My MIL missed out!

[OhMari]

My MIL and FIL are only 65 yrs old.

Anyway about 15 yrs ago they went to WDW with my mother in-law, sister and her husband. I always heard "we have to go there", one day I want to take your kids. It never happened.

I am so grateful I didn't wait around and we went as a family ourselves a few times. My kids are all in h.s. and college now.

My mil and fil have one son, my husband and one dd-40 who is now married with a 5 year old. My mil walked in my house the other day and said, "her dd's family is going with her in-laws to Florida next spring. My sister-in-law husbands parents (are you staying with me) are taking themselves, their 2 sons and wives and the grand daughter. My mother-in-law is perturbed that her granddaughter talks non stop about going to Disney.

I then said, "oh, so they are going to WDW". And she said, Yes. My kids all chimed in, "that's mom favorite place on earth."

Do I feel bad for my mother-in-law, no. She had ever opportunity to go with us when we went, and she never planned a vacation with us. Now she lost out on the opportunity to take her last grand child.

Sure, they could always take her next year or the years after, but it will never happen, just like it didn't happen with my kids.

I guess the moral of the story is, don't ever wait for someone else to take you to WDW. My kids always talk about our road adventures we took to WDW. We really made some great memories.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

I feel that way about any vacation. My ex-MIL used to tell me to wait for another adult to go with me camping with the kids, etc. If I waited around for other people to be ready to go places my kids & I would still be sitting at home. I did go to WDW w/my dad, his wife, and her grandson. We had a great time there.

 

[inaminute]

I always heard "we have to go there", one day I want to take your kids. It never happened.

You're upset with your MIL because of some vague statement she made? I guess I'm just not understanding why you're upset with your MIL and why you feel she deserves to feel bad about everyone going to Disney. Have they been invited on your trips? Can they even afford the trip? Have either your DH or his sister offered to pay their way?

Besides, she's still here. Your kids are still here. Who's to say she won't make good on her statement? Just because they're in high school and college doesn't mean grandma won't take them. It also doesn't mean she doesn't want to take them. It just means she may not have the money or is unable to in other ways.

I guess the moral of the story is, don't ever wait for someone else to take you to WDW.

I'd never wait for someone to take me or my kids on a vacation on just an "I want to take them someday..." SOMEDAY is way too vague. I can't imagine expecting anything based on that.

If I want to go on vacation, I'll take myself.

 

[OhMari]

You're upset with your MIL because of some vague statement she made? I guess I'm just not understanding why you're upset with your MIL and why you feel she deserves to feel bad about everyone going to Disney. Have they been invited on your trips? Can they even afford the trip? Have either your DH or his sister offered to pay their way?

Besides, she's still here. Your kids are still here. Who's to say she won't make good on her statement? Just because they're in high school and college doesn't mean grandma won't take them. It also doesn't mean she doesn't want to take them. It just means she may not have the money or is unable to in other ways.



I'd never wait for someone to take me or my kids on a vacation on just an "I want to take them someday..." SOMEDAY is way too vague. I can't imagine expecting anything based on that.

If I want to go on vacation, I'll take myself.

I really didn't know how much to reveal about the whole situation, but yes, she is living very well off. And yes we have invited them along with us on vacation. They are the type of people that always have an excuse.

 

[inaminute]

I really didn't know how much to reveal about the whole situation, but yes, she is living very well off. And yes we have invited them along with us on vacation. They are the type of people that always have an excuse.

Then, you are right--she did miss out! It does make a difference if one is asked and refuses. She can't complain under those circumstances. But, it was her decision.

Fortunately, you have wonderful memories of fabulous vacations with your kids. I believe that when this life on earth is over our memories are all we take with us. You'll have wonderful ones of your Disney trips wiht your kids.

 

[DVC Jen]

I feel the exact say way you do.. but I can add a twist. My parents died when I was 13 and 16. We did all kinds of things together when I was young. They loved to camp and travel. We were always taking the camper somewhere..even to canada one time.

After my Mom died..about a year before my Dad passed he said he was so glad they didn't wait for retirement like so many others do.. because that was never coming for them.

So my DH and I am determined to save for retirement but also live for NOW and enjoy our lives and our family right now.. there are no promises of tomorrow for any of us.

 

[Missy1961]

I was the one who DIDN"T miss out!

Let me explain. I am single, no kids. I went along to WDW with my brother & his family (twice) & DL with him once. I also was asked to join my younger sister & her family in 2004, and had a great time. But I started to realize that I couldn't wait around for them to ask me to join them, nor did I want to continue butting in on their family time, so I decided to do a solo trip. I was nervous, but I did it this September & had a great time!

 

[Disney Doll]

So you're mad at your MIL beacuse she never took you guys on vacation even though, in your estimation, she had the financial wherewithal to do so???

And why will she never get the chance to take her last grandchild to WDW?? Is she dying or something? I mean, her DGD is going with the other grandparents this time. Maybe your MIL can take her next time, if it's that important to her to do so.

And did anyone ever think that maybe she doesn't want to pay for her kids' and grandkids' vacations?

 

[OhMari]

So you're mad at your MIL beacuse she never took you guys on vacation even though, in your estimation, she had the financial wherewithal to do so???

And why will she never get the chance to take her last grandchild to WDW?? Is she dying or something? I mean, her DGD is going with the other grandparents this time. Maybe your MIL can take her next time, if it's that important to her to do so.

And did anyone ever think that maybe she doesn't want to pay for her kids' and grandkids' vacations?

You stated I am probably mad, not mad just disappointed. My in-laws were the type of people that lived to work, not worked to live. I don't know how many times my mil showed us her 401K and her stocks when they were doubling and tripling in the 90's. And, she just inherited almost 1/2 million, so she is now playing with that money in the stock market. When she retired from the bank, she was told by her investor that she should take most of her money out of the stock market now because of her retirement age. She is so happy she is able to play in the stock market again.


I doubt that she will take her other granddaughter to WDW, why? because she never took ours. It is an excuse for her and in her mind she is rationalizing that she didn't do it for her sons kids, so she won't do it for her daughter's child. That will be her excuse.

She never has paid for any of her grandchildren's vacation, or taken them on a vacation. I'm just sad that they missed out of my kids lives. (this includes concerts, sporting events-you name, they never came).

Sad thing is we live only 5 miles apart. We may see them when they are on there way home from going out to eat on a Sunday nite and they stop in for something trivial, like a burnt out headlite in their car. Or, mainly to let us know how we are doing something wrong. We all learned to tune them out.