We were newbies too, and just got back on Friday!
You are ahead of us, since you are scheduling the nap. We figured out we needed an afternoon break later in the trip, and it was great!
Our favorite kid moment was at AK during the Tusker House breakfast buffet (Donald, Mickey, Goofy, and Daisy). They sang a beautiful good morning song and the kids got to dance in a parade around the restaurant; it was awesome! Mickey held my son's hand since he was one of the smallest and they played tambourines -- adorable!!
We also like Garden Grill in Epcot for character dining b/c the food was better than most, a little more peaceful, and the characters came around THREE times! My kids think that Chip and Dale are their best friends, along with farmer Mickey!
The PP are right looking at which characters you want to see... Pooh is only at Crystal Palace although we were not wild about the food, and neither were the kids. But who could resist Pooh? It might be worth it!
Our favorite "do not miss" ride at AK was the Kilimanjaro safari. If your son likes animals, it is amazing, and a bumpy ride which makes it a lot of fun too!
Many of the 3D movies are scary for little kids so we avoided them, BUT the muppet 3D (DHS) and Philharmagic (MK) are not at all scary, and the kids love them!
At MK, they have THREE adorable little playgrounds (PG) for younger tots (age 2-5): toon town disney, fantasy land (pooh's playful spot), and adventure land (next to splash mountain). These are small and you can relax a bit knowing your little one is in a safe environment.
Epcot has a little splash area, no PG.
The other PG's at DHS (honey I shrunk the kids) and AK (bone yard) are LARGE play grounds w/ tall slides and climbing areas, and more larger kids running all over the place. Moms of younger children still go in there, and keep their kids close and follow them around...
Epcot has little areas at each country for coloring a little symbol that is attached to a mask, called Kid Cot stations. The science areas have a lanyard the kids use to attach different symbols (a dolphin, flower lady bug).
For rides, my son made me ride Nemo FOUR times in Epcot (thank God there are not usually any lines!). We also saw Turtle Talk with Crush twice, and he LOVED it!
If you are worried about rides going totally dark, bring a glowing toy or let your child hold your cell phone. I was surprised how many rides go pitch black and startle the young ones (my 5 yr. old is sensitive while his siblings were racing down space mountain! Diff. personalities!)
Whatever resort you are in, the pool and playground there will be a welcome change of pace for everyone. I wish we had planned more time at ours! We saw POR, BC/YC/BW and they all had stunning areas to explore, most resorts do!
Disney put little spots with Legos or TVs with cartoons in several lobby areas, so my kids were entertained. Restaurants provide crayons, coloring pages, and interesting visuals... it was refreshing! My kids loved the ferry to downtown Disney, and they have a
lego playing area, a "build your own light saber" area, and potato heads with parts for the kids to play with... so much to play with and it's free! Even if you don't want to shop, you can go for free and have fun! There is one store where everything is $10 and under -- my personal fav!
You will have a WONDERFUL time! Sunscreen, bottled water (I liked Garden Grocer for groceries), naps, and play time... You are all set to have a perfect trip!
