Need help in selecting a Wedding gift

[marlene1]

My friends daughter is getting married in November. she is 25. We have know her for 20 years. I would like to give her something that she will really like. In the $50 to $70 range. She has registered but I am not fired up about giving those things. I would like to give her something that she will remember was from us. I sure would appreciate and Ideas. thanks! I know you will help out!

 

[missypie]

Please give her something she registered for. If you want to do something personal, add a special message or poem to the card.

 

[becjlek]

I have given fire extinquishers for wedding presents. It isn't very personal and hopefully they will never need it, but if they do need one they have it.

 

[Chicago526]

Do you know if she has any collections you could add to? Precious Moments or the like? Some of those pieces can be quite expensive so a young person may not have bought them due to high cost.

Are you good at making things? My MIL is making us a handmade quilt for our wedding gift, and we'll cherish it more than anything else we've gotten or will get (we just got married Oct. 15).

Otherwise, maybe a REALLY nice photo frame (or set of frames) in usable sizes, like 5x7. There are always a ton of wedding photos so they'd be sure to use them. You can have it (or them) engraved. If you don't reach your spending limit on that, you could then buy something from the registry.

 

[jbdreamer]

I have always been of the opinion that you should buy something they registered for. Even if it is boring for you, it's stuff the want, and most likely NEED. Most the gifts I received that were not on my registry I have never used, or have gotten rid of. My great aunt went out of her way to get these expensive hand painted wine glasses she thought were fantastic. We'll they don't go with anything of mine, and I don't drink wine. Even though it was a nice thought, it was a waste.

My friends also just had a baby. They hardly got anything from their registry. Everyone bought cute baby things. As nice as those things were, they didn't have the things they needed. You should have seen how excited they were when we gave them a bottle set. They were thrilled!

So unless you know the gift is something they'll love, I think you should get something off the registry. That is for sure something they will really like!

 

[disneycjm]

One of the wedding gifts I received (which was actually from my godfather) was a frame that had my wedding invitation and also a slot next to it for a 5x7 picture. I put the picture of my DH and I lighting out unity candle in that slot. He wrote a very special note on the back of it. I've been married 4 years and still have it hanging in my bedroom.

 

[ChrisnSteph]

Please give her something she registered for. If you want to do something personal, add a special message or poem to the card.

I agree! I don't know why people are so weird about not buying from registry lists. They are the things that the couple obviously would appreciate and need, or they wouldn't have registered for them. If not, at least get something you know they would like - for example, if they registered for a frame, you don't have to get the exact frame they wanted. Go to Things Remembered or some place similar and get a personalized wedding frame. I got lots of things off of my wedding registry, and every time I set my table or use an item I received, I remember who gave it to me. Your bride and groom have given you ideas, use them!

 

[kerrynic78]

After getting married about a year ago and frequenting a wedding chat board all the time, I can tell you that the number one pet peeve of brides is getting stuff "off" of their registry. Your friend may be in the minority but I can not tell you how many times I heard girls complain about having too return stuff b/c it was not on their registry and they needed the things they put on the registry much more.

 

[Mandabella]

Honestly, cash or someone off the registry is what I would recommend for a wedding gift.

I had some people give me things off my registry, and I ended up with extras of some small appliances because of it.

 

[dennis99ss]

waterford candle holders, waterford cross, etc. Something they would not buy themselves

 

[princess pooh]

The only gift I really liked that wasn't from my registry (or cash) was a wooden memory box with our names and wedding date engraved on it. It was a nice place to keep the cards and other momentos from the wedding. Everything else got returned for stuff we needed.

 

[ceiligh1]

When we were married we were given items off of our list but we also were given things not on the list by very close friends. We remember the people who gave each type of gift every time we use them.
One thing to keep in mind if you are worried about a registry gift why not get them a small christmas ornament (sp?) with a gift card for the store that they are registered at. The places we registered at gave us a 15% discount to complete our list after we were married, we combined that with the after thanksgiving sale and were able to get everything on our list using our wedding giftcards that people gave us. We would not have been able to do so otherwise.
We did this for some of our friends using the waterford crystal star ornament. It is a nice gift and they will have it for years, long after they change the design of the china they use or the coffee pot breaks.

 

[liamandcaili]

Okay, I'll be the dissenting voice here...DH and I have been married nearly seven years and the things that weren't from my registry are the only ones I remember the giver. I have plates and glasses and silverware we registered for, but I have no idea who gave them to me. However, the pewter platter I use when company is here was a gift from Bethany and the crystal vase for pretty flower arrangements was from the Gradys.

In general, if I know the couple well, I do not purchase gifts from the registry. I select something that is a bit more personal...but also something I think they will like. Registries are nice...they are convenient, they provide guests an easy way to purchase a gift guaranteed to make the couple happy...but no couple should invite guests just for the gifts (let alone gifts from their registry) and no guest should feel obligated to buy these gifts.

In the past, I have given my friends such gifts as picnic baskets filled with romantic items, a nice champagne with glasses, or gift crates from Penzey Spices. A family friend gave both me and my sister gifts from Tiffany's...not on our registry, but it was really nice opening that blue package with the white bow

 

[antmaril]

We did this for some of our friends using the waterford crystal star ornament. It is a nice gift and they will have it for years, long after they change the design of the china they use or the coffee pot breaks.

We did this too. My brother-in-law got married last New Year's Eve and one of the gifts we gave them was a Waterford Tree Topper - it was really quite beautiful. We liked this gift because we knew they would think of us every time they decorate their Christmas Tree.

 

[marlene1]

Thanks so much for all your input! Well I ordered off their registry. I ordered their towels sets and bath rug from Dillards. I think they are very nice and will ceratinly be put to good use. Thanks again!

 

[kerrynic78]

Great choice Marlene!

I honestly think of my mom's best friend who bought us our towels every morning when I wrap myself in them..they are so nice and fluffy, I love them!!