My turn to vent?

[kaytieeldr]

Some of you may know, I'm thinking of taking a stand-up comedy course (see the link in my signature; the poll's closed, but the thread's still open for posting ).

In addition to the thread, I e-mailed one of my siblings to see if it was okay with that person that I ask some of their friends to see the "final exam" (each student has to guarantee at least two audience members).

Instead of 'yes' or 'no', I got two e-mails - one from another sibling stating only half-jokingly that if I followed through on my plans I would need to change my name or risk being disowned; and one from the original sibling telling me this is one of the stupider ideas I've ever had.

Nobody asked me WHY I want to take the class (overcoming a fear of public speaking, attempt to be more entertaining when I speak, possibly humor writing eventually, scheduling) even though we DO speak. I didn't ask either of them - or our other two siblings - to come to the show if I do this.

I didn't ask for opinions, and yes, I do realize (thanks, DIS Boards ) that just because someone doesn't want opinions doesn't mean other people won't offer them). I don't know a lot of people. I'm not very outgoing; I do know several of my siblings friends and just asked if it was thought they would come. "No and don't ask them" would have been sufficient.

Tell me I'm wrong to be upset and I'll let it go.

 

[rie'smom]

I'd ask different people and totally blow off the siblings. Good thing I don't know them because I'd slap them sideways. Shame on them for not supporting you.

 

[bballmom56]

I think it sounds like fun! If it was near me, I would go. And if it was a close friend or relative that I knew it meant a lot to, I would definitely go! I don't understand the put downs from your siblings. Yes, I would be upset. You didn't ask for their editorial comment.

Good for you for trying something new, trying to improve and taking a chance!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Your sibs are insensitive jerks, but I am sure you already knew that. Of course you can feel the emotion of pain and work thru it. That would be normal.

Now the secret of life is to move past it despite them. Good Luck! Hunt someone down and have FUN!!!

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

Well, unless you've ever asked or expected your siblings to financially support you in any way, their response seems harsh.

So, you know their point of view on the topic now, so move on. Seriously. Since you are doing this for yourself, and not to become the next great comedian, continue with your plans to expand your scope of social skills.

Ask others. If there is a charge for the entry to the show, buy the tickets for those you ask, so they will be more likely to show up.

Good luck to you.

 

[Disneylover79]

I would be upset....that was plan RUDE what your sibling said..they wouls Disown you?!?!?!? Over a class that you want to take to make yourself better,,,WTH?!?!?!?! That is just plan crazy

 

[ajk912]

The thing about siblings is you can rag on your siblings and poke fun and you have to be willing to laugh at yourself (ESPECIALLY if you are taking a stand up comedy course!!!). I can totally see my brothers having that same response, and I would respond back.."haha, ok, can you come? A few hours out of your day won't kill you."

The response seems harsh from just about anyone else..but family members often have more comfortable and less formal relationships. If you can't be brutally honest with your brothers and sisters..who CAN you be honest with? Ok, spouses, too. I can see my DH saying that.

 

[Tink888]

Some of you may know, I'm thinking of taking a stand-up comedy course (see the link in my signature; the poll's closed, but the thread's still open for posting ).

In addition to the thread, I e-mailed one of my siblings to see if it was okay with that person that I ask some of their friends to see the "final exam" (each student has to guarantee at least two audience members).

Instead of 'yes' or 'no', I got two e-mails - one from another sibling stating only half-jokingly that if I followed through on my plans I would need to change my name or risk being disowned;this comment, I would've taken as a joke, it is a stand-up comedy class after all, and laughed it off) and one from the original sibling telling me this is one of the stupider ideas I've ever had. this, was just plain rude and yes, I've would've been hurt & mad as well

Nobody asked me WHY I want to take the class (overcoming a fear of public speaking, attempt to be more entertaining when I speak, possibly humor writing eventually, scheduling) even though we DO speak. I didn't ask either of them - or our other two siblings - to come to the show if I do this.

I didn't ask for opinions, and yes, I do realize (thanks, DIS Boards ) that just because someone doesn't want opinions doesn't mean other people won't offer them). I don't know a lot of people. I'm not very outgoing; I do know several of my siblings friends and just asked if it was thought they would come. "No and don't ask them" would have been sufficient.

Tell me I'm wrong to be upset and I'll let it go.

You're not wrong to be upset but let it go anyway. Most people are more inclined to give unsolicited opinions as opposed to asking why. A lot of people, even sibs sometimes, would rather tear a person down instead of building them up. Forget em'!

The class sounds like a lot of fun. Go! Enjoy yourself. Have fun. Overcome your fears and be happy. The joke will be on the naysayers.

 

[happygirl]

Do it have a great time I wish I had the nerve to something like that

 

[Acklander]

One thing I've learned in life is that no matter what you do, you're always going to find nay-sayers. Always. If it's important to you, your going to find a way to do it anyway, no matter what others say about it. And if you're interested in doing stand up (or comedy writing) you're going to have to develop a really thick skin about criticism - It's par for the course, and no one is immune from it. Just consider your siblings response as part of your training and move forward. Good luck with your class, it sounds like a lot of fun

 

[java]

If it was my sibling I would be going. No questions asked. I'm sorry they are trying to burst your bubble. Personally I would email back the "stupidest" sibling and point out the reasons you are trying it. And I would also add them to my act!

 

[scrapquitler]

Maybe your siblings are worried about you potentially embarassing them? I only say this because a lot of times, stand up comics tell silly stories about their family and childhood that are funny...and maybe your siblings are worried that if they show up, they will be the target of such stories? That's the only thing I can think of that would prompt this kind of wierd reaction...

 

[dis-happy]

I think it's wonderful that you're doing this and wish there could be a DIS contingent in the audience for your final. I know some of your posts make me laugh....

 

[agnes!]

I think it's wonderful that you're doing this and wish there could be a DIS contingent in the audience for your final. I know some of your posts make me laugh....

Well, if there are some DIS'ers where the stand-up is going to take place, maybe folks could arrange a DIS-(comedy)meet ?

agnes!

 

[memster]

I'd ask different people and totally blow off the siblings. Good thing I don't know them because I'd slap them sideways. Shame on them for not supporting you.

Ditto

 

[Jennasis]

Did I read that right? Did you e-mail the sibs to ask for permission to ask a friend of the sibs to attend? Why would you need your siblings permission to do that??

Your siblings are insensitive clods. I would LOVE to go see my sisters do stand up.

 

[CathrynRose]

Tell me I'm wrong to be upset and I'll let it go.

No, I think you're right to be upset, but I'd still let it go.

Haven't you noticed, in life, that a lot of times people will do things, say things to make you feel stupid, or inadequate, but down the road you find out that it was THEIR insecurity fueling that comment?

I don't understand why anyone would say anything negative to you, regarding something that you're interested in, and excited about.

And if I lived closer, I'd go!

 

[disykat]

You are upset because you feel your siblings are being unsupportive. It is normal to feel that way.

I do have some questions though. Did you already invite your siblings? Why are you inviting THEIR friends instead of your own? Could THAT be the real issue?

 

[OceanAnnie]

No, I think you're right to be upset, but I'd still let it go.

Haven't you noticed, in life, that a lot of times people will do things, say things to make you feel stupid, or inadequate, but down the road you find out that it was THEIR insecurity fueling that comment?

I don't understand why anyone would say anything negative to you, regarding something that you're interested in, and excited about.

And if I lived closer, I'd go!

I agree. And ditto about going if I were close by! Do something nice for yourself today. Don't let them get you down.

 

[sbell111]

Hoping that Paul Harvey will pop in to give us 'the rest of the story'...