Never have dated...

[Dan Murphy]

You'll be just fine, Kailey. You are young, you have a whole, big, long life ahead of yourself. (you too, Heather ) Good people, like you guys, find other good people, you just watch. When you least expect it, after some days and months, you will be saying to yourselves, 'Hey, this guy is pretty good too'. Enjoy life.

 

[CptJackSparrowsGirl]

Thanks Dan

 

[GrimGrinningVal]

Here are three pieces of advice when deciding on a date. . .

1. Common interest in some things is a must or you will be absolutely bored. My sweetie and I love games. . .board games and role playing games. I like swords and sorcery and my hunny likes modern warfare. . .this is not important as we "get" the obsession. It works for us.

2. Find common ground as friends first. If you can be friendly and enjoy hanging with each other, the relationship part will be easier.

3. Don't expect a night in shining armour to come sweep you off your feet. This is a true fairytale. HOWEVER, do expect to be treated with respect and admiration. Offer the same in return. There is truth in the saying that you only get as good as you give. . .


One thing to think about. . .before delving into the realm of finding your mate you must first be able to love yourself. . .including your flaws. . .embrace them and realize that they are who you are.

I am in the same boat as you... and after reading this thread, feel not as alone! I am quoting Darcy because I agree with how she worded things. It's a big scary world out there, and in my case, there's not a lot of options for meeting normal, good guys. However, I have a small circle of great friends (some I met on here!) and family, who have kept me sane though the years of single hood. I believe the old saying is true, that great things can spring from great friendships. We gotta be patient - and trust me I am so tired of hearing that, but it's true. I just hope we don't have to wait too long! lol

 

[a paper star]

I know how you feel. I'm 24 and have never had a serious boyfriend. I think part of my problem is I'm so shy and I have a hard time meeting new people.

 

[knewton64]

Never go for the crush. The crush is mostly a physical gratification that will leave a sour taste in your mouth in the end. Ken (Watank) and I met and became friends. Through much communication we found that we had much in common. It sparked a beautiful relationship.

.....well....... the "Crushman" himself!
(yes - I was honored one time to have asked him a question)


Ok...seriously though - my advice is to have fun and enjoy all things Disney and besides - ya never know....you might just meet 'Mr Right" while at a Disney park.

So, if you wanna - read any of my below trip reports and if you feel comfortable, send me a shout out on facebook as I am:

Kris Newton
Dallas, Texas

or - send me a pm cuz....

here on the Disboards....we are all friends.


T.T.F.N.

 

[holz99]

I know how ya feel! It does suck because all my friends are married and/or have little ones. I'm hoping that my love for Disney will help me find someone one of these days.

 

[aggielawyer]

To the OP: I feel your pain. I meet very few men that interest me, and even fewer that return it. But I'd rather be single than married and miserable.

ya never know....you might just meet 'Mr Right" while at a Disney park.

This is what my SIL told me before my September solo trip...sadly it didn't happen. Maybe I need to plan another one in case I missed him the first time.

 

[knewton64]

To the OP: I feel your pain. I meet very few men that interest me, and even fewer that return it. But I'd rather be single than married and miserable.



This is what my SIL told me before my September solo trip...sadly it didn't happen. Maybe I need to plan another one in case I missed him the first time.

....stranger things have been known to happen while out on a Disney trip.

Example, while out on the Disney Wonder cruise ship (Jan 2009) I met a very nice young lady on the ship and we converse via the internet now that the trip is over. She's out in California and I am in Texas - RATS! The geography thing stinks but ya know, while we were on the cruise ship, it was a total blast.

So.....I am still out there and hey ya never know....

And yes, you should plan another trip I am heading out on an Adventures by Disney trip (March 2010) that will be taking me into Disneyland and other places.
Anywho - feel free to read my below trip report, "If I were a Fraggle...." if you want as I can tell this is going to be a adventure of a lifetime.

P.S. besides....I see that you have a Dog......well....I have a 13 yr old female Beagle named "Ladybug." What's your Dog's name??

 

[MAKHayes-DisneyDiva]

Hey single ladies! (and guys too) I am so blessed to have found the right guy 21 years ago, but I have a few friends in your situation. I feel that there is someone for everyone, so never give up hope.
Sending good wishes and pixie dust to all of you!

 

[TX~tink]

Honestly the right guy could be right in front of you. I met my current boyfriend the first day of freshman year in college and we became friends because I wasn't really interested in him. But he was very interested in me and he let me know it every chance he got. But he understood that I wasn't into a relationship and didn't push a relationship on me. We became really close friends and I eventually gave in and let him take me out. We have now been dating for almost year and I love everything about him. We don't have everything in common, but that's what makes things interesting. The only flaw he really had before we were dating was that he didn't like disney, but I took him there for a weekend and he is now in love with it almost as much as I am and we are going back this weekend!!! anyway the moral of the story is, the love of your life might be right in front of you, you just don't know it yet. take a good look at all of your friends, maybe you'll find something that wasn't there before.

 

[psac]

Also... don't be afraid to "get yourself out there." Sites like match.com can work -- I met my wife through AOL (back in the day, 8 years ago it was different), and my brother met his wife through match a couple of years ago. As someone said, though, it's a lot easier if you go local than long distance.

 

[psac]

ps -- when you're in the "never dated" category, I would say don't expect to find love at first try. It's good to actually date a variety of people to find out who you are and aren't compatible with. Don't expect things to always click. There will be duds!

 

[aggielawyer]

P.S. besides....I see that you have a Dog......well....I have a 13 yr old female Beagle named "Ladybug." What's your Dog's name??

Her name is Maggie, and she's 10 years old, but she's still my baby girl. I would love to go on an ABD trip, but am working on getting out of debt, so that will have to wait.

 

[knewton64]

Her name is Maggie, and she's 10 years old, but she's still my baby girl. I would love to go on an ABD trip, but am working on getting out of debt, so that will have to wait.

....a few weeks back, I was working on a Disney photo mosiac puzzle (1000 pieces) and up jumped Ladybug and put her two front paws on my thigh - as if to say, "What are you doing?"
Well, I responded by showing her a puzzle piece and said that I am working on a puzzle as I showed her a puzzle piece. Hhhmmmmmm.....I think what I said got lost in the "language barrier" translation because a few days later, I realized I was missing 16 pieces of the puzzle!

Yes - she did so...........ah well, at least on the bright side when I go to Disneyland in a few more weeks, I get to buy the same puzzle and complete that puzzle.....looks pretty cool and I want to mat & frame it.


Anywho, let Maggie know that Ladybug says "ARF" and hope you 2 have a Magical day.

T.T.F.N.