My husband and I haven't been able to go to Disney since 2010. Helping elderly parents etc... I used to think I knew enough about Disney to help others with their plans. NOT anymore. I am lost. We are hoping to go in December 2019 for our 45th anniversary. I keep reading about the huge waits for rides even during the so called slow seasons. I don't think my husband will handle a wait even up to an hour. We have used FP before but it sounds like we would be lucky to do two or three rides in a day and still have a huge wait. Now I wonder if we should even go. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.
It is not as bad as you think.
First off, the first hour or so after a park opens for the day is golden, be there for rope drop. The lines are shorter, and you can get several attractions done during that first hour or two. Book your Fast Passes ahead of time, as early as you can. We like to make our first Fast Pass of the day for either 9:30 - 10:30, or 10:00 - 11:00, so that we have time to get a few rides in standby before going on that first FP ride. Do a couple of rides standby, and get to your first FP ride towards the end of it's window (say 10:20 for a 9:30 - 10:30 FP), then go to your second FP ride right at the beginning of it's window. As soon as you go through the tap point, then use
MDE to try to bump your third FP up to an earlier time (so in my example, we would be going on our second ride right at 10:30, and would then try to bump our 11:30 - 12:30 FP up to maybe 10:45 - 11:45).
If you've managed this, it is now time for lunch, and you've done at least 5 rides. The first ride you went on standby as soon as the park opened was one of the headliners, and one of your FP rides was another headliner. After lunch, you go for what ever has short wait times, and can manage at least a couple more rides before supper, ending the night with the evening entertainment. You should be able to fit in 7 or more rides in MK, probably about the same in Epcot. There aren't as many rides that we go on in AK, but last year we were able to do the Safari twice (morning, and then the night time safari too), Kali River Rapids, Flights of Passage, and Na'vi River Journey, plus saw Flights of Wonder, the Festival of the Lion King, and Rivers of Light, and still had time for lunch at Tusker House, supper at Flame Tree BBQ, and some shopping.
While it is true that waits are longer than they have been in the past, it is still possible to go on a fair number of rides in a day, and not stand in hour long lines. In general, we don't wait much more than 20 minutes in any line. It happens from time to time, but not very often. With a bit of appropriate planning, there is no reason why you can't go, experience everything you want to, and have a great time doing it.