My heart is so heavy......

[bdiddy]

Last night after hours of emergency vehicles at our neighbors across the street we found out that our neighbor committed suicide. His wife and kids came home about 5:30 and walked in the house and found him. At first they thought someone shot him so they ran out and called 911. The police had surrounded the place and it was awhile before they went in the house but then they discovered it was self-inflicted.

We are all in shock and can't imagine what his family is going through. Apparently he and his wife were having problems but no one expected this. The kids are 7 and 9 and go to school with my DD. They were taken from the scene almost immediately and his wife left not long after. My heart just aches for those little kids. My DD keeps asking me what happened and I told her I don't know that I think someone got hurt but I wasn't sure. I can't imagine two young children seeing that and having to go through this.

Ugh! I feel so numb and they were only my neighbors! And I feel like I can't even put one thought into this trip in less then 2 wks! I couldn't sleep last night and I feel so helpless! Some people just came to the house and took some things out in some suitcases and bins so I'm sure they won't be back at the house for awhile.

Thank you for letting me talk....and please say a prayer for this family!

 

[terri01p]

MY goodness, how horrible. Godspeed to that family and also to your as well, I can only imagine how hard that is.

 

[Juliet25]

I'm so sorry. At the very least, it wasn't a murder-suicide. I can't believe how many of those have been in the news.

But that's hardly comforting. My heart goes out to his family. My DH's father killed himself (over 20 years ago), and it's something a family does not get over.

 

[ms_missy66]

Oh how horribly sad! I'm definitely praying for this family. It's stuff like this that makes me so thankful for the beautiful little bubble I conduct my boring life in.

 

[RMulieri]

Thats is awful! prayers go out to your neighbors kids and wife

 

[DawnM]

That is horrible. He must have really been in a lot of emotional pain.

 

[SCHBR'smom]

Last night after hours of emergency vehicles at our neighbors across the street we found out that our neighbor committed suicide. His wife and kids came home about 5:30 and walked in the house and found him. At first they thought someone shot him so they ran out and called 911. The police had surrounded the place and it was awhile before they went in the house but then they discovered it was self-inflicted.

We are all in shock and can't imagine what his family is going through. Apparently he and his wife were having problems but no one expected this. The kids are 7 and 9 and go to school with my DD. They were taken from the scene almost immediately and his wife left not long after. My heart just aches for those little kids. My DD keeps asking me what happened and I told her I don't know that I think someone got hurt but I wasn't sure. I can't imagine two young children seeing that and having to go through this.

Ugh! I feel so numb and they were only my neighbors! And I feel like I can't even put one thought into this trip in less then 2 wks! I couldn't sleep last night and I feel so helpless! Some people just came to the house and took some things out in some suitcases and bins so I'm sure they won't be back at the house for awhile.

Thank you for letting me talk....and please say a prayer for this family!

Prayer said. Those poor kids, I couldn't even imagine.

for you an your family, too.

 

[QVCshopper]

I'm so sorry for your neighbors and your family. Growing up, my neighbors had a family murder resulting in a shoot-out with the cops. I was in grade school and still remember them escorting me out of my house, our school going in lockdown, and ultimately how the horrible event ended. Looking back, I had a crazy childhood... My parents still live next to the remaining members of the family.

Please talk everything over with your own kids; they will mostly likely remember this forever. As I type, I am remembering more and more; these things are not easily forgotten and make huge impressions. As for your neighbor and her children, I will pray for them. It is terribly sad.

Edit: [I see your kids are very young... maybe try putting it on their level? I was about 7 and still remember.]

 

[ireland_nicole]

Prayers being said for the family and your community in the wake of this tragedy.

 

[samshane]

So, so sad... my thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

 

[3BoysRDisneyFreaks]

Prayers to that family. So sad.

 

[Steph9072]

Last night after hours of emergency vehicles at our neighbors across the street we found out that our neighbor committed suicide. His wife and kids came home about 5:30 and walked in the house and found him. At first they thought someone shot him so they ran out and called 911. The police had surrounded the place and it was awhile before they went in the house but then they discovered it was self-inflicted.

We are all in shock and can't imagine what his family is going through. Apparently he and his wife were having problems but no one expected this. The kids are 7 and 9 and go to school with my DD. They were taken from the scene almost immediately and his wife left not long after. My heart just aches for those little kids. My DD keeps asking me what happened and I told her I don't know that I think someone got hurt but I wasn't sure. I can't imagine two young children seeing that and having to go through this.

Ugh! I feel so numb and they were only my neighbors! And I feel like I can't even put one thought into this trip in less then 2 wks! I couldn't sleep last night and I feel so helpless! Some people just came to the house and took some things out in some suitcases and bins so I'm sure they won't be back at the house for awhile.

Thank you for letting me talk....and please say a prayer for this family!

WOW how horrible for his family. I will include them in my prayers
I know how helpless you feel. About 7 yrs ago a guy I use to work with committed suicide. Even though I had not seen him for a year I still felt a bit guilty & helpless. The hardest part for me was coming to a point that I understand what and why he did what he did. The truth is I never have gotten to that point. But I have finally let myself put it behind me because I know there was nothing I could do to help or stop him. My prayers are with you and your family.

 

[ogreenlee]

My neighbor next door killed himself when I was in high school. The lady who lives in that house now spoke of weird things happening. I told her about the old neighbor, and now she hollers at him (she says) when he's acting up.

My good friend's roommate hung herself in the attic and was there for days before my friend found her. She was young and had rheumatoid arthritis severely...

My husband and I lived in SC, and TWO suicides took place on the street we lived on within a year and a half. One was this hippie dude who worked in the glass shop (downtown artsy area) supposedly licked an LSD crystal and went off the deep end. He was said to never had come out of his "trip". So he shot himself. A year and a half later, this lady down the street threw herself off the top porch with a chain wrapped around her neck. The bad thing is that I didn't know this was happening and this local donation company was coming to pick up some donations from us. The lady sent her teenage son who couldn't get down our street to park. He parked on the other side of that lady's house and had to walk by her house to get to ours. When he reached our house, he was white as a ghost. The cops were already there, but had not covered the body yet. He couldn't even tell us what had happened. I went down to see and was stunned. Found out she was a single mother who had really been struggling.

Crazy stuff... the things that lead people to do the unthinkable.

 

[bdiddy]

Thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers. The wife & kids are not back in the house and I don't anticipate them being there any time soon but I plan to try to speak to the wife at the funeral and let her know if she needs any help to please let us know. We can help do things at the house and I stay home so I could help with getting her kids to and from school when they do go back. It only happened Monday night so I'm not sure when the funeral would be - still no obit in the paper today. I'm wondering if they are waiting until next week because of the holiday?

Thanks again for all your thoughts!

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

How sad that anyone, especially one with a family, troubled or not, feels this is their only option. Gosh, I just can't imagine ever feeling so bad about life that leaving your family is your choice. He must have been in an awful place. How horrible for him, he must have been horribly suffering, and how horrible for his family. Not only to have to live without him, but all the emotions of finding him and always windering why and what we could have done. A horrible situation for everyone for sure. Truly heartbreaking, the holidays will never be the same for this family, then again neither will life. They say this time of year is hardest on people.

As for the PP comments on life insurance, I don't know if what you say is true or not, but it shouldn't be so IMO. People who commit suicide are obviously in a horrible place mentally. We as a society don't see mental illness as an equilivent to physical illness, I think it is getting better but we aren't where we need to be. He was sick, no doubt about it, to choose suicide and to make his family suffer more woould be wrong. I know money is not what matters, but they are going to need his life insurance and I hope they get it. The family is going to need so much emotional help for one to get through this and for two because often these things are passed down and counceling does not come cheap.

Thoughts and prayers for this family, there are no words. It shows the rest of us just how much we have to be Thankful for today, tomorrow and everyday.

 

[puffkin]

I just wanted to add that it is perfectly normal for you to feel the way you do and to go through a sort of grieving process, even if you didn't know them well.

My BIL and SIL had a murder/suicide happen in the house directly behind them. The father murdered the two children, then the wife on NYE late in the afternoon. Called 911 then killed himself. Absolutely horrible. My SIL/BIL did not know the family well at all, except to give a passing greeting but it was really hard for them to work through and took them a long time to get over.

 

[jeepgirl30]

So sad. I am sorry your family is so close to something so real and so desperate.

My cousin commited suicide a few years ago. We had grown very far apart but his death really hit me hard. I cannot imagine the absolute despair he must have felt in order to do something so tragic. His brother was the one that found him and he went through a real struggle, all the emotions from pissed off to depression and everything else.

I can't imagine what is in store for those poor children.

 

[thebeesknees]

Oh no! How awful for that family! It will be especially difficult for them to deal with because of the holiday. Thanksgiving will never be the same for them. A friend of ours committed suicide at Christmas a few years ago and left 3 young children and it has been so hard for his family. Even if your neighbor doesn't want any help right now, keep offering it. A month or so down the road when others have stopped calling or coming by, she is going to need someone who still cares and is still willing to help her out.

 

[Schmoodle]

This is a terrible tragedy. I can't imagine what drives people to that point, but I don't think any of us that haven't been in that place can understand really. You are kind to want to reach out to the family and that will make a difference. As for your trip, this will certainly be in your thoughts, and it may be bittersweet, but perhaps it will help you to appreciate the time with your family all the more.

 

[Tiger926]

I have just said a prayer for that family, yours and the rest of the neighborhood.

I teach at-risk teens, many of whom have had family members commit suicide, friends or attemps on themselves. There is so much mental illness around, and not much help for people struggling with it. Depression and anxiety are so real for so many people I know.

We all need to say a prayer for them, and all of the others who are struggling with it...

Tiger