My son's going to get it....

[Disney1fan2002]

We play slaps..Well we did...You slap eachothers hands to see whos gets redder.


Yes..I think it was just him being a kid..I mean I used to things like that all the time...I think either an apoligy note would be suitable enough.

Hey, think of the balancing skills he is helping the other kids learn!

When I was in 5th grade, we played "chicken". Two kids, one went up one end, and the other went up the other end of the monkey bars. We would meet in the middle, and try to kick the other one down. The winner moved onto to the next challenger.We loved it, I was one of very FEW girls who could play and stay in the game. Some mean teacher's stopped it. Probably because some cry-baby showed off a bruise or two. LOL

I don't think you need to punish him too harshly. A stern lecture, and if he does it again, a harsher punishment.

 

[nkjzmom]

Well, he's sitting in ISS right now...poor kid. We talked quite a bit last night.

As I've been thinking about the whole situation today I've begun to doubt the ISS punishment. Although the principal reassured me that it wasn't serious and wouldn't go on his record I wonder if it's really an ISS or more of a "time-out" from the class for a few hours. I tried calling her and she is out until tomorrow, so I don't know who he is sitting with either. This is his first offense, if you want to call it that even. I just wonder if there was another option for punishment. I just can't get past the term "ISS". Maybe he should have had an hour's detention or missed PE/art/music/recess etc....I'm feeling that to remove him from the class entirely is a little extreme. DH even mentioned him being labeled by the other kids. "HE got ISS!!!" I'd like to hear from his teacher to understand what happened more completely I guess. To just have the principal call and say your son tripped a child who scraped his arm and now your son will be in ISS for a day is seeming harsh to me.

Why can't our kids do everything perfectly? Why must they torture us like this???

 

[SC Minnie]

Can you send an email or call the teacher to find out her side? ISS is taking him away from class time. He will only have written work to do. If there is anything discussed in class that is relavent he will miss it.

 

[sha_lyn]

I'm sorry, but I don't understand why the schools punishment is bothering you when you were seriously thinking of grounding him from pretty much everything for weeks.
IMHO 1 day of ISS is a lot less severe than several weeks of grounding.

 

[kristen821]

Thank you for the idea. I never heard anything like this! I have the worse habit of giving too harsh of a punishment when I am mad and then backing out on it later. I told my ds that he was going to be grounded the other day when he got home from school. During the day I got over it and realized it was a little harsh so I let him out when he came home from school. He said something when he got home like you always forget you ground me. It isn't that I forget it just that I am not mad anymore and realize he doen't need that punishment, but it is a very bad habit of mine because he is going to think that he won't be punished because I will forget so the penalty box sounds great!

 

[nkjzmom]

I'm sorry, but I don't understand why the schools punishment is bothering you when you were seriously thinking of grounding him from pretty much everything for weeks.
IMHO 1 day of ISS is a lot less severe than several weeks of grounding.

First of all DH wanted the longer grounding, not me, and we've solved that already in a few other ways.

Second, I am just questioning whether the ISS is the appropriate step for a child's first offense. Our code of conduct describes the types of discipline, not necessarily the order in which they will be enforced. The code lists detention and probation from other activities above the info for an ISS. I get the feeling that he is being used as the guinea pig to show the kids they are serious about stopping this game...which I understand...someone has to be first, but according to DS there are MANY kids doing this and most are the ones who are frequent offenders. According to DS his teacher announced today that they will not put up with anyone playing this game any longer and that someone has been assigned to ISS already for playing it and there sat DS's desk unoccupied.

 

[luvdzne]

The kids and I sat down and made up penalties. They run the gammit from 'go to bed at 8:00 tonight," to "no TV for the rest of the day," to "vacuum all 3 floors of our house." There are a variety of other punishments in the box, too. The kids helped me make them up and they were far rougher about them than I would have been. Each was figuring that the other would pick the penalties that they came up with.

Thank you for telling us about the penelty box. I am so excited to try this. I am going to sit down with DD's this weekend and put our penalty box together. I especially like the idea of the mercy cards. Great


kristen821....That sounds so much like me too. The DD's will do something that makes me so mad and in the heat of the moment I will give them an unrealistic punishment. I either A. forget about it, or B. have punishers remorse and realize that grounding them to their room for the rest of their life just isn't realistic. (Well it sounded good at the time) My DD11 has actually told me "I don't care, you won't remember tomorrow any way."

nkjzmom.... As my dear friend once told me "This to shall pass." Hopefully he learned a lesson and this will be the only ISS he gets. Although in this instance I think missing valuable class time is a bit much. I would think after school detention, sitting in the office for lunch, etc would have better fit the crime.

 

[horseshowmom]

School personnel checking in here. This is just a guess, but I suspect that this had been going on and going on, and they finally decided that the school had to put their foot down.

Your DS had the misfortune to probably be the one who was the next one to do it. The fact that the other boy had some minor injuries (very, very minor it sounds like) may have contributed to the situation.

In all honesty, ISS sounds awful, but if he's only sitting in the office doing his work, it's not that big of a deal (I doubt that it's going on his "permanent record" ). They'll make sure that he gets done what he needs to get done.

It sounds like they punished him, you punished him, and it's basically over now. I think he did a good job of handling it by helping the boy up and helping him clean up. Sounds like a good kid!