My Mum died this weekend

[HelenePA]

I'm sorry for your loss, and I'm sorry you have a jerk for a boss.

 

[bumbershoot]

I am so sorry.

I did have a couple weeks off, unpaid (but no one was counting on my paycheck and my stepdad helped out with money), but even then coming back was very very hard. I cried every day at work. I can't believe your bosses.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Very sorry to hear of the loss of your mum, tigercat. And along with the tough time of the moment, how your work is not making it easier for you. You have our condolences. God speed for you mum.

 

[*Fantasia*]

I'm sorry for your loss. Your boss is heartless.

 

[suzannews]

Hugs to you and your family.

 

[Briarmom]

I am so very sorry for your loss.

 

[mickeyboat]

I am sorry for your loss.

Denae

 

[clori]

I'm surprised. Once I was working for a national retail store and had only been there a few weeks when my sil's father passed away. My sil asked me if I could watch my 2 year old nephew and help set things up at the house for people coming over after (no wake but a Shiva house since they are Jewish). I told my boss about the situation and asked if I could take the day off without pay. My direct boss was fine with it but isn't in charge of pay beyond hours punched in. I never claimed to be attending the funeral and I definately said that it wasn't a direct relative of mine although I did know him. I was happily surprised to get bereavement pay. i mentioned it to human resource person who said the store manager told her to put it thru even knowing that technically I didn't qualify.

 

[Cinders Mum]

I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[cteddiesgirl]

Hugs for your loss and *kicks* for your boss.

 

[Chicago526]

I'm so sorry. I lost my mom September of '07 and it's was (and is) so difficult. Her illness was much quicker, by the time we new she was seriously ill she only had a few weeks left.

My company was fantastic. The gave me a week's leave (paid out of my sick time) to fly out there to visit her while she was in hospice (turns out it was for the best, she passed while I was out there) and another 5 days of berevement (per company policy, everyone gets that for the death of a parent), which covered the time I needed for the funeral. The would have let me take another 5 days off (paid out of my sick leave, I have a lot banked since I've been here so long) but I decided to go back to work. I would have only sat home and brooded over everything, work gave me something to do at least. Anyway, this is how companies SHOULD treat their employees. Give them whatever time off that is needed (within reason of course) and not to hassle them at a time when the employee doesn't need any extra stress.

Everyone morns differently, there is no one right way to do it. Whatever feels right to you is what you should do. I was okay going back to work quickly, others may need more time. Some people cry buckets, others don't cry at all. Don't let anyone tell you your reactions or feelings are some how "wrong' because it's not the way THEY felt when THEY lost someone close. It's not about THEM it's about you and your grief. Take your own path, and work through it in your own way.

 

[Stitchfans]

So sorry.

 

[Goofy442]

I'm so sorry for your loss.
When my father passed on easter (08) they gave my husband three days paid bereavement. One month later his father passed and they gave him 3 days paid bereavement.

 

[Laura]

I'm sorry you lost your mom and have to deal with stupid work crap on top of that.

 

[nikkistevej]

I'm sorry for your loss. My Dad passed away at the end of October- it's been very hard.

 

[Doesney]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[xoprincessmomxo]

I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my mom nearly 8 years ago and it is still hard.

As for the work situation, I feel for you there. I took time off without pay to be with my mom as she was dying, had it OK'd by one of the managers, only to go back to work after the funeral and find I had no job. I had also just found out I was pregnant. Yes, I probably could have sued and if it happened today, I would have. But they knew I was only a 20 year old girl who'd just gone through the worst and best times of her life in the same week, had no money to hire a lawyer, nor the know how of what to do. But, it gave me the chance to be a stay at home mom for the first year of my daughter's life and I loved that!

 

[fairykin]

Prayers for You.

 

[piney]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is such a life changing thing - I can't believe your company is so heartless.