Need advice-Beauty pageant

[Buckalew11]

That is some scary site. Must say, I would object even stronger after seeing that. That is beyond sad and pathetic to me. Who does that to their child?

And their tiaras were hideous looking.

 

[luv2crash]

OP here.

HOLY COW! Please know that the school pageant that my daughter is going to be in is NOTHING like the website posted. That is way scary. What is with the crowns? My daughter will NEVER be in anything like that pageant.

The school pageant is open to any child who wants to enter. The money raised comes from the $5. admission charge. The people in attendance are parents and grandparents. The girls are not "pimped" out in anyway.

They wear church or party dresses. They have a closed interview session with the judges before the pageant. During the pageant, they simply walk down the runway while someone reads a little bio about the child. _________ is in the __grade and her favorite subject is reading. She plays piano and also plays in the bell choir at her church. She likes to play with her dog "Oreo" and ride her horses "Pearly Girl" and "Orion".

It really is light hearted and fun for the girls.

As far as winning, my dd doesn't care whether she wins or not. I didn't push her to be in this pageant she ASKED. I am not a "Stage Mom".

 

[MELSMICE]

Like a few others, I'm surprised there are beauty pageants in school.

 

[luv2crash]

Like a few others, I'm surprised there are beauty pageants in school.

They are pretty common around here. They are NOT like the ones you see on the internet and tv. Those are sick and I think the kids are pushed into them by their moms.

I feel like this thread went WAY off topic and I honestly didn't mean to cause a debate. I didn't know this was such a hot topic. I have been a member of the dis for a few years but don't post much.

I didn't mean to sound arrogant about my daughter's looks. I should have left those comments out. She is certainly NOT being groomed to be a "southern belle". She IS being taught manners and to be polite but those things aren't just southern. She is a girlie girl who is rough and tumble too.

 

[mytwotinks]

I do not think that you need to apologize for calling your dd pretty! How sad would that be if some little girl's own mom didn't think she was beautiful.

The way you describe the pageant sounds very harmless. I would let my dd's (who I also think are very pretty! ) do something like that if they asked.

I think that the south has a different attitude about things like that. It would never happen in KS. There is probably some good and bad in both cultures. Like another poster said, eventually here they won't be keeping score in sports till HS! The south is just much more openly competitive about things like that. In my opinion, the parents in my area are overly sheltering. I often think it's the parents themselves who get their feelings hurt when their kid doesn't win something and not the child that they claim to be protecting!

Have fun with it! Wish her luck.

 

[luv2crash]

I think that the south has a different attitude about things like that. It would never happen in KS. There is probably some good and bad in both cultures. Like another poster said, eventually here they won't be keeping score in sports till HS! The south is just much more openly competitive about things like that. In my opinion, the parents in my area are overly sheltering. I often think it's the parents themselves who get their feelings hurt when their kid doesn't win something and not the child that they claim to be protecting!

Have fun with it! Wish her luck.

Thanks! Yes, I agree that most of the time it is the parents who get hurt feelings. For instance, this football season, a Mom was in the stands yelling at the coach "He's been at every practice, put him in". She was yelling this over and over and calling the child's number. My son heard her on the field and said that her son was almost in tears he was so embarrassed. Cameron (my son) said he would walk off and never play a sport again if I did that to him.

 

[paigevz]

Thanks! Yes, I agree that most of the time it is the parents who get hurt feelings. For instance, this football season, a Mom was in the stands yelling at the coach "He's been at every practice, put him in". She was yelling this over and over and calling the child's number. My son heard her on the field and said that her son was almost in tears he was so embarrassed. Cameron (my son) said he would walk off and never play a sport again if I did that to him.

Well, that is sort of with the not keeping score camp that mytwotinks mentioned. The mother obviously was saying despite who plays better, her son was at all the practices, therefore he should be played. Meanwhile the coach only wanted the win and didn't care who got played as long as the best players were out there. I don't know, when it comes to kids' sports, I side with the mother on that, we don't want to be teaching them merely to win at all costs are we? Don't we want to teach them that playing and having fun and exercising are the important things? Not that coach. And the boys obviously already have internalized that too.........

 

[luv2crash]

Well, that is sort of with the not keeping score camp that mytwotinks mentioned. The mother obviously was saying despite who plays better, her son was at all the practices, therefore he should be played. Meanwhile the coach only wanted the win and didn't care who got played as long as the best players were out there. I don't know, when it comes to kids' sports, I side with the mother on that, we don't want to be teaching them merely to win at all costs are we? Don't we want to teach them that playing and having fun and exercising are the important things? Not that coach. And the boys obviously already have internalized that too.........

I totally agree with what you are saying. I just don't agree with the mother making a scene and embarassing her son. The matter should have been handled later with the coach.

This is a JV team. You have to try out to make the team, it's not like little league where everybody who wants to play gets to.

 

[mytwotinks]

Well, that is sort of with the not keeping score camp that mytwotinks mentioned. The mother obviously was saying despite who plays better, her son was at all the practices, therefore he should be played. Meanwhile the coach only wanted the win and didn't care who got played as long as the best players were out there. I don't know, when it comes to kids' sports, I side with the mother on that, we don't want to be teaching them merely to win at all costs are we? Don't we want to teach them that playing and having fun and exercising are the important things? Not that coach. And the boys obviously already have internalized that too.........

I'm not agreeing with the coach on that one, but I am taking the kids side. Children are capeable of understanding that life isn't always fair and dealing with it. Obviously if the kid was embarassed he had weighed his options and decided that he would rather sit on the bench than have his mom humiliate him. That mom could have talked to the coach without causing a scene.

I'm telling you, when you have parents boycotting a flutophone concert because their little precious didn't pass all of the songs, parents are over the top overprotective!

 

[ozarkmom]

Each year our junior class hosts two pageants one for junior high girls and one for high school girls. It is one of their largest fund raisers. The junior class pays for the junior senior prom. Also any money left over goes into their account as seniors and is spent on their project graduation. Anyway although the girls are older it's still a pageant held at school and they will have the title of Miss ___High school and Miss _____Jr. High. Oh and one of the high school clubs or organizations hosts a "womanless beauty pageant" money goes to a charity just can't remember which one.

 

[luv2crash]

I'm telling you, when you have parents boycotting a flutophone concert because their little precious didn't pass all of the songs, parents are over the top overprotective!

I agree, we have to teach our kids to cope with disappointment. What happens when they get older and don't get that job they wanted?

 

[luv2crash]

Each year our junior class hosts two pageants one for junior high girls and one for high school girls. It is one of their largest fund raisers. The junior class pays for the junior senior prom. Also any money left over goes into their account as seniors and is spent on their project graduation. Anyway although the girls are older it's still a pageant held at school and they will have the title of Miss ___High school and Miss _____Jr. High.

Thank You! I knew that our school couldn't be the only one!

 

[LotsOfQuestions]

Each year our junior class hosts two pageants one for junior high girls and one for high school girls. It is one of their largest fund raisers. The junior class pays for the junior senior prom. Also any money left over goes into their account as seniors and is spent on their project graduation. Anyway although the girls are older it's still a pageant held at school and they will have the title of Miss ___High school and Miss _____Jr. High. Oh and one of the high school clubs or organizations hosts a "womanless beauty pageant" money goes to a charity just can't remember which one.

That's just sad that this still happens in today's day and age.

What about the guys?

Do they hold a Beefcake fundraiser too?