Need potty training advice again, please. (Long)

[Jenn Lynn]

I posted a couple of weeks ago that DD had started not telling us when she had to pee. This started about a week after my miscarriage and got worse when the Grandparents left.
So I started taking her to the potty a lot and she would go. She would then tell me when she had to poop but not pee.
For about a week now she has not wet her pull-up at night or during her nap time. Last night she slept from 10:30-7am and was dry. DH took her to the bathroom and she went, no problems. We have gone out numerous times and she has not wet her pants. Even used the "big potty" at a restaurant.
At times she will be sitting on the potty and say "all done" but she hasn't gone for a while. I have her still sit on the potty and 99% of the time she goes. Today she just stood by me and peed in her panties. I was right there!

TO experienced parents: Does this sound like a control issue? Mayeb it is an attention thing? What is the solution? Do I quite trying to work with her for a while and go back to diapers or pull-ups? Or do I keep at it?

This potty thing is really throwing me for a loop.

Thanks!

 

[powellrj]

I don't remember how old she is, but when my kids would do this I would just tell them, whoops you need to get cleaned up now and make them clean up themselves, once or twice and they were done with that!! They were older (3) so they could do simple clean-up. I don't think its a control issue as much as a what would happen if I did this.....kinda thing. Good Luck!!

 

[meandtheguys]

I don't know how old your little one is, but I would keep trying to work with her, maybe allowing her to earn trinkets or such for staying clean and dry. Each of my boys regressed during potty training when there was some sort of stress in the house, and it sounds as though you have had enough stress! I am so sorry about your miscarriage.

Michelle

The exception to my opinion would be if she is very young, or you are just plain too overwhelmed to deal with it. That would certainly be understandable. If that is the case, I would say ease up on all of you, step back and give yourselves a break.

 

[Jenn Lynn]

Avery just turned two. She is my only child so far.

Something else I forgot to add:Last night DH was putting her to bed and she told him she needed to go potty. She went in there and peed.

 

[manchurianbrownbear]

I know how you feel! Our DD4 will go several days, sometimes weeks, without having an accident and then have multiple accidents per day for awhile.

We could probably be more consistent in how we handle it. I like the idea of having her clean herself up.

She used to always come to us in tears when she had an accident, but recently she's stopped telling us and we aren't finding out about it until she sits on our lap, or we can smell her! I'm a little afraid that she's getting a little too comfortable having wet pants! This is not good for the furniture, carpet, etc...!

She starts pre-school this fall, so maybe peer pressure will provide incentive to visit the restroom more often!

Good luck!

 

[meandtheguys]

Yeah! She may just need a little time...Idon't know about girls, but my boys were just under 3 when they seemed to really have it.

Michelle

 

[peg2001]

Sounds like she is doing GREAT! Keep it up. Do not go back to diapers. You are almost there!

Accidents will happen. Try to feel better about them by realizing that the children learn more from an accident than from a success on the potty.

Help DD clean up, keep the attitude light. "Oops, you didn't make it to the potty in time. We'll do better next time. Let's get some dry clothes on."

Also, even after an accident, visit the potty. Sometimes they catch themselves after they've started and so haven't emptied yet.

Peggy

 

[Michelle]

I agree with the others, don't make a big deal out of it, ask her to help clean up as best she can and keep at it. She still is VERY young to master potty training and it sounds like she's doing quite well so far. It's not a continuous path, you'll take one step forward and two steps back sometimes.

Be thankful you have gotten this far, my DD was nearly FOUR before she mastered it.

Good luck!

 

[Jenn Lynn]

Thanks, you guys!

You just reaffirmed what I was feeling in my gut- to stick with it! I just didn't want her to need threapy in 20 years because of potty training! LOL!

Thanks again!