Magpie
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Hi there, I`m new on this thread, but i`ve read all the posts. I can also say that I`m new in the "problem" since my DD5 started ticking a month ago...Well, at first it was constant hand smelling, then came also excessive blinking and lip licking, along with touching face and body. Well, it really freaked me out, I talked to some therapists and they told me not to worry unless it lasted more then a year, but it is not much of a comfort to me at all. We live a quiet life, she is a smart and happy little girl, there were no stresses around what so ever (or I didn` t notice?!), we have apsolutely NO family history of tics, Tourettes or OCD, anxiety. This might seem we`re perfect, which we surely are not, but I`m just trying to point that there are no hereditary issues in this matter. What worries me the most is that she has all this tics at the same time,well, the blinking has eased a bit, but the other ones are still there! I also wanted to thank you all for wonderful posts and eye-opening experiences that you were ready to share with others, that was comforting. If you have any suggestions for me too, I would appreciate it! All the best for all the kids!![]()
Your therapists are right - try not to worry! Okay, that might be impossible, but definitely don't let your daughter see your concern.
My daughter was "twitchy" as a little girl. The hand-flapping was most noticeable, and it used to irritate me because it looked so darn goofy. (This wasn't the fake kind of hand flapping that grown women sometimes put on, this was a baby bird frantically trying to achieve liftoff!) The spinning was kind of cute. The spitting was pretty gross. However, her primary thing was the flapping. I noticed that she tended to flap more when she was excited and/or distracted. It was obvious she wasn't doing it intentionally, so instead of tackling it directly I worked instead on teaching her to calm herself down. I'd take her by the hands and look her in the eye and say, "Breathe, sweetie! Breathe!"
We worked on finding her center, calming down, relaxing. It took years. She still flapped occasionally, even up to the age of eight or nine, but at least she wasn't clearing a space around herself in a crowd. And gradually she got less twitchy. She also became a lot calmer and more mature.
She's 14 now and hardly flaps at all. Sometimes her hands will get going if she's reading a story that she finds very exciting, but it's a much smaller movement. It shouldn't cause any problems in study hall when she goes to university.

And in retrospect, I wish I'd spent less time worrying about it when she was small, and more time just enjoying her, my flapping, spinning, goofy kid. She's totally different now, and I'll never see that wee baby girl again.