My inlaws are unreal!

[Disneyglobegirl]

Anyone else have inlaws like this? FIL called me to wish me a Happy Birthday on DH's EX's birthday!! Our Bday's are about amonth a part but I've been married to DH for 15 years!! You'd think he would know by now!!! I can't say that DH didn't warn me about them - they are pretty kooky. I guess at least he called though -the other inlaws didn't even acknowledge my Bday. Thanks for letting me vent!

 

[canwegosoon]

If it makes you fell like you're not the only one, my MIL still mis spells my name(15 years later!)... Like you said at least they remembered...hoping they get their calander straight!!!

 

[Disneyglobegirl]

If it makes you fell like you're not the only one, my MIL still mis spells my name(15 years later!)... Like you said at least they remembered...hoping they get their calander straight!!!

Thanks - I have learned to let alot of things they do just slide - if I didn't laugh about it I could go nuts - LOL My family always enjoys hearing the "What did they do now stories though" LOL

 

[Rex Rules]

My FIL didn't even bother to call - and considering they always make such a huge freaking deal about everyone else's birthday - it always hurts my feelings. Didn't get a present, either and this was exactly three weeks after they gave DH's brother's wife really nice jewelry for her birthday - with a cake and ice cream!! It's like this every year - you'd think I would get over it, but I don't.

 

[ntburns22]

My FIL didn't even bother to call - and considering they always make such a huge freaking deal about everyone else's birthday - it always hurts my feelings. Didn't get a present, either and this was exactly three weeks after they gave DH's brother's wife really nice jewelry for her birthday - with a cake and ice cream!! It's like this every year - you'd think I would get over it, but I don't.

I really feel you. My DH's parents are divorced. His mom is great to me his dad on the other hand not so good. he never remembers my B-day but he does everyone else and 1 year for Christmas I got a coupon for Applebee's the the other DIL's recieved nice gifts like candles, glasses, ect. Talk about feeling low.

 

[jbdreamer]

Why do they even know the date of your EX's b-day to even be able to mix it up with yours?

Yea, I would be mad too.

 

[swanmom]

My MIL sent me a Christmas gift once. A lovely picture frame.......except when I opened the back to insert a photo, I found an old photo of DH and the girl he almost married before me. So, re-gift and insult in one package - what more could a girl want?

 

[SC Minnie]

My FIL didn't even bother to call - and considering they always make such a huge freaking deal about everyone else's birthday - it always hurts my feelings. Didn't get a present, either and this was exactly three weeks after they gave DH's brother's wife really nice jewelry for her birthday - with a cake and ice cream!! It's like this every year - you'd think I would get over it, but I don't.

Consider the source. They are like that with just about everything though aren't they? The brother is the golden child????

 

[canwegosoon]

My MIL sent me a Christmas gift once. A lovely picture frame.......except when I opened the back to insert a photo, I found an old photo of DH and the girl he almost married before me. So, re-gift and insult in one package - what more could a girl want?

EWW.... That is really thoughtless.

 

[jenks0718]

My birthday is February 5th and DH's ex girlfriend (the one my mil loves) is February 4th. For two years straight she called on the 4th to wish me Happy B-day. I just say thank you and move on. I dont even let it bother me!

 

[Disneyglobegirl]

My MIL sent me a Christmas gift once. A lovely picture frame.......except when I opened the back to insert a photo, I found an old photo of DH and the girl he almost married before me. So, re-gift and insult in one package - what more could a girl want?

Oh ...that is bad - but I know how you feel -At our wedding recpetion my MIL gave DH and I a photo album filled with pics of Dh growing up including pics of his first wedding to his ex - talk about TACKY!! That is when I knew I was in for it with them. However what I don't get is that they are not all that fond of the ex. I tell you I've got some winners for inlaws.

 

[Disneyglobegirl]

Why do they even know the date of your EX's b-day to even be able to mix it up with yours?

Yea, I would be mad too.

The Ex's birthday is exactly a month before mine and the day before the other SIL's Bday - I guess that date just sticks in their heads. After 15 years of DH and I being married you'd think that they would learn.

 

[SleepyMom]

Sometimes you wonder if they actually do these things to hurt you or if they are really that clueless. After 15 years, they should know the date by now.

My MIL sent me a Christmas gift once. A lovely picture frame.......except when I opened the back to insert a photo, I found an old photo of DH and the girl he almost married before me. So, re-gift and insult in one package - what more could a girl want?

Big ouch on that one! You should have given her back the picture and told her she left it in the frame My (thankfully) exMIL had a huge family picture hanging in her family room and on each side was a large "frame" that held several pictures of their 2 children's graduation pics. There was room for an 8x10 and 3 5x7's. Well, for their DD they had just her graduation pics but for their son (my ex) they put a pic of him and a GF in the 8x10 spot and then his graduation pics in the 5x7's. I had to look at that for 5 years! She never took it down, I wonder now if it is still that way since he has re-married.

 

[OhMari]

My in-laws never ever forget anyone birthdays. Plus They always bring over cake and ice cream. I could never understand the cake and ice cream thing. I have 4 kids-why wouldn't I have a Birthday cake for them. We always end up with at 3 cakes. And, my mil always gives me $100 in cash.

 

[Chicago526]

That's okay. Neither my DH or my dad can remember mine. We have 4 birthdays within 4 days of each other in my immediate family (DB2, Grandma, Mom, and me) at the end of May (plus 2 more birthdays, 2 wedding aniversaries and Mother's day, it's a busy month!). Every once in a while, I'll ask DH or my dad when my birthday is. They have both replied "At the end of May with all the others!"

 

[Nickimouse]

If it makes you fell like you're not the only one, my MIL still mis spells my name(15 years later!)... Like you said at least they remembered...hoping they get their calander straight!!!

DH I will have been married 17 years in June and I still have this problem!
And my MIL and FIL never remember my birthday. If they happen to see me near my birthday and it's mentioned they say,Oh it's your Birthday, "Happy Birthday".

So sorry OP,it is so frustrating, isn't it?
By the way, Happy Birthday!

 

[Disneyglobegirl]

DH I will have been married 17 years in June and I still have this problem!
And my MIL and FIL never remember my birthday. If they happen to see me near my birthday and it's mentioned they say,Oh it's your Birthday, "Happy Birthday".

So sorry OP,it is so frustrating, isn't it?
By the way, Happy Birthday!

That would be frustrating!

Thanks for the Bday wish

 

[Disneyglobegirl]

Sometimes you wonder if they actually do these things to hurt you or if they are really that clueless. After 15 years, they should know the date by now.

I've learned after 15 years that they are "toxic" and should be avoided as much as possible- they can really bring alot of people down and are very much into themselves. That said I have learned to let alot of things slide but every once in awhile I need to vent alittle.

 

[lillygator]

wow - I thought I was the only one with kooky inlaws!

 

[mickeyfan2]