OP: I am sorry you had such a bad experience and I don't blame you one bit. We stayed at PIT in early June and luckily found a spot, but that was luck. There definitely needs to be a guard there (instead of the arm only - these arms break all the time) and they need to be consistently enforcing the parking rules. We, too, felt like the resort was crowded with day guests and this has greatly diminished our intent to buy there.
We stayed at FWC during the July 4th week.
On July 3rd, we had a 7pm ADR at Steakhouse 71. We were planning on taking the boats from FW, but it was POURING that night. So, we drove to the CR and valeted. We stayed to watch the fireworks and could barely find a place to watch it was so, so crowded. Clearly, there were a ton of day guests there. The next night, July 4th, we watched from the beach at FW and had a much better experience! We watched the fireworks, hopped in our golf cart, and were back in our cabin within 15-20 min.
An easy solution is to require (and enforce) day guests to park at DS or the TTC and use either the boat or the express monorail during times of high volume. This would be for park access and ADR's during certain times of the year. No parking at the resorts - full stop. AND scan in for pool access (but that's in another thread).
FWIW:
I feel the same way about GF during the Christmas holidays. This is our home resort and we specifically purchased there for the 11-month window during this time. We've stayed at GF the last three years there, and this year, will be staying at BRV. There were so many day guests taking the boats back and forth to the resort that we would have to wait for 2 or 3 boats - and this was in the middle of the day. And on nights of
MVMCP, the monorail is unusable due to the crowds. Last year, we had an early dinner at the Contemporary thinking we could get back in time before it really got crowded, and security wouldn't even allow us to get in line for the monorail. So we ended up walking from CR to VGF. It was raining. The lobby is packed and covered with scansions so folks can either get their picture made in front to the tree or get to the gingerbread house. And in the evening, the waits for the Enchanted Rose would go to 90 min. (This is during the first week of Dec. so I can't imagine what it's like closer to Christmas).