Needing some support here!

[Livie's Mommy]

I am sure I am not the only naive schlup (yes, by my own admission!) to think the DISboards was a fun place to chat with others. I have have been involved in more debates that I care to even think about in the past 2 weeks here. I have learned, a little too late unfortunately, that there is no "every person's opinion counts" mentality here (I told you I was naive). Has anyone else noticed this lately and how do you handle it? I mean, I know I could just not come to DISboards, but I love most of the threads here, I hate for a few to ruin it for me. I just tend to be a magnet for those threads with unforgiving people who will squash your opinion at every chance. Anyways, I know some of you have been through this too (I have read about it!). Are there certain boards I should just stay away from?

 

[Mermaid02]

If you notice particular posters doing this to you- put them on ignore. If you notice certain topics get really heated, avoid them.

 

[Livie's Mommy]

If you notice particular posters doing this to you- put them on ignore. If you notice certain topics get really heated, avoid them.

Sorry, I am still new here. I joined Dis about a year ago, but only recently started coming here seriously. How do I put someone on "ignore"?

 

[tiggersmom2]

I am sure I am not the only naive schlup (yes, by my own admission!) to think the DISboards was a fun place to chat with others. I have have been involved in more debates that I care to even think about in the past 2 weeks here. I have learned, a little too late unfortunately, that there is no "every person's opinion counts" mentality here (I told you I was naive). Has anyone else noticed this lately and how do you handle it? I mean, I know I could just not come to DISboards, but I love most of the threads here, I hate for a few to ruin it for me. I just tend to be a magnet for those threads with unforgiving people who will squash your opinion at every chance. Anyways, I know some of you have been through this too (I have read about it!). Are there certain boards I should just stay away from?

Ummmmm....I went back and read some of your previous posts......

http://disboards.com/showthread.php?t=921356&page=62&pp=15

I really think you are taking the internet too seriously and should just relax.

 

[WeirdEyes]

If you notice particular posters doing this to you- put them on ignore. If you notice certain topics get really heated, avoid them.

That's what I try to do.

 

[Crankyshank]

Ignore people that bother you either mentally or using the ignore feature. Avoid thread subjects that bother you. Remember that if you write something passionately or antagonistically, people may very well respond in kind (The Amazing Race thread for example). Looking over your previous posts, you were pretty.. um... passionate in that thread.

 

[Livie's Mommy]

Ummmmm....I went back and read some of your previous posts......

http://disboards.com/showthread.php?t=921356&page=62&pp=15

I really think you are taking the internet too seriously and should just relax.

I am not being defensive here, but...
Why was I at fault there? I truly don't understand why some people's opions are ok and other's are not. I guess that is where I am coming from. Other people in that thread were just as fervent as I was. Why am I taking things too seriously and they are not? I was stating my opinion and asking questons, right?

 

[Livie's Mommy]

Ignore people that bother you either mentally or using the ignore feature. Avoid thread subjects that bother you. Remember that if you write something passionately or antagonistically, people may very well respond in kind (The Amazing Race thread for example). Looking over your previous posts, you were pretty.. um... passionate in that thread.

Again I ask...why am I considered more passinate than others on that thread. I asked questins and stated my opinion, just as teh others did. Why am I perceived differently? May be that is my problem, I am wrong and they are right and I just need to shut up?

 

[Crankyshank]

I am not being defensive here, but...
Why was I at fault there? I truly don't understand why some people's opions are ok and other's are not. I guess that is where I am coming from. Other people in that thread were just as fervent as I was. Why am I taking things too seriously and they are not? I was stating my opinion and asking questons, right?

From an outsider's POV it did appear you came onto that thread in full attack mode so people responded in kind.
You can not like someone just because. There's no reason why you need to provide a 30 page dissertation on why you don't like someone. Your posts seemed to expect that and basically told people they had no right to dislike someone. It was confrontational and aggressive to me and I don't even participate on that thread.

 

[gigglesnort]

do you realize you are doing the same thing right now????

 

[JennInTN]

You are here asking for help, they are not.

If you participate....Water on a ducks back. It's a nice rule of thumb in the land of online communities.

 

[cats7494]

I am sorry, but I am going to have to agree with Crankyshank. I read the other thread and you did come off pretty aggressively. People will attack right back at you....

I do not understand your need for someone else to give a definitive reason for not liking a family on TV...you pushed a little too hard on that one for my liking.

 

[Keggy]

I truly don't understand why some people's opions are ok and other's are not.

You need to take your own advice here....

You need to just state your opinion and move on - not argue it death.

Just take a deep breath and walk away.

Kelly

 

[Livie's Mommy]

See here I go, having to defend myself again. Maybe the tone of my posts are not clear, but I came on that thread merely asking why people hated the team. How is that full attack? (And I am asking this in a low quiet tone, just in case you think I am attacking.) I came here looking for support from others who have gotten involved in these debates, not more strife. I really, sincerely appreciate you taking time to read my thread. I have gotten my answers, not everyone is welcome to state their opinion, and if they do state their opinion and take a while to ask ask questions , they are considered too passionate and an easy target. I understand and I am not upset, really. Ij ust misunderstood the freedom we have or do not have onthese boards to give our opinions. This just isn't the place for me to discuss my opinions, just the facts, I guess. I will be sure to stick to the threads that only state facts and tips from now on. Thanks again everyone. I really do apreciate it .

 

[Livie's Mommy]

do you realize you are doing the same thing right now????

Unnecessary...you don't like me, so why even respond?

 

[gigglesnort]

Unnecessary...you don't like me, so why even respond?

You are very, very sarcastic. And I can respond to whoever I'd like.

alright, I'm going home!

 

[Marseeya]

I am not being defensive here, but...
Why was I at fault there? I truly don't understand why some people's opions are ok and other's are not. I guess that is where I am coming from. Other people in that thread were just as fervent as I was. Why am I taking things too seriously and they are not? I was stating my opinion and asking questons, right?

This is just an observation from reading that little bit in the AR thread, but it seems as if you have the same attitude as everyone else as far as strong opinions. I'm not trying to be smart or anything, but could this be a case of "You can dish it out, but you can't take it"?

One thing I've found over the years of being on the 'net (since early 90s!) is that the energy you put out is the energy you get back.

 

[mommaU4]

I haven't read any of your posts and I don't think I need to.

Most people, myself included, when they read something that they agree with will just sit and nod at the computer screen in agreement. But when people read something that they strongly disagree with they are far more likely to speak up. So what I'm trying to say is that you might have more people that side with you but they just didn't post it so it seems your only getting attacked. Get it?

Besides who cares? Don't let things get to you. No one can please everyone all the time and who wants to? Just be your honest opinionated self and don't give it a second thought.

 

[ladycollector]

May be that is my problem, I am wrong and they are right and I just need to shut up?

No, but don't expect us to shut up either.

 

[luvmydogs]

I don't allow myself to get to worked up over things that occur on an internet BB. There are so many variables that can't be accounted for: body language, tone of voice or personal experiences that color one's perception are things that come to mind.

Step back and take a look at your own posts before you hit submit. Sometimes we post things in anger or frustration when we really should take a breath and rethink what we've written. It's hard to do, but look at your participation and posts without blinders. Do you really feel ganged up on, or did you contribute to the acrimony? If you go on the attack, people will give it right back--then it just becomes one big circle of snarkiness.

This place isn't all pixie dust just because it's Disney. People have opinions, and as long as they're within DIS guidelines, you'll hear them (and you'll hear some that aren't within guidlines too, and you can report them).

Easiest route to take--like others have said, use the ignore feature.