My nephew eloped!! UPDATED Pg 2

[kdibattista]

I say support the new couple... it's hard enough being a newlywed but imagine having everyone you know against you . What's done is done.

 

[6_Time_Momma]

Well, the other set of grandparents called my mom last night. My nephew's wife is pregnant. She is due in January.

I will definitely be supportive of my nephew and I wish it all does work out for them, but obviously I do feel this was way too soon (fast).

Wow, my brother will be a grandpa at the ripe old age of 39.

And my mom and dad will be great-grandparents at age 57 and 60.

No wonder my mom is so upset.

 

[phorsenuf]

Yes, that is a young and sudden, but if they are committed they can make it work. I think these days couples just don't try as hard since there is always that "out" (divorce). Now don't flame me, but I personally think that the powers that be just make it too easy to get divorced which then doesn't give couples a chance to work it out. Somebody please explain to me "irreconciable <sp?> differences". To me that translates "copout".

Anyways, the point being, my parents met and eloped after one or two dates. He was Catholic and she was Jewish. This was back when it was a big no-no! They too eloped. I think she was 17. They were married for over 15 years before my mother passed away.
I was 19 and pregnant when I married. We will be celebrating 20 years this July! We had told each other divorce was not an option and we would make it work! Well it did and we have lasted longer than many of our friends who had dated for years and then got married. You just never know. Just give them your support and hope it works out for the best.

 

[Cindy B]

My sister eloped back in 1990. She was 21, and he was 25. They've been together for 13 years, but are unfortunately separating. They were going together for a while, and the wedding was postponed a few times before they eloped.

I got married at the ripe old age of 20. I went my then DH at 19, and he was older, 27. (I was a very mature 19!) We met in February/March of 1990, went on our first date in May of 1990... and then got engaged October 1990. Married September 1991


Has it been easy? Sometimes, but remember there are hills and valleys all the time. There are many poeple that I know that get married due to a child circumstance. I personally think its great that he wants to support her and not leave. Your nephew shows great courage and resolve to work this all through.

They will have a lot together to work through. New marriage, new baby, new living situation all in a short time. Support them and love them.. they will have many naysayers..

As for 39, being a grandfather.. well, if I am doing my math,correctly your brother was young when he had him... he should remember that.

Since we got married young.. my mothers one requirement was dont make me a gradmother until I'm forty. She was 46 when my son was born!

 

[s&k'smom]

My brother too was in the service and married young. According to him alot of them do as they are lonely. On top of it she is pregnant. The fact they have only known each other for a very short time they certainly have many odds against them. I was 23 when I met my DH and I knew immeidately I would marry him. We were married 2 years later. I send the couple a lot of luck. I really, really hate to sound down but they are going to need all the luck and prayers in the world.

 

[mhopset]

Thank God Seth is only 6!