Need help convincing my DH

[KateB]

So we have been owners since '09 and have been to WDW twice on points. After our January trip my DH said no trips for awhile since we just moved into a new house. I was totally ok with that until about 2 weeks ago when I got a sudden case of the Disney Blues. All I can think about is our next trip and how to get my DH to cave and go soon. I think my blues come from my lack of knowing when our next trip is. I am working at getting him to go August 2012, which gives us a nice gap but me a timeline. He says we have to have a deck first, but those are SOOOOO expensive! SO I guess my ultimate question is how do I get my DH to cave and say yes to August '12????

Any advice would be greatly appreciated... I am determined to crack him... somehow!

 

[bwvBound]

Do you have any points that may be close to expiring? You'd sure be better off booking a trip on those points than to lose them ...

 

[Mtnman44]

You can only skip one year before you have to do something with the points..... It might be worth it to wait a while and then have double the vacation.

 

[Greysword]

If you have points left over, rent them out and buy a new deck with the proceeds. You can then go next year with the new (or this year with borrowed) points.

Another option is to harp on the end of the world coming in Dec 2012. It is the Myans, after all. I'm using this excuse for a Dec 2012 trip (might as well see the end of the world at the World

 

[Simba's Mom]

So we have been owners since '09 and have been to WDW twice on points. After our January trip my DH said no trips for awhile since we just moved into a new house. I was totally ok with that until about 2 weeks ago when I got a sudden case of the Disney Blues. All I can think about is our next trip and how to get my DH to cave and go soon. I think my blues come from my lack of knowing when our next trip is. I am working at getting him to go August 2012, which gives us a nice gap but me a timeline. He says we have to have a deck first, but those are SOOOOO expensive! SO I guess my ultimate question is how do I get my DH to cave and say yes to August '12????

Any advice would be greatly appreciated... I am determined to crack him... somehow!

This might help in the long run, but first, are you willing to go alone? DH went through several years where he had no desire to go, but he said "Of you miss it so much, go ahead!" But then, when I was coming back telling him what fun I had and talking about some of the rides he hadn't experienced, places to eat that sounded fun to him, he went back. I still go alone sometimes-he just doesn't have the urge to go 2-3 times a year like I do. But when he goes, he looks forward to it and enjoys it.

 

[adminjedi]

If the issue is cost, consider a non-park resort vacation. Use your points for a "free vacation" by not paying for park passes. You can walk around the boardwalk, DTD, enjoy the resort, enjoy the pool, enjoy the atmosphere!

 

[Dizny Dad]

Create a budget showing the expected costs - savings include all of the ideas above (renting points, no parks, etc), but also plan on providing your own breakfast, pack a lunch to take with you during the day if you leave the resort, and counter service only for dinners.

There really is plenty to do without going to the theme parks. Each resort has somethiong to offer - go find out! We visit multiple resorts on every trip. At one end, the Grand Floridian has musical entertainment and seasonal things to do. At the other, Fort wilderness is wondeful and full of surprises! The area is full of free adventures.

Put a time line and budget together, rent some points, sell a few crafts this year, work to show him you can do it within the proposed budget. Geese, this sounds like my shpeel to my young engineers on how to get a proposal approved by the board . . . oh well, go with what you know!

 

[Mert]

TELL HIM YOUR MOTHERS COMING TO VISIT IN AUGUST 12, AND YOU HAVE ENOUGH POINTS FOR DISNEY INSTEAD OF A HOTEL. IT WOULD WORK ON ME. SAID WITH SMILE

 

[JBx3]

If he is a golfer, make sure you tell him there are great golf courses on site that he can go to on some days while everyone else is at the park!

 

[hakepb]

Decks don't have to be that expensive. (Now professionally installed from the highest bidder are)
Sounds like he needs a new tool or beer for some friends to help..

 

[KateB]

I totally agree that HE should be working on the deck but he refuses and wants that REALLY expensive composite junk! I said power washer and deal with staining it.... oh well.

I think I might try the world is ending on 2012! hehe
Plus it will be our anniversary.
My biggest selling point is that I want to go again before we have kids and his clocking is ticking loudly. hehe

Thanks the great advice I might have to try multiple angles. And the "I'll go without you" might just do the trick. I have a girlfriend that he doesn't really like and she would absolutely LOVE to go on a girl's only trip. Hmmmm....

 

[LauraLea]

Since you live in Michigan and if you intend to raise a family in that house, by all means, insist that he use "composite junk". Otherwise within 10 years he will have the excuse you cannot make a DVC trip because you have to replace the deck.

Laura

 

[dallastxcpa]

Have you tried the Hilton Head resort yet? It is absolutely wonderful and while it is not WDW the cast members are exceptional. There is tons to do for a couple without kids. Golf, tennis, tons of restaurants, sight seeing in Savannah and charleston, sitting by the ocean, building sand castles etc etc.

 

[csharpwv]

I think you should make him a photo book of your photos from previous trips!
That way he will remember the magic!

OR you could take a cruise on your points - that way, your budget will ONLY be your gratuities, and your transportation to the port - and home from the port!

You can stay on the ship and enjoy all of what is FREE, and not spend a dime!

REALLY - consider it!

Everyone says that a cruise isn't the best use of points, but until you can purchase the Dining Plan and buy park tickets with DVC points - there isn't going to be an all inclusive offer with DVC points - so - a cruise IS a nice use of points.

But as a PP said, you could always rent your points for the year, and use the proceeds to pay for the deck! That's a great use of points, because it kills two birds with one stone - the deck gets built - AND you remove your DH's barrier in the way of a Disney vacation!!!!!

Best of luck!

Being a DH myself, my DW never has to talk me into going.... I go willingly!

 

[arthur06]

I would agree that spend the extra money on the composite!

Are you doing the work yourself or are you hiring it done? If you are hiring it done, could you set it up for Aug '12 when you will be at Disney! That way you don't have to be at home when the construction is going on! And it will be a nice treat to come home to.

 

[Brian Noble]

Sounds like he needs a new tool or beer for some friends to help..

Unless one of those friends is in construction, this is a penny-wise but pound-foolish idea. I've seen lots of DIY decks. Most of them are Not Well Done.

 

[Mickey'sApprentice]

Have you thought about using points to make a RCI exchange to somewhere closer to home? As I recall, there are some interesting exchanges in your neck of the woods, maybe in the UP or Wisconsin.

 

[dairyqueenmom]

Since you live in Michigan and if you intend to raise a family in that house, by all means, insist that he use "composite junk". Otherwise within 10 years he will have the excuse you cannot make a DVC trip because you have to replace the deck.

Laura

Skip the "composite Junk"!! We have lived in Michigan, the same house for 16 years with the regular old deck. We have never stained it, just power wash it twice a year. We go to Disney atleast once a year, try to fit two in. You have to have your priorities, it sound like you need to adjust DH's!!

 

[KateB]

Skip the "composite Junk"!! We have lived in Michigan, the same house for 16 years with the regular old deck. We have never stained it, just power wash it twice a year. We go to Disney atleast once a year, try to fit two in. You have to have your priorities, it sound like you need to adjust DH's!!

HEHE!!! Absolutely! HE needs adjusting and I think I almost have him convinced. When I brought it up at dinner again he was not opposed to the idea. He thought I wanted to go THIS August and not next year.

Thanks for all the great advice everyone! I am working diligently and I think I see him cracking.