thanks!! No I really feel like our wedding will be here in no time!

 

[Nichole33]

I have finally coordinated our wedding day timeline with our planner, photographer, videographer, the dress steamer and the hair/make-up people. I was surprised about how long it took to get that all together!

I still need to work with Randy to confirm some times for the rehearsal day, but our schedule is finally coming together! Now I can finalize some timelines for the welcome boxes and get some more stuff printed.

He is what our schedule looks like so far:

Wednesday, October 19th
7 AM Leave for Disney
1 PM Check in at Coronado Springs
2:30 PM Lunch at Les Chefs de France
7:30 PM Hopp-Dee-Doo Review
Remainder of evening to relax

Thursday, October 20th
8:05 AM Breakfast at Cinderella’s Table
Distribute welcome baskets and drop off boxes at Francks
1:30 PM Lunch at Teppan Edo
3:00 PM Parents and family start to arrive
Downtown Disney
6:45 PM Dinner at House of Blues
8:00 PM Mickey’s Not So Scary Halloween Party ???

Friday, October 21st
9 AM Breakfast at Coronado Springs
10 AM Boys pick up tuxes
2 PM High Tea at the GF
Dinner at Coronado Springs
8:30 PM Bus departs for Stag and Hen parties

Saturday, October 22nd
9 AM Breakfast at Coronado Springs
10 AM Depart for Epcot
Explore Epcot
11:30 AM Start Drinking Around the World
Dinner in Epcot
Illuminations Fireworks

Sunday, October 23rd
9 AM Breakfast at Coronado Springs
10:30 AM Hair/make-up trial
1 PM Hair/make-up done
Check out of Coronado Springs & check into Boardwalk Inn
Call Carolyn Allen’s with room number
Call Randy with room number
2:30 PM Depart for rehearsal
Group photos at Wedding Pavilion
4 PM Rehearsal at Wedding Pavilion
5 PM Rehearsal Dinner at ‘Ohana
8 PM Welcome Reception at Sago Cay Pointe
9:30 PM Fireworks

Monday, October 24th - Wedding Day
Breakfast at Coronado Springs/Boardwalk
9 AM Dress steaming – confirm time
10 AM Hair/Make-Up starts
12 Noon Lunch in room (pizzas for boys and sandwiches/finger veggies for girls)
1 PM Boys ready for photos/video
1:15 PM Stan (video) arrives at Coronado Springs
1:30 PM Photographer arrives at Coronado Springs to photograph boys
2:00 PM Randy (photographer) arrives at Boardwalk to photograph girls
Stan arrives at the Boardwalk
Hair and make-up complete
Girls’ floral delivered to Boardwalk
2:15 PM Girls photos around the Boardwalk
3 PM Boys depart to GF for photos
Randy leaves for GF
Boy’s floral delivered to GF
3:30 PM Girls depart to GF for photos
4 PM Bus departs Coronado Springs
4:15 PM Bus departs Boardwalk Inn
5 PM Ceremony starts
6 PM Cocktail hour starts
7 PM Reception starts

Tuesday, October 25th
Sleep In & Relax by the Pool – Goodbyes to family
8:45 PM Dinner at Victoria & Albert’s

Wednesday, October 26th
Day at Universal Studios & Parents fly home

Thursday, October 27th
6:30 AM Breakfast at Boardwalk Inn
Check out of Boardwalk Inn (have luggage transferred)
Check into Animal Kingdom Lodge
3:45 PM Wanyama Safari and Dinner

Friday, October 28th
8:05 AM Breakfast at Crystal Palace
Check out of Animal Kingdom Lodge & Drive Home

I still have a few more DIY projects to complete, but mostly I have admin-type stuff to work out before the wedding. We are finalizing the design for our Drinking Around the World t-shirts so I will hopefully be ordering them in the next day or so.

We have all of our RSVPs in, so I also have my BEO pretty much finalized. I still need to decide about Cindy's carriage though. We have decided to move to a new house after the wedding, so DF wants to put the money towards new furniture or the honeymoon. A part of me is still hanging on to it, but I am slowing starting to think it is not a necessity and it may not be worth it.

I have to say that Maxine has been so wonderful and helpful in this process. She has been so easy to work with and I really feel like she has gone to bat for us on a couple of different things. If you can't already tell I am incredibly OCD and don't do last minute. She has worked so well with me! I must have e-mailed her 15 times this week and she has responded promptly and thoroughly on each.

I also sent a request for the marriage license (I cannot believe we are almost 2 months away!!). They acknowledged my request, but I guess they don't send the actual application until you are within 60 days?

Well I was able to cross a couple things off my to-do list. Here is what I have left (until I think of something else that I have forgotten about):

1. Finish programs - I am waiting until late September for this one, just in case there are some BM changes
2. Finish menus - almost done with these!
3. Finish place card candles )
4. Order the materials for the rehearsal dinner invites - DONE
5. Order Drinking Around the World t-shirts - Done tomorrow (hopefully)
6. Finalize list of attendees for all events - DONE
7. Finish Passports for new guests
8. Print out labels for welcome boxes, wine bottles (DONE), Bear Necessities packs and suckers
9. Finish schedule of events brochure for welcome boxes - up next
10. Have all brochures printed for welcome boxes
11. Put together welcome boxes
12. Finalize schedule for hair - DONE
13. Get earrings for the girls
14. Get the girls to decide on shoes - I think I am avoiding this one!
15. Get marriage license - requested
16. Decide whether we are doing a girls' tea and order invites - I decided to leave this on the itinerary but not make invites to it. Instead, I am going to leave it open to whomever wants to come and have everyone pay for themselves

We are getting closer!!

 

[pinkmiss3]

Love all of your plans and your dress!!!!!

I was in the same boat as you are when it came to the carriage. We decided to drop it last week, and I don't miss it at all. Just think about how much it means to you and if its worth it to have. DF and I thought about it long and hard before we made a decision.

 

[*Pixiedust1438*]

Love all your plans! They sound like so much fun! It's great you have so much time in Disney before the wedding, that's one thing I regret from mine! I can't wait to see how it all comes together, you are getting so close! Exciting!

 

[qtsugarangl]

You look gorgeous in your dress!!
As for the drama, it seems she's the type that must have drama so no matter what you do more drama will come, IMHO I think your decision is best to hope that she backs out herself. She will probably create drama while doing it but others will realize it when she's the one backing out and everyone else is standing beside you supporting you because they care about you and are genuinely happy for you! It will work out though!
Love your time-line, I may have to borrow that!
Where are you getting your shirts done at? Is it somewhere local? I'm excited to see how everything looks and how the event goes!!!

 

[Nichole33]

Love all of your plans and your dress!!!!!

I was in the same boat as you are when it came to the carriage. We decided to drop it last week, and I don't miss it at all. Just think about how much it means to you and if its worth it to have. DF and I thought about it long and hard before we made a decision.

Thanks! AFter talking with our photographer about the possibility of having buses and cars in the carriage photos we have decided to drop it. We would still have the photos at the WP, but the money will probably be better applied elsewhere. I am a little sad, but our day will be beautiful and perfect with or without the carriage!

Love all your plans! They sound like so much fun! It's great you have so much time in Disney before the wedding, that's one thing I regret from mine! I can't wait to see how it all comes together, you are getting so close! Exciting!

Thanks! Most of our family is making this a vacation, so we wanted to give them lots of fun optional things to do while we are there. I am super excited about it!

You look gorgeous in your dress!!
As for the drama, it seems she's the type that must have drama so no matter what you do more drama will come, IMHO I think your decision is best to hope that she backs out herself. She will probably create drama while doing it but others will realize it when she's the one backing out and everyone else is standing beside you supporting you because they care about you and are genuinely happy for you! It will work out though!
Love your time-line, I may have to borrow that!
Where are you getting your shirts done at? Is it somewhere local? I'm excited to see how everything looks and how the event goes!!!

Thanks so much!! I am putting the drama out of my mind (as best as I can!) for now.

We are ordering the t-shirts from an online vendor (http://www.thet-shirtland.com/gildan_tshirt_special.htm). This is the best price I could find if we order 50 shirts. My brother is drawing a couple designs for the front and then we are ready to order! I will definitely post pics when they come in!!

We have almost hit the 2 month mark!!