My wedding is falling apart..

[princessdisneybelle]

Well I just got the call that my Aunt and niece are not coming to my wedding. My Aunt is the Matron of honor and my niece was the ring bearer. I'm ready to give up. I know will have 2 people that are from my side of the family, other that my immediate family there out of 50. I just don't have the heart to do it anymore... Sorry for whining. I'm just so upset. I really do not know what to do.

 

[PrincessJen09]

OH no! I know exactly how you feel. A lot of my family is from out of town and will also not be able to make it to my wedding. I know how it feels when those closest to you cannot be there on your special day.

Did they give you a reason? Maybe you could all come up with a solution so that that they can make it. Or maybe have a home ceremony as well? I am not sure what else you could do. I am truly sorry though!

 

[princessdisneybelle]

Thank you but she would be coming from Las Vegas. Either home of Florida everyone has to travel. She just can't afford it. I am trying not to be selfish. But my wedding has been so stressful.. I am wondering if it's a sign now.

 

[PrincessJen09]

I dont think it is a sign, even though I can completely understand why you would think that. That is somethnig that I would think too. Is there anyway that you or your family could help her out? It is so unfortunate when it is money that keeps people apart. That is how it is with most of my family too. I hope everything works out for you!

 

[mystiichell]

Just remember the one important person is there - your DF & soon too be DH.

I don't mean to make light of your situation. My mom is the only person from my side of the family attending so I have been dealing with this issue for some time now - I decided the easiest thing for me to do was to remember all of the magic & not focus on the negative aspects.

I hope this doesn't sound too trivial & I know you probably don't want to hear the "look on the bright side" speech. But, from experience, I can tell you that once I started focusing on all of the positive things have been much better.

Also, it does help to pout for a while - just don't stay in that place too long.

Sending pixie dust your way

 

[jodeeluvsdisney]

Oh my gosh Laura! I don't even know what to say! Your wedding is right around the corner! Are their reasons valid??? How could they?

You of all people should have the most memorable wedding day of your life, nothing but happiness, good fortune, all smooth...I could go on and on...

And I do so hope everything works itself out. Is there any kind of back-up plan any of us can help you with. With all of us who want to attend your wedding, I am sure someone would step up to do MOH duties.

I am sooo bummed for you!!! You deserve better. Do not for once apologize for venting...you have never whined once that I have seen.

Let us know how we can help...you have helped everyone else tremendously...just say the word.

 

[luv4mylittleones]

I just wanted to tell you that we are here for you. I too am having trouble (DF's parents all of a sudden are not okay with us getting married since we moved the date from May to Dec...***???) Anyway, I'm not sure what to say but wanted to give you the biggest hugs ever and tell you that it will all work out! It will!!! hang in there...it's your wedding day. Take a few days to yourself, veg out, and do nothing...try not to worry. No matter what, this is going to be the best day of your life...the small stuff will soon be forgotten...you're getting married to the love of your life and that's forever!!!

 

[princessdisneybelle]

Oh my gosh Laura! I don't even know what to say! Your wedding is right around the corner! Are their reasons valid??? How could they?

You of all people should have the most memorable wedding day of your life, nothing but happiness, good fortune, all smooth...I could go on and on...

And I do so hope everything works itself out. Is there any kind of back-up plan any of us can help you with. With all of us who want to attend your wedding, I am sure someone would step up to do MOH duties.

I am sooo bummed for you!!! You deserve better. Do not for once apologize for venting...you have never whined once that I have seen.

Let us know how we can help...you have helped everyone else tremendously...just say the word.

Thank you, you are very sweet. This has just been one more thing in a long line of set backs. I'm trying to not be selfish and unhappy. I'm just really sad my niece and Aunt won't be there. They are finacial and personal reasons. I just do not know what to do. Everything is done. Programs made. Everything. Sigh. I can't stop crying. Thank God for all of you.

 

[TexasCourt]

Awww, I am so sorry this is happening to you. Keep your chin up and look toward the great future that awaits you. Only YOU can make YOU happy. I know it is disappointing, but you have a great wedding planned and it will be wonderful! Sending lots of your way!

 

[Glorydaz]

oh please Laura, don't give up now! you, out of all of us here, have been such an inspiration - it's truly been a joy to read your journal...

no, I do not make light of family and I feel for you - so close to the date. but you love him and he loves you. and it sounds like your family wants to be there but logistically, it just doesn't work...

I don't really know what to say to make you feel better...it's your day, it's your wedding and in the end, it will all turn out fine.

take some time for yourself, a long quiet bubble bath, a drive to your favorite place. reflect on all the good things in your life, take a few deep breaths and then dust yourself off and continue on this path to your new life - together

sending to you!

Michelle

 

[4luvofthemouse]

I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this so close to your date.
I'm having the same trouble with my brother. I understand on one hand but on the other it still kinda sucks! I think it's ok to be a little upset but at the same time try not to let it bring you down too much so that you can't enjoy everything.
Sending , Hope things get better soon!

 

[Emwit27]

I'm sorry to hear about your troubles Laura. Please don't let these setbacks ruin your day. I know how disapointed you must be, but try to remember that this day is about you and your fiance. It should be the happiest day of your life no matter what. You have put so much thought and effort into this wedding. You deserve a happy day. Please hold your chin up. You will get through this.

 

[Janet2k]

Well I just got the call that my Aunt and niece are not coming to my wedding. My Aunt is the Matron of honor and my niece was the ring bearer. I'm ready to give up.

Princessdisneybelle, most events have a few people drop out at the very last moment. Things happen in other folks’ lives that are completely out of our control. When it happened to me with my vow renewal, I took a deep breath and counted my blessings. It was all that I could do. But I allowed myself to feel sad because I knew those folks were going to miss out on a very special moment in my husband’s & my life. I’m only human, after all.

Vent all you want. You have a right to be disappointed and sad. Type in upper-case letters, if it will make you feel better (the Internet’s version of SCREAMING).

But take comfort in the fact that the only people who truly matter at your ceremony are your future husband and yourself. Everyone else is simply icing on the cake.

 

[Janet2k]

I am wondering if it's a sign now.

No, it's not a sign. Just something that happened. And things always happen. <<BIG HUGS>>

 

[princessdisneybelle]

Thank you ladies. Like usual you have saved me from going mad.. My 15yr old brother is gonna go from Groomsmen to Ring Bearer. That should be interesting.

 

[smoof]

Vent all you want. You have a right to be disappointed and sad. Type in upper-case letters, if it will make you feel better (the Internet’s version of SCREAMING).

But take comfort in the fact that the only people who truly matter at your ceremony are your future husband and yourself. Everyone else is simply icing on the cake.[/QUOTE]

Feel sad, even get a little mad. Its okay to do that. It really sucks. You are going to have an awesome wedding, and they will be part of it, just not physically. Honor them, and share everything with them on the phone, and hopefully not too long in person. I have been watching all your planning, and I can't wait to see your pics and read your report.

 

[Janet2k]

Thank you ladies. Like usual you have saved me from going mad.. My 15yr old brother is gonna go from Groomsmen to Ring Bearer. That should be interesting.

Princessdisneybelle, that's excellent news. But you honestly don't need a Ring Bearer. If you don't have one, the Best Man normally will put the rings in his pocket. And if that doesn’t work, make arrangements with your Officiant. Believe me, the Officiants have seen (and dealt with) just about everything.

 

[princessdisneybelle]

Thank you. But my brother needs a role now, and with my Aunt not there, he has no one to walk with. I thought about putting the ring pillow on the table up front and just taking the rings off of that too. I'm gonna talk to DF tonight and see what he thinks.

 

[Janell]

Princessdisneybelle I am so sorry to hear about all this. I am glad that your bother can step in and help.

 

[Kashmir104]

OMG Laura!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My heart goes out to you!!!!!

I know how difficult it must be, but please do not take it as a sign!!! The two most important people will be there... you and your DF. You will still have a beautiful, memorable, and special wedding!!

Sometimes God (or any other higher power you might believe in) works in strange ways, but I am confident everything will work out in the end!!!

We are all here for you!!!!!!