Newest "Moms to Be" Thread

[harleyquinn]

hotveggy ... Welcome Allison Catherine ... born March 18. 6lb, 15 oz 20 inches!
Marshay ... Welcome Elizabeth Nicole!!...born March 12...8lb, 4 oz, 20 e/4 in!
raysnkaysmom ... due April 3 ... It's a girl!
TrueEeyore ... Welcome Brayden. Born March 17. 7lbs 6 oz, 19 inches!
Scornelius ... due April 12 ... It's a surprise!
sailors_wfe ... due April 22 ... It's a girl!
lulugirl ... due April 28 ... It's a surprise!
TiggerStac ... due April 29 ... It's a boy!
purvislets ... due May 4 ... It's a boy!
Mr. & Mrs. Smith ... due May 4 ... It's staying a surprise!
cseca ... due May 4 ... It's staying a surprise!
december ... due May 19 ... It's a girl!
caitty13 ... due May 28 ... It's a girl!
Piecey ... due June 3 ... It's a boy!
SDFgirl ... due June 3 ... It's a girl!
ShootingStarMom2 ... due June 12 ... It's a boy!
Mommy2Abby ... due June 13 ... It's a surprise!
rparmfamily ... due June 20 ... It's a girl!
Disney Ron ... due June 23 ... It's a girl!
MinnieFan4ever ... due June 27 ... It's a girl!
Ride Junkie... due June 28 ... It's a girl!
Disney Khi ... due June 28 ... It's a surprise!
robnkris ... due July 2 ... It's a boy!
mmkk ... due July 2 ... It's a boy!
NEM ... due July 4 ... It's a boy!
Gator Mickey ... due July 8 ... It's a girl!
DisneyDiva2006 ... due July 9 ... It's a surprise!
vetrik ... due July 9 ... It's a surprise!
goodeats ... due July 10 ... It's a girl!
luckyfin ... due July 17 ... It's a surprise!
harleyquinn ... due July 28 ... It's a girl!
jaleaton... due July 28 ... It's a girl!
MelessaG ... due July 31 ... It's a girl!
HomeSweetDisney ... due August 2 ... It's a surprise!
Quennifer2008 ... due August 2 ... It's a surprise!
Fintastic ... due August 19 ... It's a surprise!
DannysMom ... due September 5 ... It's a twin surprise!
kami2199 ... due September 7 ... It's a surprise!
Skylarr ... due September 7 ... It's a boy!
Maggimus ... due September 14 ... It's a surprise!
MyZoeJane ... due September 16 ... It's a surprise!
helloirishkitty ... due September 23 ... It's a surprise!
IHeartTink ... October 1 ... It's a surprise!
connorlevismom ... due October 2 ... It's a surprise!
sbell111... due November 8... It's a surprise!
CandleontheWater... due November 19... It's a surprise!​

 

[Skylarr29]

Thanks!!

No, it wasn't too hard to see. It only took the tech about a min. All of a sudden she said "are you ready? It's a boy!". It was worth paying the $80 to go to the 3d center. And we bought the DVD of the whole thing and got some good pictures of the little guy.

Now to name him!

 

[mmkk]

YAY!!! Another Boy to add to the list! Congrats!!

Sarah-I don't know if you have any Wood You places but you may have something similar. The places that sell unfinished wood furniture that you stain or paint yourself. They may have something you could use and their prices seem to be quite reasonable, especially for real wood furniture.

 

[mmkk]

Just wanted to pass along a deal I found on SD. Go to www.uddercovers.com and click on "shop our collection of covers". It will ask you for a promo code-type in onefree and you can get either a pink or blue nursing cover for just shipping and handling which is 7.95. I do have to warn that the site doesn't seem to be secure (you may can try and call them and give them the info) so if you have a very secure cc or a giftcard cc, I would use that.

 

[december]

Thanks-I just ordered one. I never used a nursing cover before, but never nursed in public either (even though I nursed for 18months). I was very shy in my 20s! In my 30s, I figure I'll feed her wherever! For the sake of others (and my students who may be in the area) I'd prefer to be covered!!!!!!!

 

[ShootingStarMom2]

I'd really like to order one, but I'm hesitant because of the security. I clicked on the Security Verification and it said it couldn't verify it. I have one from DS but it's too short for me. Someone let me know if you like yours!

 

[raysnkaysmom]

Congrats to all those who just found out the sex
Soo exciting!!

 

[Piecey]

Awww... a new boy and a new girl announcing their arrivals all in the same weekend.

Well, okay.. you know... announcing in the sense that the parents took a peek at their private areas, but you all know what I mean...


I spent a few hours in my nursery today... BIL and DH carried all the stuff upstairs for me and I got to put the Disney story collection books on his shelf, put up his picture frame, go through his clothes, put diapers in the changing table, arrange stuffed animals and I FINALLY got to hang his name on the wall above the crib!!!


Unfortunately, I kept being the ultimate pregnant lady and kept crying because my brother is a total butthead. It still makes me cry thinking about it, which I know is pathetic.
I bought wood plaques that I painted black (1 each for my parents, my brother, his girlfriend [who will be returning to Sydney at the end of April], my BIL, his girlfriend, my MIL and DH and I)... these plaques will have our handprints on them in colors matching what I painted Lucas' name. I also got a paint pen for everyone to sign their plaque.(And two black pieces of foamboard to take to the shower for other people like friends and aunts to put their handprints on, too!) I'm going to put a glossy coat on the plaques when they're all done.
And my stupid stinking brother and his Australian girlfriend were here for a week and a half and never bothered to come do their handprints (even though I reminded them DAILY and he PROMISED me 7pm last night) but Claire [the Aussie GF] wanted to see this museum in Pittsburgh so he blew me off (but didn't tell me, my Dad had to call and tell me) so they could see "the whole museum not just half if we left now"...
I was so upset and frustrated that I cried the entire way home and couldn't stop for most of the night. Stupid horomones.

Now he's back in Orlando and I'm all pissed off again that he didn't even say goodbye or sorry or anything.
I know I'm pathetic but it really bummed me out... especially because Claire won't be back in the States until well after Lucas is born.

So, feel free to get a bit of a chuckle out of the pregnant lady that was ecstatic to get her nursery set up but kept crying over her own choice of decorations!

 

[raysnkaysmom]

Awww... a new boy and a new girl announcing their arrivals all in the same weekend.

Well, okay.. you know... announcing in the sense that the parents took a peek at their private areas, but you all know what I mean...


I spent a few hours in my nursery today... BIL and DH carried all the stuff upstairs for me and I got to put the Disney story collection books on his shelf, put up his picture frame, go through his clothes, put diapers in the changing table, arrange stuffed animals and I FINALLY got to hang his name on the wall above the crib!!!


Unfortunately, I kept being the ultimate pregnant lady and kept crying because my brother is a total butthead. It still makes me cry thinking about it, which I know is pathetic.
I bought wood plaques that I painted black (1 each for my parents, my brother, his girlfriend [who will be returning to Sydney at the end of April], my BIL, his girlfriend, my MIL and DH and I)... these plaques will have our handprints on them in colors matching what I painted Lucas' name. I also got a paint pen for everyone to sign their plaque.(And two black pieces of foamboard to take to the shower for other people like friends and aunts to put their handprints on, too!) I'm going to put a glossy coat on the plaques when they're all done.
And my stupid stinking brother and his Australian girlfriend were here for a week and a half and never bothered to come do their handprints (even though I reminded them DAILY and he PROMISED me 7pm last night) but Claire [the Aussie GF] wanted to see this museum in Pittsburgh so he blew me off (but didn't tell me, my Dad had to call and tell me) so they could see "the whole museum not just half if we left now"...
I was so upset and frustrated that I cried the entire way home and couldn't stop for most of the night. Stupid horomones.

Now he's back in Orlando and I'm all pissed off again that he didn't even say goodbye or sorry or anything.
I know I'm pathetic but it really bummed me out... especially because Claire won't be back in the States until well after Lucas is born.

So, feel free to get a bit of a chuckle out of the pregnant lady that was ecstatic to get her nursery set up but kept crying over her own choice of decorations!

Noooo...it's things like that, that make it a reason to cry!! So frustrating, especially when it holds sentimental value.....

I'm sorry

 

[december]

That's awful Piecey! I'd cry too. Especially since he promised to come by, and left without saying goodbye to you.

It has now been 5 wks since we've heard from my mil. In a way it is a relief, but I just don't understand her. It was 5 wks yesterday since she brought up the RV trip with her family, and dh and I told her no. (She wanted to us to drive from MS to CA, with a stop at the Grand Canyon, when the baby is 3 wks old. She knows dh wouldn't go, and she knows he gets upset when we leave him. Besides that, the baby will be 3 wks old!). She left with the kids that day, and was supposed to bring them back the next day, on Sunday. Instead, she dropped them off at her other son's house, 30 min from here, and called me to let me know. She was really mean on the phone. I haven't heard a word from her since. Ds11 hasn't mentioned her, but dd9 has asked about her a few times. Dh told me NOT to contact her-that she did this kind of thing all the time when he was a kid (his father raised him and his brother). She only lives an hour and 15 min from here. I just can't imagine having a temper tantrum (especially in my 50s!) and cutting my son and grandkids out of my life for months at a time. Her older sister is bipolar (and on meds) and thinks mil is, too. I agree, but mil won't hear of it (she thinks dr's are evil and treats everything with herbs).

 

[Piecey]

Ugh, wow. You know, thats reallly bad for the kids-- they don't understand why she isn't around they just know they don't see their grandma. How horrible of her to throw a temper tamtrum over something that was completely your guys choice and hold it against her grandchildren!

Some people, I swear, are so selfish it's amazing to me! What is wrong with the world?!

Ugh!

 

[december]

UHHHH. I made the above post, then started getting ready for church. I haven't been the last 2 wks due to mine and my son's allergy issues, and the preacher paid us a visit this week. I had every intention of going today, but started vomiting about 10 and couldn't stop for about 30 min. I hadn't been throwing up this week, so I thought it was over. I guess not. I gave up and told the kids to get undressed.

As for my mil, I should be used to it. She's done things like this a few times over the years. I barely knew her until I was pregnant with ds11 (dh and I have been together for 21 yrs-she didn't come to our high school graduation or our wedding-her choice). But she went crazy over the grandkids. She got them every other weekend for years, only because I wouldn't let her have them every weekend. Then as dd9 started getting older, she started acting really strange with her. One night last fall she drove her home at 11pm, and told me not to feel bad-having a bad child didn't make me a bad mother. Dd9 was heartbroken. When she brought ds11 home the next day, I asked for his take on the situation. I know dd9 is high maintenance, but ds11 is very calm and always honest. He told me that mil kept starting fights with dd9, and called her a brat. He and their 2 cousins were getting their way in everything, but dd9 was yelled at every time she asked for something. Basically it was like having 2 9 yr olds fighting instead of an adult and a child. MIL decided to "punish" dd for being bad by planning trips to places dd9 wanted to go, but only taking ds11 and leaving dd9 at home. We of course vetoed that idea! We kept them apart for awhile (we know mil gets "off" at times). But since Christmas things had seemed better. I guess not. I guess it is better if mil just fades away.

 

[Piecey]

Ah, I'm sorry. I can't imagine what it must be like to be so sick constantly. I hope the next 8 weeks fly by for you!

Ah man, what a horrible way to treat a 9yr old!! I can't imagine how upset your DD must have been! So weird that she didn't seem to have any interest in her own kids but is loving her grandkids?? And to act that juvenile? Eek. I'm sorry shes a crackpot.

DH and I have already decided unless my MIL shapes up, she won't ever be alone with Lucas. She is too opinionated about ME and my choices and the way I do things and doesn't have any problems saying bad things about me to anyone and I'm not going to let me son hear those things. So she shapes up or she'll only be around him when I'm there.
Our entire weekend got ruined because MIL decided to have BIL drive her here (she lives an hour away and doesn't drive) to *help* despite us having told her, every single time she called this week, that we had nothing to do at the other house and we desperately needed to do homework this weekend. Still, she showed up. And so nothing is done the way I wanted (they brought all my nursery furniture upstairs into the newly carpeted rooms COVERED in drywall dust... I was so angry, now I have two floors of drywall dust to clean!)

I just don't understand people sometimes.

 

[december]

And of course you are an unappreciative dil - I mean she did all of that stuff just to "help."

When we moved into our first house (that burned) ds11 was 4 mos old. My family insisted on helping. My grandmother unpacked all my Christmas stuff (it was clearly marked Christmas and was supposed to go straight to the attic). I had saved all ds11's newborn stuff (things from the hospital, a newspaper from the day he was born, etc.). I found it all in the garbage after they left!!!!! It was in a "keepsake" box. My grandmother had opened it, thought it was junk, and threw it all away! When I complained about the "help" I was yelled at for being ungrateful.

Sometimes I wish dh had joined the military and we had moved away yrs ago. Sometimes it is great having family around, and sometimes it just sucks.

 

[Piecey]

Ohmygoodness!! I can't believe she would throw those things away!! DH is bad about that. If he doesn't understnad why I kept it, he just tosses it. He's not allowed to go near piles of papers anymore because he threw away our mattress warranty!

Yeah, MIL packed up all my painting stuff (still need for those handprint plaques) and put it all in the basement despite me saying "I'm still going to need that stuff" she said "Well you can go get it when you need it." (The hallway paint is 5gallons! How am I supposed to haul that back out of the basement?!) But I just bit my tongue and said "Yeah, I guess so. Thanks!".. I just don't understand taking the time to get it 'out of the way' in the house we don't live in, when next time I go I'm going to have to go get it? Huh? How is that helpful? Oh well. To each their own.

I'm not so sure about the military thing. I love my DH more than I ever thought possible, will never regret the time that he served because he is who he is in large part thanks to the Marine Corps., but we struggle. My parents are aware of everything that happens because I've had to call them a few times when things got bad, and my mom just keeps telling me she doesn't know how to help because her generation didn't deal with soldiers coming home from "war".
DH has PTSD pretty bad and the smallest, stupidest, most unexpected things set him off. The VA is trying to help but their idea is just drugs, drugs, drugs with a teensy bit of PTSD counseling. It's ridiculous, the lack of care our Vets are seeing. He's not ever been voilent towards me but a few walls, a skillet (and last night, a pork roast ) have met unfortunate fates due to irrational outbursts of anger which the VA assures me is classic PTSD. Their answer, though, is more drugs. Which is stupid to me.
I love my husband and I'll stand by him but sometimes catch myself wondering "what if" he hadn't joined the Marines? If he hadn't deployed 3 times in only 5 years? I feel horrible afterwards but it's hard.

 

[MelessaG]

Ohmygoodness!! I can't believe she would throw those things away!! DH is bad about that. If he doesn't understnad why I kept it, he just tosses it. He's not allowed to go near piles of papers anymore because he threw away our mattress warranty!

Yeah, MIL packed up all my painting stuff (still need for those handprint plaques) and put it all in the basement despite me saying "I'm still going to need that stuff" she said "Well you can go get it when you need it." (The hallway paint is 5gallons! How am I supposed to haul that back out of the basement?!) But I just bit my tongue and said "Yeah, I guess so. Thanks!".. I just don't understand taking the time to get it 'out of the way' in the house we don't live in, when next time I go I'm going to have to go get it? Huh? How is that helpful? Oh well. To each their own.

I'm not so sure about the military thing. I love my DH more than I ever thought possible, will never regret the time that he served because he is who he is in large part thanks to the Marine Corps., but we struggle. My parents are aware of everything that happens because I've had to call them a few times when things got bad, and my mom just keeps telling me she doesn't know how to help because her generation didn't deal with soldiers coming home from "war".
DH has PTSD pretty bad and the smallest, stupidest, most unexpected things set him off. The VA is trying to help but their idea is just drugs, drugs, drugs with a teensy bit of PTSD counseling. It's ridiculous, the lack of care our Vets are seeing. He's not ever been voilent towards me but a few walls, a skillet (and last night, a pork roast ) have met unfortunate fates due to irrational outbursts of anger which the VA assures me is classic PTSD. Their answer, though, is more drugs. Which is stupid to me.
I love my husband and I'll stand by him but sometimes catch myself wondering "what if" he hadn't joined the Marines? If he hadn't deployed 3 times in only 5 years? I feel horrible afterwards but it's hard.

I often wonder that about my husband who spent the first half of our marriage active duty Army Infantry. I don't see a lot of PTSD with him, but his attitude about how to treat women leaves something to be desired at times. ("Women's bodies are made to be pregnant. It's not normal to have all these aches and pains," is a particular favorite of mine.)

My mom is the crazy one in our family. Right now I am in "trouble" for "being ungrateful" and she isn't speaking to me. Frankly, it's pleasant and I'm hoping it lasts awhile.

 

[december]

I often wonder that about my husband who spent the first half of our marriage active duty Army Infantry. I don't see a lot of PTSD with him, but his attitude about how to treat women leaves something to be desired at times. ("Women's bodies are made to be pregnant. It's not normal to have all these aches and pains," is a particular favorite of mine.)

My mom is the crazy one in our family. Right now I am in "trouble" for "being ungrateful" and she isn't speaking to me. Frankly, it's pleasant and I'm hoping it lasts awhile.

OMG-I'm afraid I'd physically hurt dh for that comment!

Part of me is relieved to not have to deal with mil right now. The other part just can't understand how anyone can act like that! It is just so sad that she at times treats dd9 so bad, but she is the one asking about "mawmaw". Ds11, who she has always doted on, doesn't really want to see her anymore. I think he is mature enough to understand that something just isn't right with her, and he'd rather be here with his daddy doing "man" stuff anyway. And dh-well without me there wouldn't be any relationship with his mother at all! To him his grandmother was his mom, and his brother feels the same way. Their father moved in with his mother when they were 7 and 3, and she took care of them.

 

[Piecey]

Ohmygoodness, DH would be paying for that one too! Our bodies are made to be pregnant?? Eek! I suppose they're made to cook and clean, too? I think I'd tell DH if that was all my body was for then we weren't going to DTD unless we wanted me to be pregnant afterwards, lol.

DH treats me wonderfully.. it's just when PTSD hits he has no idea where he is and whatever is in his way suffers the fate. He doesn't even see me. The VA was helping with it, sending him to a lady who was supposed to help him recognize when the irrational bouts of anger were coming but he doesn't see her anymore. Just a guy who keeps mailing us drugs. He still has nightmares, can't be around large groups of people (b/c he can't watch them all), can't watch movies with a lot of guns or gunfire, etc..
He's getting better. He tells me that I've helped, and I want to believe him because I have really, really tried. And the outbursts are usually only 5-10 minutes and poof! gone, he's back to his normal self and sometimes he'll be like "What happened to the skillet?"

MelissaG, are we talking OIF/OEF active duty? Did he deploy any? Just curious, you don't have to answer.

DH's USMC Unit was there the night the "war" in Iraq started.. that was his first deploymen. He went back in 04 and again in 05 before being discharged from Active Duty in 06.. and his contract is up in 13.. THIRTEEN days.. and we're done for good.

 

[MelessaG]

Ohmygoodness, DH would be paying for that one too! Our bodies are made to be pregnant?? Eek! I suppose they're made to cook and clean, too? I think I'd tell DH if that was all my body was for then we weren't going to DTD unless we wanted me to be pregnant afterwards, lol.

DH treats me wonderfully.. it's just when PTSD hits he has no idea where he is and whatever is in his way suffers the fate. He doesn't even see me. The VA was helping with it, sending him to a lady who was supposed to help him recognize when the irrational bouts of anger were coming but he doesn't see her anymore. Just a guy who keeps mailing us drugs. He still has nightmares, can't be around large groups of people (b/c he can't watch them all), can't watch movies with a lot of guns or gunfire, etc..
He's getting better. He tells me that I've helped, and I want to believe him because I have really, really tried. And the outbursts are usually only 5-10 minutes and poof! gone, he's back to his normal self and sometimes he'll be like "What happened to the skillet?"

MelissaG, are we talking OIF/OEF active duty? Did he deploy any? Just curious, you don't have to answer.

DH's USMC Unit was there the night the "war" in Iraq started.. that was his first deploymen. He went back in 04 and again in 05 before being discharged from Active Duty in 06.. and his contract is up in 13.. THIRTEEN days.. and we're done for good.

Believe me, I didn't discover that attitude until after DD#1 was born. That was a very unhappy surprise for me. His attitude comes and goes. He was great when DS#1 was born (but he was about to be deployed and I had his power of attorney in my name ) and then not so great with the last two deliveries.

DH and I are a little on the "old" side. His first deployment was to Panama in 1988. His platoon were the first troops dropped there when the war started. He deployed to Iraq in 1991, and served a peace-keeping mission to Bosnia in 2000-2001. We were only married for the last deployment especially since I was still in high school in '88 (as I'm fond of reminding him). I haven't found the military to be very rehabilitative in any way except for medicating and while the chauvenistic attitude has been dimished by increasing numbers of military servicewomen, there were no women in the Army infantry as late as 2002 when DH left the service for good. (That may have changed by now.) DH was shy during high school, so EVERYTHING he learned about women, dating, etc...he picked up from Army buddies and they aren't always the best people to learn from. Now he works as a civilian at a nearby Air Force base and that really isn't much better.

So yes, I do wonder if some of his attitudes (like the whole "pregnancy is a natural process that shouldn't hurt" and a few other stereotyped ideas that I find annoying) wouldn't be better if he hadn't spent so much of his early adulthood in the middle of ground combat among a lot of men who tended to view women as sex objects rather than as equal partners. Having said that, he tries to do better when he messes up and he is a really good dad, doesn't look at other women (except in passing like they all do), and is committed to me and the kids. And I don't take that for granted.

Didn't mean to write a novel there-but there it is anyway.

 

[Piecey]

I guess I should be grateful that DH was in the Marines then, not the Army. One thing they learned was MANNERS. He said it was beaten into them from day 1 to be honorable, respectful, etc. to a man OR woman.. especially women, and especially if they were a higher rank than you Which is exactly why I said in a previous post that the Marines made him mostly who he is today-- my MIL can take no credit for the honorable, hard-working and sincere person my DH turned into. No one in his family is anything like him.

I am proud and respectful of anything anyone in our military has done- enlisting in itself is selfless and something I would never be able to do (I fear the unknown far too much, to the point that I almost didn't marry DH until after this wonderful date we have coming up) but definitely don't approve of the attitudes so many of them get. I'm sorry that your husband seemed to have iffy role models to help develope his character. They get into their units, their buddies, etc. and they're so close and together so constantly they almost become carbon units of the others.. and 1 bag apple can ruin or bruise the whole gang.

DH DID serve with women, though. He actually served with a pregnant woman and told me I should join because once she hit halfway the Marine Corps. only made her work half her regular shifts.. Seems the different branches definitely have different ideals.

DH didn't have any of these problems until after his Dad died, Aug. 30. The VA people I've met with have told me that was his "trigger" and what is causing all the minor PTSD outbreaks now. They say it takes something traumatic hapening outside the "war zone" to set off all the stress from what he saw while he was in. I've learned to control my own temper, as to not set off his. I've learned ways not to trigger, I've learned things TO do when he gets like that. I've really tried but it's not always enough to stop the small attacks (and like last night, it wasn't enough to save my pork roast! haha)
When we found out I was pregnant I was so lost because this stuff had really just started with him but luckily he saw it as a sign that it was that much more important that he get the help he needs.. so he let me push him into the VA appointments and they've helped tremendously. Until they cut him back to just this guy that wants to give him drugs. Luckily, though, his PTSD diagnosis makes him eligible for civilian counseling because we live over 50 miles from the closest VA PTSD treatment center. We're just waiting on the paperwork now and I'm sure once it all goes through and he can see someone who isn't VA, who isn't trying to shove drugs down his throat, we can really start to conquer the problems that are left. I'm hopeful.
Seems the VA is trying they just spend SO much time covering their own butts and trying to hide diagnosis (apparently PTSD is claimable as a disability so now DH has a "restricted" file due to his diagnosis because he has NOT claimed it)
I just want the treatment, dangit!