My emotions caught me totally by surprise today

[newmousecateer]

Oh my, this definately brought tears to my eyes.

Liz, it is totally understandable that you would have that reaction. I think any parent would.

And how proud you must be of her to come this far. She certainly is a fighter.

{{{HUGS}}} to both of you.

 

[mhopset]

I know that has to be so hard. Keep your chin up I am sure things will get better.

I hope I am not flamed for saying this but here goes:

I know you will want to do everything you can for her. Being challenged myself I know when people want to do things for me I let them. That is not always good. My wife on the other hand does not take any flack from me. She makes me do things I would normally let someone else do for me. She seems to have that instinct though to know when I just can't do something and then she steps in. I truly believe that this is what has kept me walking for all these years. She is tough and I have to admit there are sometimes I would like to throw her to the curb for pushing me so hard, but I know it is best for me.

Don't give into your daughter about different things. She will get mad at you, and maybe use your name in vain. You will know when to step in. She has came along way Liz. She will be better in no time. Just keep pushing her.

Sorry if I offended you.

T.

 

[Liz]

Mhopset, of course you didn't offend me. You are only offering advice to help. I understand what you are saying. I know I need to let Laura do more for herself. For instance its just easier to get her a drink than to assist her in getting it herself. I am trying to do better. I do push her in other ways and YES she gets upset with me sometimes. Her PT said she needs to walk more to build up her endurance. We went to Wal-Mart and I said no wheelchair. So she said she wasn't going in then. Its not that she LIKES riding in the wheelchair but walking isn't easy. To make a long story short I won, she walked with the walker around WM. It was a short trip and she rested once in the shoe dept. and once in jewelry but she did it!

The doctor in the hospital could see the type of mom I am and gave me a talking to about doing too much for her, especially when we got home. I was assuring him I would be good (as I was unwrapping her silverware and placing it in front of her !)

Thank you for all the nice things said here. But I am not the strong one, she is. I get my strength from her every day!

 

[ead79]

Oh Liz, I am sure it was a sad sight, but I'm sure it was mixed with relief to have such a wonderful, strong daughter. I will continue to remember you both in my prayers. {{{HUGS}}}

 

[binny]

I can read your pain through your post


Im so sorry that she is struggling, but you know what though? She is doing it!!

She is up and about and surprising her doctors and making all of her Dis Aunt and Uncles proud! ( we always knew she would )


May God continue to bless you

 

[Boots]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}} A very special young lady and a very special mother! I am proud to say I "know" the two of you!

 

[zurgswife]

{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}

 

[Val]

My dear grandmother always reminds me....our job is to raise them and let them go, not hang on to them. Until I had kids I didn't know what a hard job she had.......Such mixed emotions, pride, loss, joy, sorrow- all rolled into one special moment. Think of the independence and joy your daughter must of felt, too! What a special, special moment! God bless you- and here is to many, many more of those small steps (small because it takes longer- so parents get just a little more time!).....

 

[Keli]

Sounds like a moment in time filled with conflicting feelings. Powerful and conflicting feelings. My hat goes off to you for facing your battle with courage and determination.

 

[DixieDreamer]

Hugs. It is unimaginable to me to have to face that challenge, but I am pretty sure I would be VERY emotional too.

Wednesday evening I attended a memorial for a 9 year old girl. Daughter of an employee who has also been a good friend for many years. She fought a four year battle with an invasive cancer, neuroblastoma. Sammy spread lots of love during her short life. She touched so many others - that over 1,000 people from my small community attended the memorial. So as sad as it is to watch your DD struggle... be comforted in her progress. For she is making progress.

 

[bsnyder]

Liz, I know this continues to be so hard for you, as a mom, to watch Laura struggle. But she will get back to where she was, I just know it! She is a strong, determined young lady!

I continue to pray that 2003 brings Laura more and more progress! And that you continue to have the courage to face the difficulties of parenting her through the struggle!

Big hugs to all of you!

 

[Kitty 34]

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} to you, Liz.