My husband left me....

[DD2Disney]

I hope the time flies by for you Mishetta. I too hate being seperated from DH. He is going away for 3 days next month



Stephanie218 I think your statement was harsh and down right rude. She is not comparing herself to military families, and everyone has their own special relationships.

 

[Octoberbeauty]

Wait....Wait....Wait a minute here! You're actually supposed to MISS your spouse when they're not around???

I pray that I find that kind of love next time around because I was just thankful when my soon to be ex Wasn't around. Sounds like you have a great relationship, but do try to enjoy your free time. It's healthy for couples to have some time apart.
Hugs,
Sherry

 

[IceQueen777]

My husband travels occasionally and we both don't mind at all. I am not one to have someone attached to me all of the time...in fact it would make me feel smothered. I enjoy time to myself (after the kids are in bed) whenever he is out of town.

But, I respect that not everyone is like me. I can't imagine my husband missing us so much that he would call 6 times in one day while visiting family. I do think that is disrespectful to his family.

 

[Mishetta]

I wasn't really whining.....just stating a fact that I miss him & the next 4 days will seem like an eternity for me (& for him).

As for the Military wives....I take my hat off to you all. I truly don't know how you do it. You must find some inner strength that I was not given at birth! Also, I certainly didn't mean any harm when I complained about my DH being away for 4 days.

The thing that you all don't know is that we do everything together. We go shopping together, church together, do everything with the kids together. The only time we are apart is when my DH is at work & even then he calls me a couple times a day or we e-mail. Sometimes his buddies invite him out but he always refuses because he'd rather be with us.

my3kids ~ you made me laugh! I actually just threw the mail on the kitchen table (& not organized it by size order the way he likes it)! I'm living wicked!!! I may even go into the closet & re-arrange his shirts (since he has them "filed" by color from lightest to darkest & short sleeve to long sleeve!) That'll teach him to leave us for 4 days!!

browneyes ~ I wish your SO could have taken my DH's place!

 

[btass]

WOW! I wish I missed my DH that much! You have found true love, cherish it! Try to think of all the stuff you can talk about when he gets back!

 

[dizneenut]

OK, Rose, your thread title almost gave me a heart attack!!

I hope these 4 days fly by for you.

 

[Mishetta]

Talk when he gets back????

 

[helenabear]

You nearly scared me with this title!!!

But I totally hear you on that... I travel a bit w/o my husband but I always miss him terribly. Whenever he travels (usually for work or family) I miss him something fierce. I can survive without him, and I do enjoy my alone time, but I prefer to see him at night and first thing in the morning. I honestly don't sleep as well w/o him by me. So I do hope these four days fly on by for you

 

[Pinnie]

Hey Mishettta, remember me?

How is that sweet little 'nephew' of mine doing?

I hope the next few days fly by for you and your sons and that your DH has a visit with his family.

I was just at WDW visiting some friends for the weekend sans my DH and, while I had a great time, I did miss him a little <G> Of course we have been married 28 years and sometimes do need a break from each other to keep ourselves sane.

If you would like a little call from me this weekend, PM me your phone number and maybe one of these days, I will make it out to the "east side" and we can do lunch again!


pinnie

 

[gymnasticsmom68]

I'm curious, if you're going to miss him so much you're crying, why didn't you just go with him?

 

[my3kids]

Originally posted by Mishetta
Talk when he gets back????

You NAUGHTY girl! Just make sure you organize the mail and rehang his shirts in the correct order.

Seriously, I miss my husband when he travels, sure. But, it is nice to get to hold the remote control myself!

 

[nativetxn]

Rose! You scared me there for a minute.

I hope the time passes quickly. Call me if you want to talk.

Katholyn

 

[FayeW]

I remember what it was like to miss my husband that much, but that was a long time ago, before children, and before 14 years of marriage to a military man who is away from home alot. He is gone so often, that sometimes when he's home for awhile at a stretch ( and getting on my nerves!) I think to myself "Don't you have somewhere to be??" After all this time, and having to be so independent looking after the kids, the house, vehicle maintenance, full time job, etc, I value some quiet time to myself.
DH took the kids on a 2 day camping trip a couple of summers ago, and I danced around the house, so happy to not have to be responsible for another human being for 2 whole days! While he has been away more than he's been home, I had never been away from the kids for an overnight, and they were 7 & 5 at the time.

ENJOY your four days, and do something completely out of the ordinary. Go to lunch with a friend, or go to Chapters and read for an evening. Have fun, and enjoy your independence!

 

[Alice28]

A day or two without DH is okay, but anything beyond that is tough. I am on day 8 of geez, I dunno 500+ days my DH will be gone with the military. I hate it, I hate it, I hate it.

 

[legs22]

OMG! I thought your husband left you for good, or left you for another woman, etc. I thought poor lady, what a rough time she must be going through! But when I opened the thread I found your husband only left for a trip and will be back

 

[Planogirl]

I'm not like this at all. I NEED my alone time and four days wouldn't bother me. And I can't stand to shop with DH. But of course, everyone's needs are different.

Try to find some things that you enjoy doing during this time. You might just find out that solitude is nice occasionally.

 

[BibbidiBobbidiBOO]

It is pain and agony. DH and I are soul mates. We do everything together and have a great relationship. I kissed him goodbye on Monday after an alone weekend getaway to see him off to Iraq. I don't know how I will make it through the next year, with only a 2 week visit. My heart has been ripped out. So yes, I do understand and sympathize. My DH is the best DH anyone could have. E-mails, letters, pictures, and phone calls will have to do for now.

 

[RitaZ.]

Rose, I hate it when DH travels and we've been married 16 yrs., so I totally understand.

I remember when we first bought our house, we moved in and DH had to leave the next day on a business trip for a week. The house was a complete mess with boxes everywhere, then to top things off I locked myself out of the house with my younger DS (13 months at the time). It was also time to pick up my older DS from preschool. I didn't know any neighbors, so I went door to door asking to use a phone. Only one neighbor was home and he let me use their phone. When I was on the phone with my friend asking her to pick up my DS, a call came through and I figured I should answer it. Well, it was the man's wife and she wasn't too happy, she asked, "WHO is this?" Then, I had to explain my whole locked-out of my house story... After that, I called the preschool's director to let her know that my friend would be picking up my son along with hers. Anyway, the woman's husband came out to help me by trying to remove the hinges off the front door, well that didn't work. When my DS got home, my friend and I managed to pry open a window enough for my older DS (4 at the time) to get in and open the front door.

When I talked to DH later that day, I was so upset that I told him that it was all his fault for leaving us in complete chaos.

Your DH will be home sooner than you know it.

 

[bigbabyblues]

I HATE, HATE, HATE it when DH travels. He hasn't gone as much for work lately, but he went to France twice in 4 months, for 10 days each time. When I was 31 weeks pregnant with DS1, he went to South Korea for 2 weeks, that one about killed me.

Yep, I'm right there with you, it stinks!

Steph

 

[Mr.BsMom]

Originally posted by Planogirl
I'm not like this at all. I NEED my alone time and four days wouldn't bother me. And I can't stand to shop with DH. But of course, everyone's needs are different.

Try to find some things that you enjoy doing during this time. You might just find out that solitude is nice occasionally.

I agree!! I love my DH very much, and we enjoy being together, but we both need some time alone once in a while.