My in-laws are...

[Angel717]

I've read on this and other boards about problems with in-laws (mostly MIL's). I've had a good relationship with my in-laws and I always feel bad when I read or hear about those who don't.

How is it for you?

 

[JAP]

Great. I really like them.

I am one of the lucky ones. MIL, FIL, 2 SIL are all very nice, happy, caring people.

I think my DH got the raw end of the in-law deal!

 

[dizneenut]

Wonderful. I love them! They are great!! I am really lucky!

 

[Laurabearz]

Both of my parents have passed on.... so I treasure my Inlaws very much.....

 

[becka]

I need a category for we don't get along but I tolerate them.

My MIL continually drives me crazy with her comments and criticisms but I have learned to tolerate her although she makes it VERY difficult at times.

My FIL does not drive me crazy now but I really cannot forgive him for some of his 'statements' when DH and I were dating. DH and I were young and stupid college students when we first started dating and I thought I had become pregnant (turns out I had a false positive pregnancy test and mono but that is another story). When DH told his father his first words of advice to his son were "You could always leave her.". I have absoulutely ZERO respect for the man. It is nothing personal against me but IMHO any person who advices their son to not take responsibility for their actions does not deserve my respect.

 

[SeaShelley]

My DH and I consider ourselves very lucky to have in-laws that we love very much!

 

[helenabear]

Before I got married I thought I was going to have the best set of in-laws in the world. The Christmas before we were married I spent the holidays with my DH at his parents' home. That was the same Christmas that my MIL had effectively told me that I wasn't good enough for her son and that we should really reconsider getting married. My FIL about that same time too starting nitpicking me with how I talked about our marriage and I telling me he disapproved of some of the ways I viewed our upcoming marriage to be. So you can say that I am hurt by their actions towards me, but I tolerate them. It's sad though because I used to tell them a lot and now I feel like I can't even tell them about a trip to Chicago I plan on taking because I am afraid of how they'll react to that. I no longer enjoy talking to them because I feel defensive when talking to them. Kind of sad really.

 

[newmousecateer]

I was blessed with wonderful, loving in-laws. MIL is deceased (almost 2 yrs) and I really miss her. FIL is terrific.

 

[tc]

Initially, my MIL was not happy we were getting married. I came from the "wrong side of the tracks", and, can you believe it, my parents were married. It took her a long time to get close to me. I realized she loved me about 10 years ago when I was having emergency surgery. She came into my room before I went in, and was crying and said she's not good at showing it, but she loved me so much and then she prayed with me. Things changed after that. My FIL, on the other hand, welcomed me with open arms.

 

[Denine]

MIL: no problems
FIL: forget about it! He walked out of the house the day we announced our engagement. 11 years later, it is no better.

 

[jx3smom]

I tolerate my MIL. She is ok and really doesn't bother us much but she is not very friendly. FIL (they're divorced but date steadily) is kind of cold.

 

[CamColt]

I only have MIL, but she doesnt fall into your poll.
I almost voted for ok, I tolerate them, but I wouldnt call her ok lately. I guess I would say, "an annoying pain in the butt, but I tolerate her".

 

[s&k'smom]

My MIL is passed on but now I understand her better and her actions. FIL well lets just say after bringing a date for MIL's funeral, married her (for the money of course) and only hear from him sporatically. And believe me that's enough.

 

[MerryPoppins]

I love them, but I don't like them very much. I guess you'd say we tolerate each other. My in-laws are VERY controlling and bossy. I could tell you stories that would curl your hair, but that is another thread.

I've been hurt a lot over the years. I really tried and tried to make them like me in the beginning. I finally accepted the fact that things weren't going to change, so I stood up for myself. I've learned to love them in spite of everything. They don't do things out of spite. It's just their controlling nature. They think 40 year olds don't have enough sense to make good decisions. They mean well and they did do a good job raising my DH. We get along better than we ever did before, but I can't forget the things they've done in the past.

 

[scarlett873]

my in-laws...

well my MIL is great! she's really nice and through the years, i was her favorite "girlfriend" for her son...she constantly gave him a hard time when he was with someone else! pretty funny...she was our biggest fan when we got back together!

i haven't spoken to my BIL yet...i discovered over the last year that he had a hand in the situation that split matthew and i up the first time...he used to be a really cute kid! i remember that he had the biggest crush on me. the little weasel...

i now have 2 SIL...one is ok...the other is a little whacko! but they both support us and our marriage and are very happy that i have brought happiness back into matthew's life...

my FIL...don't talk to him...never care to see him again...he was/is an abuser. very controlling and manipulative...will most likely never see him ever again...

now, my poor husband...he got the mother lode with my family...lol!

 

[Sonya]

I love my MIL and my SIL is 16 so we do a lot with her. I miss my FIL, he died b/f we were married. DH's grandparents are the cutest couple and I want us to be just like them when we get old.

 

[snoopy]

My in-laws are o.k. The remind me of Raymond's parents, but thankfully, they don't live across the street from us like Raymond's parents do.

My own parents are dead, and I envy some of my siblings for having really dynamite in-laws, but you get what you get. My MIL has a tendency to meddle, and she can be a terrible snob; FIL is not a demonstrative person at all, in fact, in the 15 years I've been married to his son he has probably said about 10 words to me. Thank goodness I'm blessed with a wonderful family on my side.

My in-laws come to visit a couple of times per year. My MIL and I could not be more different - she being somewhat old fashioned, and I'm, well, not; but we tolerate each other. They stay for a week, I bite my tounge even when she doesn't, and before I know it the week is over and I don't have to deal with her again until the next time they come to stay.

 

[Pembo]

mentally ill! We have not spoken to them in over 18 months. If I never hear from them again, it will be too soon. They have treated my dh so poorly. His mother actually said she didn't know what it meant to have unconditional love for her son. WHAT!

I could write forever on this topic....so I'll stop!

 

[JeniC]

My DH has a very dysfunctional family. MIL and FIL are divorced. MIL has a Life Partner, they are the most wonderful and caring people. They are always doing little things for us like bringing over dinner several nights a week when DS was an infant.
FIL is a different story; in the 7 years that I have known DH he has yet to tell his son Happy Birthday. When invited to birthday or holiday functions he says he'll come but doesn't show up and it hurts DH imensly.

DH has a bunch of nuts as in-laws

 

[KimRaye]

Yikes, sad to read all about these not-so-nice relationships. I voted Love 'em but, that's for my current in-laws! Wonderful, caring, unobtrusive, loving, friendly people! RARELY have I heard even an opinion out of my MIL about one of her kids, let alone their spouses. They're a wonderful, fun (and older) couple! The fact that they've loaned us money 3 times in 10 years, without any other conditions, besides re-paying them of course, says a Ton about them!! God Bless them!!

Now, my former in-laws, Hateful. They threatened to not even come to the wedding. Take it from there! It only got worse! When DS was born, I was finally 'welcome' in their house, sort of. FIL wasn't as bad as MIL & SIL but, it was NOT a happy situation. Glad to be over that part of my life!