Need advice-Beauty pageant

[TinkerbellMama]

From the tone of your post you might not disagree with me, OP...

I seriously question why any SCHOOL would be sponsoring or holding a BEAUTY PAGEANT?!?!?!?

 

[luv2crash]

I haven't gotten past the fact that your school is having a beauty pagent!

Yep.

Get this-in the Fall they have a "Harvest King and Queen" contest. Whoever raises the most money wins.

 

[cabanafrau]

I would be at every single PTO meeting, and organizing other parents against this. Schools should not be sponsoring beauty pageants.

Definitely. Sounds like some parents need to step up & take a more active role in the PTO. What on earth could the principal and the administration be thinking to let this go on?

 

[Piglets Mommy]

Yep.

Get this-in the Fall they have a "Harvest King and Queen" contest. Whoever raises the most money wins.

ok....so I might be spending a little more time at the PTA meetings trying to figure out WHY????

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Why do you need brains when you got beauty?

Yep.

Get this-in the Fall they have a "Harvest King and Queen" contest. Whoever raises the most money wins.

That's an important message for the schools to teach, also.

It's ok for you to not let her participate since that seems to be where your beliefs lead you. We don't let our kids do everything they want to even though I do hear my kids out.

 

[Aisling]

Definitely. Sounds like some parents need to step up & take a more active role in the PTO. What on earth could the principal and the administration be thinking to let this go on?

Maybe they can do a fashion show for a fund raiser. This way, the girls get to dress up and do the princess prance, but there's no judging involved.

 

[luv2crash]

Definitely. Sounds like some parents need to step up & take a more active role in the PTO. What on earth could the principal and the administration be thinking to let this go on?

There are a lot of schools here that have beauty pageants.

I have never heard parents complaining and never really thought it was much of an issue. I attend the pto meetings and am an involved parent. I help with the relay for life team and just choose not to be on the pageant committee because dd has never really expressed interest in it until now.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Maybe they can do a fashion show for a fund raiser. This way, the girls get to dress up and do the princess prance, but there's no judging involved.

I like that idea.

 

[donald&daisy]

I think the make-up you mentioned would be fine as long as you are both comfortable with it. Chances are she will want to put some on since her friends will be wearing it. I might let her approach you about it and take it from there.

 

[luv2crash]

Maybe they can do a fashion show for a fund raiser. This way, the girls get to dress up and do the princess prance, but there's no judging involved.

That is a great idea. Will have to throw that out there for next year.

 

[LotsOfQuestions]

My little girl has decided to be in her school beauty pageant this year. She is 8yo. What is appropriate makeup for her age. I thought a light shade of lip gloss, a little blush and some clear mascara just to make her eyes stand out a bit.

I am really stressing about this. She is so tender hearted and has only been in this pageant one time before (Kindergarten). They have an interview portion that counts 30% of the score. She is extremely shy with people she doesn't know and totally bombed the interview, giving one one answers.

Last time, she cried all the way home because all she wanted was a crown. Her Daddy went to Claire's and bought her a crown the very next morning and told her she would always be his princess and that she was the most beautiful little girl in the world.

She is 3 years older now and I know that she can handle the competition a little better but I still worry about her self esteem being crushed if she doesn't win.

She is beautiful. Long naturally curly hair and big brown eyes. Everybody says she looks like Keri Russell....but I know she will clam up in front of the judges. I really can't believe the interview counts as such a high % of the score. Especially with that age group.

I really dislike pageants. I was always in them in high school BUT I didn't wear my heart on my sleeve like she does. I did usually place and even won a few but I haven't told her this because I don't won't her to think she HAS to win.

Sorry this is so long. I am just so anxious to get this thing over.

Good one, OP.

This can't possibly be a serious post. It sounds way to reminiscent of last week's baby pageant with mom stressing over the dress post.

Only here we have the same wording used, but stressing over the fact that their daughter is beautiful, but might lose points when asked to use their brain. I can't imagine a parent indignant that a school puts brains over beauty and then going on and on about the beautiful curls and beauty of their 8 year old daughter.

Too much of a stereotype of the little southern belle, all beauty and no brains.

thanks for the chuckle of the day.

 

[luv2crash]

Good one, OP.

This can't possibly be a serious post. It sounds way to reminiscent of last week's baby pageant with mom stressing over the dress post.

Only here we have the same wording used, but stressing over the fact that their daughter is beautiful, but might lose points when asked to use their brain. I can't imagine a parent indignant that a school puts brains over beauty and then going on and on about the beautiful curls and beauty of their 8 year old daughter.

Too much of a stereotype of the little southern belle, all beauty and no brains.

thanks for the chuckle of the day.

I guess I missed the thread last week. I was really just curious about how much make up is appropriate at her age and started rambling.

Like I said she is very shy with people she doesn't know. I wasn't saying that I think beauty is more important than brains. SHE IS SHY. I didn't know that was an indicator of intelligence.

Also, I'm sorry I said my kid was pretty. Shame on me for being arrogant.

Wow! I wish I had read the other thread. I probably wouldn't have posted this.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I guess I missed the thread last week. I was really just curious about how much make up is appropriate at her age and started rambling.

Like I said she is very shy with people she doesn't know. I wasn't saying that I think beauty is more important than brains. SHE IS SHY. I didn't know that was an indicator of intelligence.

Also, I'm sorry I said my kid was pretty. Shame on me for being arrogant.

Wow! I wish I had read the other thread. I probably wouldn't have posted this.

That thread was about a 10 month old baby, so a bit of a different slant. I can't say I wouldn't allow my child to do it if I were in your shoes because that her age she's old enough to ask. I would probably encourage her to do something else, however.

 

[jbcheerchick93]

make up for an eight year old. hmm

maybe some pink lipstick, but nothing too gaudy. i see little girls all of the time that have deep red lipstick, glittery eyes, and tons of foundation. the most you should let her wear is some blush, a little bit of mascara, some eyeshadow that compliments her eyes, and some lipgloss and lipsick.

although i dont think that they should be in pageants that young, i am a lover of miss usa.

she is probably wanting glitter, but it is not a good idea

wish her luck from me!

 

[WeCantWait]

I would be at every single PTO meeting, and organizing other parents against this. Schools should not be sponsoring beauty pageants.

I agree. There are many ways to fundraise for a school. I cannot even imagine a beauty pageant being an option.

 

[luv2crash]

make up for an eight year old. hmm

maybe some pink lipstick, but nothing too gaudy. i see little girls all of the time that have deep red lipstick, glittery eyes, and tons of foundation. the most you should let her wear is some blush, a little bit of mascara, some eyeshadow that compliments her eyes, and some lipgloss and lipsick.

although i dont think that they should be in pageants that young, i am a lover of miss usa.

she is probably wanting glitter, but it is not a good idea

wish her luck from me!

Thank you!

I really dislike seeing little girls in grown up makeup. Your suggestions were what I was thinking.

 

[Beth76]

So is there a bachelor auction for the boys? I can't believe schools are pimping out their girls as a fundraiser.

 

[Aisling]

So is there a bachelor auction for the boys? I can't believe schools are pimping out their girls as a fundraiser.

I think in the south beauty pageants are very common, sort of like a southern cultural thing. I kow when I was looking into them from curiousity, the bigs ones were Texas, Alabama, and Georgia. "Pimping" is a as big an exaggeration as you can get. Believe it or not, there are some people who can see these pageants as innocent and fun, and not have sexual ideas come into mind, as pimping implies.

 

[Caropooh]

What kind of message is an elementary school sending out holding a beauty pageant? Besides the interview, what does this involve? Is it open to all students or just the students that can afford to go out and buy a new dress or outfit? At my DD9's school 62.3% of the kids are on free or reduced lunch.

 

[NMAmy]

Okay, OP, now that I've gotten over the shock of a school having a beauty pageant for little girls, I'll actually answer your question. I think the little bit of makeup you spoke of sounds like the way to go.

Since your dd is so tenderhearted, I would really think about allowing her to do this. I have a dd who used to be that way, as well. There are many other ways to build her confidence besides having people judge her on her looks instead of on her accomplishments and brains. I understand if all the girls are doing this, that she would want to do it, as well. It just seems like a really bad idea to me but, of course, you must do what you think is best for your family.

And, it just seriously blows my mind that a PTO is sponsoring a beauty pageant for little girls. I don't think I can get past the weirdness of that.