"Newest" Moms Hangout... take 2!

[harleyquinn]

Again, thanks for sharing - sometimes people (esp at church) make me feel like I just have this spoiled child b/c she sleeps with us, and I'm spoiling her because I feed her and hold her if she cries at night, but I like hearing from everyone else on here because it does show me that all babies really are different and it is ok if my 6 month old is not sleeping the night!

I don't think people (especially anyone who hasn't had a child in the last 10 years) knows how much reserch is being done about how positive co-sleeping is. There is a Dr that has a Mother/Baby sleep lab at a college, where it's all he studies.

I know I wouldn't have just chosen to sleep with her. For me, it's been "OMG I HAVE to do this to survive." But due to it, I have done a ton of research and learned that I am NOT spoiling her, that I may in fact be doing something very special with her.

Now, if I had a DD that would be happy to sleep in her crib, I would totally be all over that too!

And tonight at ds12's baseball game, I had 2 different people tell me it was time to wean her! WTH-it isn't any of their business! And I didn't nurse her at the game-ds12 gave me strict orders on that. These were just random people who overheard someone else ask if she was still nursing and had to share their 2 cents.

I'm getting prepared for it. I've already had people ask how long I plan to nurse. I really don't know. I know it'll go beyond 12 months, cuz I don't want to mess with her too much, knowing we'll be in Disney a month later.

 

[amandaluvsgoofy]

And tonight at ds12's baseball game, I had 2 different people tell me it was time to wean her! WTH-it isn't any of their business! And I didn't nurse her at the game-ds12 gave me strict orders on that. These were just random people who overheard someone else ask if she was still nursing and had to share their 2 cents.

OMG!! I can't imagine someone having the nerve to say that! I'm so jealous of people who are able to BF longer than I did (3 months - had to stop when I went back to work because supply diminished). I think there is a cultural idea that BFing should usually stop between 1 and 2 years old. Whatever works for you guys, you should stick to it and tell other people to nicely mind their own business!

Was wondering what is the longest your little sleeps between feedings and what age that is or was. Thanks

I remember the first night Emma slept all the way through. I rushed in there to make sure she was ok (even though we have a video monitor on her ). The doctor's office said babies shouldn't really be expected to sleep through the night until they're at least 12+ pounds (they still need food in their little tummies). Once Emma reached that weight, I think she was about 9 or 10 weeks old, she slept through the night for the most part. We would have the random middle-of-the-night feedings (maybe once a week or so). But now she pretty much sleeps through the night...knock on wood!

 

[hulagirl87]

Does anyone have a baby with eczema? I was told at 2 different doctor visits that it was just acne, but then it started getting really red and bumpy and Carys was rubbing her face and I thought that it was a rash. That doctor told me that it was eczema. sigh. That's what I don't like about the doctors office that I go too. There are so many conflicting answers. But that's besides the point. What should I do for her face? I was told cortizone cream and then aquaphor or vaseline, but then I'm reading things online that say not to do that. Help! The past 2 days it has been really bad. This started at 4 weeks old. She will be 10 weeks tomorrow. I would love for her to wake up one morning and have baby soft skin.

 

[ArielRae]

I remember the first night Emma slept all the way through. I rushed in there to make sure she was ok (even though we have a video monitor on her ). The doctor's office said babies shouldn't really be expected to sleep through the night until they're at least 12+ pounds (they still need food in their little tummies). Once Emma reached that weight, I think she was about 9 or 10 weeks old, she slept through the night for the most part. We would have the random middle-of-the-night feedings (maybe once a week or so). But now she pretty much sleeps through the night...knock on wood!

DS just recently reached 11lbs so hopfully more nights like that will be ahead.

DS just slept 6 hours between feedings last night. I fed and put him down at 9:00pm and he woke up just before 3:00am.
I now fed and put him back down at 3:30am, lets see how long he will sleep now.

Was wondering what is the longest your little sleeps between feedings and what age that is or was. Thanks

DS slept for anouther 2 hours after I put him back down.

 

[MinnieFan4ever]

Does anyone have a baby with eczema? I was told at 2 different doctor visits that it was just acne, but then it started getting really red and bumpy and Carys was rubbing her face and I thought that it was a rash. That doctor told me that it was eczema. sigh. That's what I don't like about the doctors office that I go too. There are so many conflicting answers. But that's besides the point. What should I do for her face? I was told cortizone cream and then aquaphor or vaseline, but then I'm reading things online that say not to do that. Help! The past 2 days it has been really bad. This started at 4 weeks old. She will be 10 weeks tomorrow. I would love for her to wake up one morning and have baby soft skin.

Natalie had baby acne when she was around 3 weeks old. It lasted with her about a month. She still has "bumps" on her face but you can't see them, only to the touch. I have put aquaphor on it and it does help. I have been told by others that is will clear up on its own. Who knows.

 

[justhat]

ArielRae - The answer to your question is so varied. My youngest started sleeping 10 hour stretches at about 10 weeks, and now goes about 11-12 hours every night. My 2nd was sleeping 7.5 hours straight at 6 weeks old. My first slept a max of 4 hours overnight at that age.

And that weight thing never applied to my kids. Scarlett is my smallest baby and sleeps the best, Madison was mid-weight and slept the worst, and my heaviest baby, my son, was in between the girls sleep-wise. He was over 15lbs at 3 months old while Scarlett is just under 12lbs and she "outsleeps" him.


December - I always got those nursing comments with my older kids, and am sure I will with this one too. The older ones weaned at 21 and 22 months, so I expect this one to go to about the same point as well. I never got why anyone cared. I never asked nor cared how long other kids nursed or used a bottle, but I have a friend very similar to yours who was up in arms over it. That and also the sleep, she always criticized how our 1st slept with us, never slept in the crib, never slept through the night, etc. Well joke was on her when our oldest kids were 3yo, and little ones were infants. Mine were both sleeping 12 hours at night and hers weren't anywhere near it! Her oldest was out of the crib now so he was constantly in her bed (or screaming if he was in his), and her younger one was like my 1st, never slept. I did get a small satisfaction out of that.

Oh, and none of my kids ever really had a room, so we never did the floor bed from birth thing. With the 1st we lived in a 1 bedroom apt, with the 2nd he had to share a room with my 1st after he moved out of our room, and now this one is in our room and if we weren't moving, well, hmm, she could bunk with the other 2 kids or I guess we could move one to the playroom. But luckily we are moving and our new house will have a bedroom for each kid!


Sbell - Your wife is pregnant again? Congrats!

Adi - My son hated swaddling and my 1st is too old for me to remember how long we did it, but Scarlett is 3 months and still swaddled for naps and bedtime. I want to move to a sleep sack, but I am slightly afraid to mess with her routine at the moment. She did nap at the beach without being swaddled so maybe she'd be fine.

I will say that since Madison slept with us exclusively from 4 months, she wasn't swaddled in our bed, at least as far as I can remember. So I guess we stopped around 3 months? But she slept terribly so don't follow that advice!


I forget who mentioned the pinched fingers with the floor bed thing, but I hadn't thought about that since both of my kids were in beds by 1.5yo. They never had any issues with that sort of stuff, but that would be something to consider.

 

[december]

I started thinking about that today. My older two are so much older, that I forget things! But my house burned when dd10 was 15 mos old, and she was in a toddler bed already. Dh's aunt had twins who were 2 yrs old than ds12, and she gave us their beds. Ds12's was a race car, and dd10's was like a house with a window in the headboard. Amazing what I can remember 9 yrs after losing it all! I don't remember having tons of problems with her in the toddler bed that early. So maybe the mattress on the floor won't be so bad for Katie!

 

[DannysMom]

Hope everyone had an awesome Mother's Day!

It was OK here. Went out to a Mother's Day Brunch, with us (me, DH, kids, MIL & GMIL) my siblings & mother. Food was just so so, everybody loves seeing the babies. Dylan has been refusing the bottle when I'm not home, so I've stopped carrying one for him when we go out, which has been forcing me to learn to NIP or sometimes the car. We managed at the restaraunt without him exposing me, he was tired so I could get away with throwing a light blankie over his head, without protest. I've only got one or two tops that I can nurse in inconspicously, I made sure to wear one today.

So not having had our regular Disney trip this spring, my DH's resolve is weakening. He wants to think about planning a trip for before school starts back up. We're thinking around 8/27-9/3 -- Dan's school doesn't start until 9/7..... still very , very tentative -- but just maybe I'll get my Disney fix this year. Thinking about where we might stay, Poly is super nice & very accessable w/ the monorails to both MK & EP, but spendy. A little less money but still very nice, our other thought is the Wildnerness Lodge, but with 2 infants, a double stroller, a special needs kid (mobility impaired) with a special needs stroller -- it might be tough to get around. Don't know yet. Also, Car or no car? We usually just go w/ Disney transport, but again, lots of kids & stuff... maybe a car would be better....

Also, we'd probably bring along my MIL. Which could be good or bad. She would want her own room, so that's good. Another set of adult hands to help w/ the munchkins, could be good. But we (she & I) don't always see eye to eye. At that time of the year, you gotta hit rope drop, and we are RD kind of folks, w/ an afternoon break for the kidlets. She takes forever to get ready in the AM, she's a hair & makeup kind of gal -- I'm so not.

The reason for asking her along is kind of sad...... DH's aunt has been diagnosed w/ terminal (stage IV) cancer, and while she's getting treatment, there really isn't much hope, a few months at best. She is around my MIL's age, MIL has know her for decades, she too has young grandkids, that she will now *never* get to take vacations with. So, since you never know what the future holds, DH asked her if she'd like to come to Disney with us. A few details she needs to take care of.... like she needs to arrange someone to take care of her mother while she's gone. GMIL is 80-something, 86? maybe & needs caretaking, gets confused, needs meals prepared, can't remember if she's eaten or not, etc. -- so definitely not a done deal yet, but a distinct possibility. So I'm happy thinking about the possibilities.

Can't want for Staley to come back & tell us how her trip with twins went. Give me more to think about.

ETA: My brother just posted a link with pics from today, if anybody want to see how cute my kidlets have gotten.
link here: http://picasaweb.google.com/ssevchuk/2010MotherSDay#

 

[december]

We had a combined mother's day/birthday party today at my house. Katie will be 1 Friday-so hard to believe!-and my great-aunt will be 92 Sat. She and my grandmother (will be 90 on July 13-my son's 13th birthday) are the only 2 left out of 13 siblings. She never had kids, and although she has dozens of nieces and nephews, no one but my family really takes much time with her. She is in a nursing home, but mentally is fine. So we had a 92nd birthday party, a 1st birthday party, and Mother's Day all in one!

My house is tiny, and we had my family of 5, my parents, their best friend, my grandmother, my aunt, 2 of my 3 sisters and their spouses, and my nephew. Plus dh's father and stepmother, her granddaughter, dh's brother, his wife, and 2 kids, dh's aunt (is married and has 2 grown sons who did nothing for her today), and Katie's daycare "teacher." Dh's mother and stepfather were running late, and got here after everyone else had left. That is a good thing-30+ years after the divorce, things are still pretty stormy between his parents!

Dh fixed breakfast for me this morning, and did some of the cooking for lunch. Dd10 had handmade me a bunch of cute little cards and things, and they helped clean up and get ready for the party. So it has been a good day!

 

[harleyquinn]

The pics are adorable! We'll just miss each other at Disney if you go then! Move it up a week!

My day was eh...Dh did make me breakfast which was decidedly not WW friendly . Lily was very clingy at first, but it wore off as it usually does lately. I went shopping by myself for a couple of hours, which was surreal, but I had to get out of the house and DH didn't want to go.

I am a bit upset that my mom didn't do anything for me besides a card. I sent her flowers (Lillies), chocolate and smelly stuff, which wasn't cheap. I know they don't have the money right now, but they are really wearing on me. My dad still hasn't found a job, they cashed out his 401k and now they eat out at least once a DAY, but they couldn't do anything for mom's day? Not even a phone call.

Lily gave me my present last night by sleeping through the night for the first time in a while. She also has her third tooth, which I'm sure didn't help the sleep issues.

I'm not one to really care too much about holidays, but I did want something a bit better for my first mothers day...you only get one of those.

And the Cavs lost. Bah.

 

[amandaluvsgoofy]

I'm right there with ya, Harley. My day was pretty good, but I've been fairly irritable lately with lots of stress and little sleep (my choice cause I get up at 4:30am to work out). We had an early lunch with my mom and brother (along with his DG and her daughters). It was pretty nice, but I still hadn't received anything from DH I had mentioned something about getting my nails done, but never heard anything. Finally DH said I should go, but just about that time Emma started to fuss...really bad! She had been conjested all morning and coughing a little. Poor baby didn't feel well so all we could do was sit with her and try to comfort her (forgot to mention that DH was working through the afternoon, he usually always has work to do). I then told him to run to the store for some generic baby tylenol. He came home with some flowers that were obviously the bottom of the barrel (I know I'm awful for saying this but what do you expect on Mother's Day at 5:00pm?). After a while, Emma calmed down then DH and I had a talk. I expressed my feelings were a little hurt since it didn't seem like he had put any thought into my first mother's day. He did point it out that he had worked in the yard all day Saturday (trying to help with the sale of our house). I did feel bad but we both agreed things could have been better all the way around. So hopefully next year will be better! I do have to say that I am grateful for the wonderful man I married! He is a kind, loving, and considerate man along with being a fantastic father! (just hope next year he'll remember that he's still in charge of Mommy's day until Emma is old enough to make me something )

 

[december]

hmmmmm......I guess I never thought about my mother doing anything for me on Mother's Day? I know we all celebrate differently, and have different expectations.

Dh bought me a new modem a few weeks ago, and a new baggalini messenger bag for the trip. He cooked breakfast for me and the kids, and cooked chicken and fries for lunch for the party. And he was super nice to my family, which I appreciated! He doesn't like crowds, or noise, but he tolerated it well.

Dd10 did the most. She bought me a little figurine from Dollar Tree, made me a certificate, and painted I love you on a balloon. It was really sweet. Ds12 is all boy, but she even had him make me a necklace out of thread and beads! I knew she kept making him come to her room Sat-she was a little drill sargeant!

 

[DannysMom]

I can see FTM's being dissappointed that their family (DH or Mom) didn't do *something* for them to make it a little bit special, you know their first mother's day as a mother. Those of us that have been moms for a while end up seeing it as just another day. But I think for my first mother's day, DH bought me a necklace, a cameo of a mother & baby I think.

This year, though, I just got a couple of cards. Oh & my little brother gave a bottle of wine. Guess he figures I could use a drink. And I could, if I weren't so darn tired all the time.

 

[ADAMANDLISA]

hmmmmm......I guess I never thought about my mother doing anything for me on Mother's Day? I know we all celebrate differently, and have different expectations.

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I'm with you. I would never expect my mother to do anything for me on Mother's Day. When it comes to our relationship, it's her day, not mine.

 

[arubio0801]

Hey everyone! We went to disney a couple weeks ago and it went good, it ended up being in the 90's and poor Logan wasn't liking the heat at all. And he ended up getting sick in MK and throwing up all over my DH. We went to the baby center and changed poor logan and then had to get dh clothes he needed a new shirt and shorts and when we went to pay for them the manger said not to worry about it that he took care of it and accidents happen and that you cant plan for that so for us not to worry about it!! I couldn't believe it I told my dh that this would only happen in disney! We're soo thankful for what he did for us it would of been a extra cost that we didnt budget for. We took him to the dr on friday since he kept spiting up soo much and throwing up once in awhile, and he has acid refluxes so hes on medication twice a day and we had to change his formula to similac sensitive and hes doing great now. And on a good note he weighed in at 10lbs 10oz!! When he was born he only weighed 4lbs 9oz so he plumped up nicely lol

His first disney ride the Jungle Cruise!!

My little cousin holding him for the first time! She was soo excited!

Hope everyone is doing well and had a wonderfull mothers day!!

 

[BabyTigger99]

Mother's Day was nothing exciting at our house. Wyatt had a soccer tournament all weekend, so we were at the soccer field (about an hour away) at 8:00 am on Sunday morning. DH did do the grocery shopping, so that was nice, and Elliott ended up taking a 3 hour nap. DH and I decided we aren't going to get each other anything for Mother's/Father's day, but we are going to save the money and go to Chicago for the weekend for our anniversary in October.

My good little sleeper (well, at night, not so much for naps!), has been waking up the past 4 or 5 days between 4:30 and 5 every morning. Most days I can get him back to sleep, but then I can never fall back asleep!! I just think he is never getting enough sleep. He probably only gets 12 or 13 hours of sleep a day.

 

[apress]

Hi ladies, hope you don't mind if I join in and ask a question. I have been reading along for quite a while, but need to vent to people that will understand. I have three children. A girl who is almost 7, another girl who is 4 and Chase was born on January 12th. He is so much different then the girls, that I am at my ropes end. He is always spitting up and the doctor won't do anything about it because he is not unhappy when he does it. She actually told me it is just a laundry issue. I go through through bibs and outfits like crazy. (We also have been to the doctors alot because of weight issues). But the really hard thing is his sleep issues. He is not sleeping through the night and he doesn't nap during the day. He takes these 20-30 minute catnaps and I can't get anything done. At night I have to put his pacifer in and finally around 3 am I give him a bottle. I just don't know what to do. My girls were sleeping through the night by now and taking naps during the day. Sorry that my first post on here is so negative, its just I'm really frustated and don't know what to do.

 

[sbell111]

Hi ladies, hope you don't mind if I join in and ask a question. I have been reading along for quite a while, but need to vent to people that will understand. I have three children. A girl who is almost 7, another girl who is 4 and Chase was born on January 12th. He is so much different then the girls, that I am at my ropes end. He is always spitting up and the doctor won't do anything about it because he is not unhappy when he does it. She actually told me it is just a laundry issue. I go through through bibs and outfits like crazy. (We also have been to the doctors alot because of weight issues).

Our doctor told us exactly the same thing regarding spitting up. The princess wasn't in any discomfort while she cheesed, so he wasn't concerned. We just had to change her alot.

But the really hard thing is his sleep issues. He is not sleeping through the night and he doesn't nap during the day. He takes these 20-30 minute catnaps and I can't get anything done. At night I have to put his pacifer in and finally around 3 am I give him a bottle. I just don't know what to do. My girls were sleeping through the night by now and taking naps during the day. Sorry that my first post on here is so negative, its just I'm really frustated and don't know what to do.

Sarah doesn't really take regular naps, either. Sometimes, she'll get one in, sometimes she won't. It's totally frustrating for Cathy because lots of time she isn't able to get anything done during the day. It's starting to get a little better, but its nothing that you can count on yet.

Since your little guy has had weight issues, I'd definitely stick a bottle in his maw at every opportunity. Sometimes a milk coma is just the ticket.

 

[harleyquinn]

I definitely won't care about mom's day in the future, and I don't expect anything from my mom in the future. She just usually goes overboard with things like that. She did buy me a mom necklace when Lily was born, so I guess I shouldn't have expected anything. I'm over it!

Hey everyone! We went to disney a couple weeks ago and it went good, it ended up being in the 90's and poor Logan wasn't liking the heat at all. And he ended up getting sick in MK and throwing up all over my DH. We went to the baby center and changed poor logan and then had to get dh clothes he needed a new shirt and shorts and when we went to pay for them the manger said not to worry about it that he took care of it and accidents happen and that you cant plan for that so for us not to worry about it!! I couldn't believe it I told my dh that this would only happen in disney! We're soo thankful for what he did for us it would of been a extra cost that we didnt budget for. We took him to the dr on friday since he kept spiting up soo much and throwing up once in awhile, and he has acid refluxes so hes on medication twice a day and we had to change his formula to similac sensitive and hes doing great now. And on a good note he weighed in at 10lbs 10oz!! When he was born he only weighed 4lbs 9oz so he plumped up nicely lol

Hope everyone is doing well and had a wonderfull mothers day!!

How nice of that manager!! I hope the rest of the trip was better! Poor little Logan! And poor DH! Lovely pictures though!!

Hi ladies, hope you don't mind if I join in and ask a question. I have been reading along for quite a while, but need to vent to people that will understand. I have three children. A girl who is almost 7, another girl who is 4 and Chase was born on January 12th. He is so much different then the girls, that I am at my ropes end. He is always spitting up and the doctor won't do anything about it because he is not unhappy when he does it. She actually told me it is just a laundry issue. I go through through bibs and outfits like crazy. (We also have been to the doctors alot because of weight issues). But the really hard thing is his sleep issues. He is not sleeping through the night and he doesn't nap during the day. He takes these 20-30 minute catnaps and I can't get anything done. At night I have to put his pacifer in and finally around 3 am I give him a bottle. I just don't know what to do. My girls were sleeping through the night by now and taking naps during the day. Sorry that my first post on here is so negative, its just I'm really frustated and don't know what to do.

First of all welcome!
I can't help with the spitting up as Lily really never did. But Lily has always been a terrible sleeper.

How is he when he's awake? Lily was generally always happy with her catnaps. Some babies are just like that. It would catch up to her by the evening and she was a mess. Now she takes longer naps most days and is better, but for at least the first 6 months, she was a cat napper, primarily because she hates her crib.

The only way she'll sleep at night is with me.

Sorry I can't help more, maybe one of the moms with babies with reflux?

 

[jaleaton]

Hi ladies, hope you don't mind if I join in and ask a question. I have been reading along for quite a while, but need to vent to people that will understand. I have three children. A girl who is almost 7, another girl who is 4 and Chase was born on January 12th. He is so much different then the girls, that I am at my ropes end. He is always spitting up and the doctor won't do anything about it because he is not unhappy when he does it. She actually told me it is just a laundry issue. I go through through bibs and outfits like crazy. (We also have been to the doctors alot because of weight issues). But the really hard thing is his sleep issues. He is not sleeping through the night and he doesn't nap during the day. He takes these 20-30 minute catnaps and I can't get anything done. At night I have to put his pacifer in and finally around 3 am I give him a bottle. I just don't know what to do. My girls were sleeping through the night by now and taking naps during the day. Sorry that my first post on here is so negative, its just I'm really frustated and don't know what to do.

Do we share a doctor? I totally feel your pain, and have gone through all of the same with my doctor, and Isabelle's spitting up. What's even worse is that she's always been extremely tiny (10mos. today, and BARELY 15 pounds), so spitting up worries me even more. At first she was on BF, and we supplemented with the normal Enfamil. We noticed a HUGE difference when we decided to stop BFing and to switch her to the AR Formula. It's made for babies that spit up often, and is thickened with rice starch. It has done the trick for her. We used to go through as many as 5 or 6 bibs a day, and now we go through no more than 2 (due to drool and being a messy eater). She really doesn't spit up anymore.