negative child?

[PlutosFriend]

Does anyone have one? I need some ideas on how to deal with this, so would love to hear from anyone that has experience with this. She is almost 10 years old.
Thanks

 

[rachdd]

I am interested in this as well. My son turned 10 in November and he is horribly negative about most things... not sure what to do!! This is something I stress over!

 

[binny]

hey Diane try this www.fishfulthinking.com They actually have a lot of resources for dealing with kids who are negative and about developing a positive self image,

we are using it for DD11 and they have had some great ideas!

Its a tough thing to deal with though. Mine has a very poor self image and we are really trying to change that.

 

[PlutosFriend]

I am interested in this as well. My son turned 10 in November and he is horribly negative about most things... not sure what to do!! This is something I stress over!

I stress over it too Yesterday she kept saying "I am not good at anything". If I give her examples, of what she is good at or that she has to keep trying and not give up on things, more negative talk comes from her mouth. It is very draining.

hey Diane try this www.fishfulthinking.com They actually have a lot of resources for dealing with kids who are negative and about developing a positive self image,

we are using it for DD11 and they have had some great ideas!

Its a tough thing to deal with though. Mine has a very poor self image and we are really trying to change that.

Thank you so much! I will sure check this site out. I am starting to wonder if she doesn't have some depression To me it just seems like she should realize that she has a lot to be thankful and happy for, but she can't seem to see it that way.

 

[binny]

yeah Im really worried about the depression too. It runs in DHs family

I want to try to nip it in the bud but she would rather just sit and watch TV than do anything positive.

 

[PlutosFriend]

yeah Im really worried about the depression too. It runs in DHs family

I want to try to nip it in the bud but she would rather just sit and watch TV than do anything positive.

Same thing here. I hate to admit this, but she can also be very lazy when it comes to things like being organized, or doing anything at all as far as cleaning She is not hyper at all, but I think she has some borderline focus/attention issues. Does this affect your daughters friendships at all? I am starting to see it affect my dd's, so that worries me too.

 

[binny]

yes, I see that too. She is pretty immature as well.

It SO hard to figure out this age! One part of me wants her to grow up a little and the other says why rush it? She has her whole life to be "grown up" but I really do worry about her. She is the middle child and with Karissa being just 11 months younger and special needs she sometimes gets sucked into the same things as her sister does. I want her to have her own identity. I think the trick is to find something that she alone is good at. Something that her sister doesnt get to do.
We just havent found that thing yet.

arghhh

 

[RadioNate]

I have an 8 year old DS that is negative. He is also never happy. Not really. This however, has always been his disposition. He wasn't a happy baby or toddler.

We work a lot on self esteem building and have had to cut out a lot of external stimuli like TV. He is always worse after an hour or 2 of watching TV or playing video games.

Structure and easily attained goal...wins for him. Really help.