My wedding is falling apart..

[Kashmir104]

Thank you ladies. Like usual you have saved me from going mad.. My 15yr old brother is gonna go from Groomsmen to Ring Bearer. That should be interesting.

Well after that FANTASTIC picture we saw of him as the toilet paper bride, I have to say you have a great brother, and he will be the best Ring Bearer. In fact, I imagine he will take the roll on with pride

He just seems like a great, easy going brother!

 

[Janet2k]

...my brother needs a role now, and with my Aunt not there, he has no one to walk with. I thought about putting the ring pillow on the table up front and just taking the rings off of that too...

Take a look through the Internet to see how you might handle your ceremony now that your wedding party has changed slightly. For example, here are a couple of links to webpages that mention wedding rings and ceremonies:

Wikipedia: Wedding
Wikipedia: Wedding Ring
Wedding Rings: Myths & Truths
WeddingChannel.Com: Ring Bearer
About.Com: Planning Your Wedding Ceremony

The Internet is filled with all sorts of information. Perhaps it will help you find the perfect way to handle your current situation.

 

[princessdisneybelle]

Take a look through the Internet to see how you might handle your ceremony now that your wedding party has changed slightly. For example, here are a couple of links to webpages that mention wedding rings and ceremonies:

Wikipedia: Wedding
Wikipedia: Wedding Ring
Wedding Rings: Myths & Truths
WeddingChannel.Com: Ring Bearer
About.Com: Planning Your Wedding Ceremony

The Internet is filled with all sorts of information. Perhaps it will help you find the perfect way to handle your current situation.

Thank you Janet for looking this up for me. That was very sweet. I will look through them all. I'm sure there will be a solution.

 

[Lynn5700]

Laura omg I am so sorry.When I saw that it was you who posted this I was shocked. Your wedding is so close,that's a shame that they found out they couldn't make it last minute.

Don't worry your wedding is going to be beautiful with or with out all of your family there.
oh yeah and don't worry about the ring bearer situation,I am not having one,but if it is really important to you I am sure you can work something out.

Your wedding is going to be beautiful,trust me!!

 

[purplegirl247]

The good news is that you obviously have people (both family and "virtual"!!! ) that love you very much. It's a shame your aunt and niece can't be there, but at least they wanted to be there, right? That should make you feel a little better.

As far as the ringbearer, in our case the officiant just held ours in his pocket and presented them to us during that part of the ceremony. Like Janet2K said, you don't *need* to have a ring bearer, though having something for your brother to do would be nice (And apparently I missed these pics of him as a toilet paper bride?? that would've been fun to see! ).

Your wedding will be beautiful no matter what; we've all seen the hard work you've put into it! If you need any help/advice/shoulder to call on, just give me a ring!

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

Laura.........i wish i would have stayed online longer last night!!!

you feel free to vent on me today....im here for you!!!!

 

[marywdw]

Oh Laura! I'm so sorry that this has happened to you (again). I appreciate that traveling can be difficult and an expense, but if she accepted a role in the bridal party, couldn't she have realized this sooner????
It just sucks.....as everyone else has already said, as long as you are there and DF is there, it will be a complete wedding. I know it's disappointing, but don't let it ruin things for you and DON'T for one minute take it as some sort of sign!!! These things (as much as it sucks) happen (and I would imagine with "destination"-type weddings, they happen often). It's not any kind of sign.
All of your hard work and creativity will pay off and it will be beautiful. I feel sorry for those who will NOT be there to see it!
Please let us know if you need anything and/or feel free to rant more!

We love you!

 

[princessdisneybelle]

You are all very sweet. Thank you. I know she wanted to be there. I am just at this point dissappointed. I always thought no matter what she would be the one at my wedding. We are very close. I know the wedding will be beautiful. I'm just feeling blah. Now I have to go through everything and take all of her stuff out. . Christine thanks, I made need you and Steph way more than I thought.

 

[stitchlet]

Oh Laura, I am so very sorry that this has happened to you. Please don't look at this as a sign . . . as so many ladies have said, things happen for all kinds of reasons. You & your DF will have a wonderful wedding - you have put so much love & energy into all of your planning & crafting.

It's totally okay to be upset/mad/sad . . . whatever emotion you are feeling at the moment. Just remember that the two most important people are going to be there and that this wedding is the start of your new beautiful life together.

Hang in there & feel free to VENT away! We're all here for you

 

[Swmhc]

Hang in there ! Like everyone has already said...the two most important people will be there. My DF and I live in Iowa, his family in Michigan and mine in Missouri. Unfortunately our parents are not in good enough health to travel, so we knew from the start that no matter where we had the wedding, someone wouldn't be able to be there. So we decided to make it "fair" and not have it in either hometown. Actually, when we intially planned the ceremony, we figured it would just be my DF, DD and myself. We have had a couple of close friends decide to join us, but no family members seem to be able to afford it. So, that being said, we are going to have the most wonderful wedding, regardless of who decides to come and the rest can see the pictures when we get back.

You will have a great wedding and fantastic honeymoon !

 

[Belle1981]

Laura-OMG I am so sorry that you are going through all of this right before your big day! I agree with the other DISers remember that no matter who is there it still will be perfect. Don't lose hope as long as DF is there it will still be your magical day. I know it does not seem like it now but these things happen only to those people who are strong enough to handle them. You are an example to all of us brides to be! You are amazing and no matter who is standing there it will still be the most wonderful day of your life! Chin up and if you need anything I am here

 

[Maggimus]

Laura, I cant believe you are having to go through all of this. I am so sorry... I hope everything works out in the end. Remember that everything happens for a reason. If you need anything let me know. Hugs to you

 

[heatherlynn444]

Laura- I am so sorry this is happening to you! you have done so much beautiful and amazing planning, you can't give up! as everyone else has said, you get to be with your DF soon, and he will then be your HUSBAND! try to focus on how wonderful and FUN that is going to be! all things happen for a reaosn, so even though you may not be able to see it now, whatever happens was supposed to in some way or fashion. Keep your head up girl, everythign will be amazing!

 

[allisonswonderland]

I am very sorry that youhave to deal with a major upset just before your wedding. I too had some MAJOR fiascos and I kept thinking this must be a sign. To be honest Josh and I were fine but everyone else had to toss in their 2 cents about everything and it created ALOT of problems!!! It gets worse. We have now been married for 6 monthes and well things with Josh and me have been fine for the most part - he does not like to turn off the lights or put the dirty glasses in the dishwasher, but things are fine with us. There have been other stressors in our life but hopefully after Friday we will be on our way to smooth sailing! I hope that everything will work out for you.

Honestly much like you, I thought it was a sign and sometimes I still think maybe it was a sign....he has a crazy sis in law. Ao hopefully you will still have a magical wedding- focus on your wonderful day and you and your new husband

 

[princessdisneybelle]

I am very sorry that youhave to deal with a major upset just before your wedding. I too had some MAJOR fiascos and I kept thinking this must be a sign. To be honest Josh and I were fine but everyone else had to toss in their 2 cents about everything and it created ALOT of problems!!! It gets worse. We have now been married for 6 monthes and well things with Josh and me have been fine for the most part - he does not like to turn off the lights or put the dirty glasses in the dishwasher, but things are fine with us. There have been other stressors in our life but hopefully after Friday we will be on our way to smooth sailing! I hope that everything will work out for you.

Honestly much like you, I thought it was a sign and sometimes I still think maybe it was a sign....he has a crazy sis in law. Ao hopefully you will still have a magical wedding- focus on your wonderful day and you and your new husband

Thank you. Yes I am remembering the why this wedding is happening and that does make me very happy. Honestly I envy those people that just have the bride and groom there. So much less drama.

Hope life gets better for you. Family can be so stressful.

 

[melanieewr]

I wish I had some words of wisdom right now. I just can't imagine what you are feeling. I can tell from your posting here that you are a sweet and thougtful young woman. Sometimes that makes it so much harder when people disappoint us...because we try so hard to make everyone's experience memorable and beautiful. I know your day will still be beautiful and hopefully this will be an opportunity for some unique "twists" that will make it even more special. I just know it will all work out wonderfully.

 

[AbbyPan]

How did I miss your post?!?!?

Laura, its absolutely normal to feel overwhelmed with sad emotions initially, so don't ever apologize for venting!!!

I have to say though, that you have been such a wonderful example for many of us here on the boards and your wedding, I must say, is almost as important to us as it is to you really, that's how involved we are!!!

Whether or not your aunt & neice can make it (I really think its unkind and unfair that you were told this now, so close to your day) but anyway, this will not change the fact that you will be beautiful on your day. Your wedding is going to be one in a million and if you need help with anything you now how to get in contact with each and everyone of us!

sending you an enormous amount of pixie dust,

Abby

 

[princessdisneybelle]

How did I miss your post?!?!?

Laura, its absolutely normal to feel overwhelmed with sad emotions initially, so don't ever apologize for venting!!!

I have to say though, that you have been such a wonderful example for many of us here on the boards and your wedding, I must say, is almost as important to us as it is to you really, that's how involved we are!!!

Whether or not your aunt & neice can make it (I really think its unkind and unfair that you were told this now, so close to your day) but anyway, this will not change the fact that you will be beautiful on your day. Your wedding is going to be one in a million and if you need help with anything you now how to get in contact with each and everyone of us!

sending you an enormous amount of pixie dust,

Abby

Abby that is so sweet. I really wish alot of you were going to be at my wedding instead of some of the people that are. I can't wait to share it all with you. You have all kept me going.

 

[allisonswonderland]

I was going to add that I think going through all of this crappy stuff will hopefully only make the 2 of you stronger... it has us - I hope I think it has but it has only been 6 monthes, but we have been together for 8 yrs. Hang in there

 

[mermaidbride1108]

Hey Laura! I haven't been on in awhile but i wanted to say I'm sorry for all the added stress you have to go through
Chin up girl and I'll be praying for you that things turn out better - but don't think of it has a 'sign', your wedding will be beautiful with all of your creativity