My house sold today!

[tmli]

Kind of bittersweet. As some of you may know my dh and I seperated at the end of August. We tried sharing the house for awhile and that didn't work. Then I was gone for 2 weeks to wdw and when I cam back he moved in with his sister. We had some minor repairs and such to do so finally got the listing papers signed on Tuesday evening. Sign went up yesterday and we got and accepted an offer today.

I am excited to move on but very sad about leaving my home. I raised my ds here and have so many memories. I now must find a place to live in 3 weeks. The closing is Nov.26th!!!

I've managed to find some part time work I will be doing from home and think I will be okay financially for now. After being a stay at home mom to a special needs child I just can't rush out to working full time outside the home.

Oh well, just wanted to get out some of what I am feeling as I sit here alone contemplating my future.

 

[FayeW]

I know it's tough for you right now, but the hardest part is behind you. Good luck.

 

[iluvwesties]

As the saying goes...."when one door closes, another one opens".
Keep thinking positively and you will be OK.
Good Luck with the move!
Carol

 

[cabmom]

I've been thinking about you and was going to pm you to find out how things have been going.
You will survive this and so will your son.
Your in my thoughts and prayers!

Marilynn

 

[Snowwark]

Gosh Tracey, I'm not sure whether to congratulate you or give you a hug? How about both?

Congratulations on the sale and moving forward, and hugs for the bittersweet feelings.



Good luck to you, Tracey! Keep us posted, okay?

Kim

 

[Debbie]

Tracey, I am a firm believer in "when one door closes, another opens". I can feel your pain, and your uncertainty as you change your life. Change is always hard for me...even good change. Your house sold quickly so that you can get on with your new life. Focus on the future, remember-but don't wallow in-the past, don't forget the good times, and the great times that will soon be yours. I'm so glad that you shared with us...we're good for that!

 

[Timon]

I also believe that everything happens for a reason. I feel your pain, but there is a reason for it and just know that one day you will look back on this tough moment and say, wow, I guess I am glad that it happened!

On the plus side, your house sold quickly! I lost my job in June, hubby lost his job three weeks ago and we had to put up our house for sale. It's been 3 weeks and we have only had one offer and it wasn't really serious. Our house is priced more than fair for this area but the market has been really slow. I don't know what we are gonna do on Dec 1st if we don't sell by then but we are crossing our fingers and hoping for the best!

Good luck and here's to your future!

 

[Rebecca P.]

I know the circumstances are not great but you are fortunate to have sold so quickly and not have to bring people through constantly. That part of the stress was minimal so I hope the second part is stress free for you!



Best of luck.

Rebecca

 

[alohamom]

I admire your positive attitude. I think it is a stepping stone for you though, taking you above and beyond. It sounds like your parenting experiences have prepared you though and I am sure you are going to get to a great place in your life eventually. There are always the Disboards if you need support, much pixiedust coming your way to help you through this...Suzanne.

 

[kellyla]

You will be in my thoughts that every thing goes well for you as you move forward.

 

[tmli]

Thanks everyone for your encouragement and kind words. Just spent the day apartment hunting and think i have found one. Boy was I naive to apartment living!!!

I have found a nice building made up of mostly seniors and working professionals, very well kept and clean. It is not in my town but in the city about 15 mins away. My ds will continue to attend his school here in town, simply because it is a wonderful school that does many things to accomodate his needs. I will drive him to and from daily. The apartment is large enough for me to have an area that will serve as my office as my new job requires me to work from home. Also has washer/dryer in the apartment and a dishwasher! Best part is I am less than 5 mins from my parents.

I bring in the application on Monday, the super says he doesn't foresee a problem. But I am just starting a job after being a sahm for 5 years and have no credit in my name. (bad mistake for those of you married). Everyone-- phone, hydro etc want high deposits because I have never had these services in my name.

Hopefully they will give me a chance to prove I will be a great tenant. My ds likes the unit and how close we are to family, I know moving day will be hard but we'll make it. I've been in counselling for 3 weeks now and that is very helpful in dealing with all these changes.

It may sound weird but in some ways I feel in mourning. Passing through the stages of grief. Mourning my marriage, my family and now my home.

All that being said, I somehow feel incredibly free. I have never had my own place before....I moved from my parents home to a place with my dh. I am really going to take this time to get reaquantid (sp) with myself.

 

[BitsnBearsMom]

Keep up that positive attitude!!

Congrats on selling the house so fast and just b/c I'm sure you could use one!!

 

[iluvwesties]

Tracey, it sounds as if things are starting to go "positively".

I am keeping my fingers crossed for you to get the apartment that you want!

And don't forget, you have got a trip to WDW to look forward to also!

I also wanted to let Timon (Cass) know that I'm hoping your situation will improve soon with regards to jobs and/or home. It must be hard for you also at this time.

I'm sending a to both of you.

Carol

 

[Timon]

iluvwesties,

Thank you, that's very sweet of you! I am hoping things get better soon too, we're at the end (hopefully) of a very long and tough road and it will be nice to see some sunshine for a change


Hubby has two good job leads that he's working on right now, well three I guess. One in Prince George (but I don't wanna go there to be honest) one in Ottawa for the new year and one that could be here in Calgary or could mean a move to Edmonton.
Personally I am rooting for Ottawa.

 

[maryliz]

Tracey ... you and DS will make it through all of this. It's very normal to be in mourning ... leaving a home where you've raised your child is a grief-causing situation, and you are dealing with it just fine. Keep focused on all of the positives, and keep us posted on how you both are doing. Glad your house sold so quickly ... ours sold in a week in July and it was the longest week of my life. I hated cleaning everytime I wanted to walk out the door "just in case" someone came by

Timon ... best of luck with your situation. Whatever is best in the long-run for you both is what will end up happening.


Mary-Liz

 

[connorsmom911]

Tracey,

Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you...read your post and thought I was reading my future, especially because we share the same name (spelled correctly of course)...I may shortly be in your shoes. Hubby and I are trying hard, but things are heading that way. I don't want to sell my house either, we just moved in to it in May and it's my dream house. Don't really know what else to say, just keep your chin up and your head held high.

Tracey

 

[tmli]

Thanks again everyone. Go tomorrow to submit my application and deposit, hope to know by end of tomorrow.

Good luck to you Timon, I heard today a quote that made me smile. ....God gives us presents wrapped up in problems. Thought it was fitting.

Tracey (nice to see someone else who has my correctly spelled name) my dh and I spent years living in turmoil. I knew in my heart it wouldn't all work out. I was willing to be completely unhappy for what I thought was the good of my child, for financial reasons and for lifestyle. All that happened was I got lost in the process. I believe Dr Phil says the best way to prove you love your child is by taking care of his mother....I forgot to do that.

I hope things can work for out for you and your dh, I believe every possible avenue should be travelled down before divorce. But if it does come to that you will be amazed at the strength you will have. Good Luck to you.

 

[connorsmom911]

Tracey,

God, we could be twins...that's exactly what I'm in the midst of deciding...am I staying because of DS, the house, the lifestyle and the finances? or is there some other real bond? guess when I figure that out, I'll have my answer to stay or go.

Tracey

 

[tmli]

My husband made the decision for me. He decided to leave. I honestly think I would have continued to live the way I was and lose myself more and more. Right after we split I started counselling, and being alone has made me see I can do it. My ds is so much happier. It's like the big black cloud hanging over us has moved on. Thank God he decided to end it because I don't think I would have had the strength.

If you'd like to talk, please pm me.

I dropped off my application today and brought my mom to see the apartment. She loved it as much as I did, I've got my fingers crossed and I know you are all sending pixie dust my way.

 

[Snowwark]

Originally posted by tmli


I have found a nice building made up of mostly seniors and working professionals, very well kept and clean. It is not in my town but in the city about 15 mins away. My ds will continue to attend his school here in town, simply because it is a wonderful school that does many things to accomodate his needs. I will drive him to and from daily. The apartment is large enough for me to have an area that will serve as my office as my new job requires me to work from home. Also has washer/dryer in the apartment and a dishwasher! Best part is I am less than 5 mins from my parents.

All that being said, I somehow feel incredibly free. I have never had my own place before....I moved from my parents home to a place with my dh. I am really going to take this time to get reaquantid (sp) with myself.

It sounds like a great place, Tracey!

Fingers crossed, pixie dust, and, a prayer , that your application is accepted.

Kim