My DH thinks I'm crazy!!

[pyrxtc]

I have planned this entire trip trying to include him but he just glazes over. We have 32 days left and I finally made him sit down so I could kind of explain to him my plans and that I have an itinerary for each day I'd like to follow and that we are not sleeping in every day and he says to me "I can't wait til we get this over so I don't have to listen to you talk about this anymore. why do I care what we're doing a month from now, tell me when I wake up in the morning what we're doing that day.No, I don't want to see any parades or fireworks, I'll go on rides while you stay with the kids."

What!!! I waited this long and he doesn't care! I've been looking forward to WDW since I saw it on tv when I was little. He is an easy going guy and fine let me plan everything but show some sort of interest. He says a short day at Epcot cuz he remembers it being boring. He was there 10 yrs ago! It was probably longer though cuz I know he never went after his DD was born.

Ugh! I can't change him but sometimes I wish he would show interest in something I like!

 

[ReggieB]

My DH never comments much about my plans. He has gotten used to me being a little over obsessive. However, having a few trips under our belt now, I know that he does appreciate the effort (to some degree) that I put in. I do try hard not to keep bombarding him with stuff, which is kind of hard when you get excited about stuff!! I get his input on things he wants to do, and, most importantly for him, where to eat. I do try to involve him in a some way!! By the way, my DH loves Epcot.....it's the food and drink for him.

 

[2nd childhood]

He'll thank you for all your planning after he gets there and realizes how HUGE the parks really are. My DH rolls his eyes when I start my "planning stage", but he honestly is relieved that I have it all taken care of and planned out and he doesn't have to do anything, but ENJOY!! Your husband will probably do the same. Although I'm like you and wish he would share some of my enthusiasm for the magic of it all.
I hope your trip is a magical one.

 

[bdink921]

They really ARE all made from the same mold!!!! Flash back to about Feb/Mar of this year and those are just about my DH's exact words!!!

By the way, when we got back, he grudgingly admitted that he was glad I had planned so much because we went during spring break and it was crowded!!

 

[alacazander]

My dh thinks i'm a complete loon when it comes to wdw. Yesterday he dropped in at home during the day, he opened the door to Mickey singing M - I - C - K - E - Y .... M - O - U - S - E................MICKEY MOUSE.....

He doesn't want to know details just tell him where to go when. I keep thinking it would be so much more fun if he cared but then....on the other hand he might want a say in what we do. Scary thought!

 

[LoriMistress]

My DH use to worry that I might "over plan" our trips (ex: Thinks of FULL HOUSE of Danny Tanner and his "Clipboard of Fun"). But after DH finally sat down with me and saw that I did a lot of research for our trip, but I didn't go hog wild on what we were doing every hour for our trip. He was so happy that I did the research so he completely trusts me when it comes to planning our trips.

 

[disnut8]

I'm an plus 40 trips to Disney World veterans. Most of them with my husband. We're leaving Friday for Disney World and Labor Day weekend. He knows we are going. He knows we are leaving Friday after work. That's the extent of what he wants to know. I asked him Sunday if he knew where we were staying. He said "hell, no" (it's Caribbean Beach this time). We won't discuss what park to hit on Saturday until the drive down there Friday night.

Do I mind since I plan everything and make all the arrangements? I used to. But then I realized that I could still plan and have a great time. I'd know what was going on, he'd be informed the day before. That makes his trip so much better for him since he's not bogged down with the details. Once we get there, he has such a good time.

Make up a daily schedule for your husband but don't show it to him until the day before. You can include things like menus of places you have seatings for or counter service places you were thinking about. Some people just can't do long range planning. I happened to marry one. Opposites do attract.

 

[swilshire]

After nearly 21 years of marriage, my DH prides himself in seldom even knowing WHERE we're going on vacation. Let alone the details. He just wants dates so he can block them out on his calendar and an idea of what kind of clothes to pack (ie: beach, cold weather climate, etc).

I sometimes ask him a question or two about his preferences, but it's really a waste of time. He usually has fun while we're wherever it is and only grumbles a bit about things that don't suit him.

Me .... I'm going nuts deciding where to eat at Disney in October, how to get island to island for our Hawaii trip in June 2006 and trying to decide exactly where in the United Kingdom we want to go in June 2007.

Sheila

 

[webray]

I have planned this entire trip trying to include him but he just glazes over. We have 32 days left and I finally made him sit down so I could kind of explain to him my plans and that I have an itinerary for each day I'd like to follow and that we are not sleeping in every day and he says to me "I can't wait til we get this over so I don't have to listen to you talk about this anymore. why do I care what we're doing a month from now, tell me when I wake up in the morning what we're doing that day.No, I don't want to see any parades or fireworks, I'll go on rides while you stay with the kids."

What!!! I waited this long and he doesn't care! I've been looking forward to WDW since I saw it on tv when I was little. He is an easy going guy and fine let me plan everything but show some sort of interest. He says a short day at Epcot cuz he remembers it being boring. He was there 10 yrs ago! It was probably longer though cuz I know he never went after his DD was born.

Ugh! I can't change him but sometimes I wish he would show interest in something I like!

OMG..lol, short day at epcot because it is boring...that is what our neighbor guy said..until he and his wife did epcot with hubby and I. Now, it is his favorite park..lol.

 

[SEAlla]

My DH does the same thing with all of my planning. He is as much of a Disney nut as I am, however, he can't get excited until a day or two before we leave.

Drives me nuts...

 

[Disney Ella]

My DH doesn't want to hear anything about planning either. His eyes glaze over too if I try to talk about it and he accuses me of planning every minute of the day. I don't; I pretty much decide which restaurant we should go to based on which park we will be going to. DH is always happy to be at WDW though. The kids enjoy the planning process so I talk to them instead.

 

[monty]

My DH thinks I've caught some kind of "Disney Disease" and have become obsessed with planning and the DIS board. He is generally pretty happy with me making all the plans and arrangements (it is our first trip)....except that he thinks 6 days at WDW will be too long and we will get bored!

 

[minnie61650]

I can totaly relate.
My dh thinks Disney is a nice place to visit every few years.He just would much rather be on a cruise or going to Las vegas. I just tell him "we have been to Vegas many more times than Disney and that's not fair."
When my grandson was born I told my dd and sil when Alex is 3 or 4 we (dh and I) will take them and our other 3 grown children to Disney.
dd OKed the trip in March and since then I have been planning and planning.
dh and my 24 yo son have a bet going on. dh says I cannot go one day without mentioning Disney and ds says I can't go more than 45 min.without saying something Disney. ds is winning! LOL
It is so much fun to plan a Disney trip and I understand how excited you are! I am sure your dh will enjoy it when you get there and will appreciate all the effort you put into planning the trip. Most men just don't get caught up in the planning and anticipation like we dobut once they are there they have a good time.. Enjoy your planning and have a fun time at Disney!
Linda

 

[Nancyg56]

He doesn't want to know details just tell him where to go when. I keep thinking it would be so much more fun if he cared but then....on the other hand he might want a say in what we do. Scary thought!

Same with my DH. He ignores all of the plans that I make for anything...just asks "How much?" I used to complain, but learned my lesson when he got involved. Made mountains out of molehills, and worried about everything, even things that I had never thought were a problem. Now if he questions any plans, I tell him that we had already talked about it, and he doesn't want to admit that he doesn't always pay attention. HAHA!

 

[joksten2000]

My dw sits back and lets me do the planning I sing and get to live the vacation many times over, they really don't understand the thrill of it all. I gave up trying to share the excitment. I start the count down when i make the reservation and get the grandkids all excited by calling them and saying How many days? We are booked on the Oct 28, 2006 Eastern Cruise (our 7th) an the count down has begun 425!!! My dw retires Oct 1st 2006 school nurse in Camden NJ. We have a Cruise with the kids in July Haven't decided between Costa Maya on july 22 or Alaska This is the family Cruise and everyone is excited. The air fare will dictate where we go

 

[mickey12810]

My DH is just as much of a Disney nut as I am. Every night before we go to bed he wants to first know if I have changed anything again and then we have to go through all the itinereries and where we are eating. Then it is "30 more days, woo hoo!".....then we try to go to sleep.

 

[Tink215]

I read this and laughed out loud, I guess they are all really the same.LOL, I am the main planner as well, and he is just as much a disney fan as I am but dosent like all the planning, although once in a while I hear the you are getting crazy and over planning.( He did last nite,) but once we get there he is so overwhelmed is is very happy I have pretty much planned everything out, I do ask for his input alot and I just either get ignored cause he is on his Xbox or he'll input!!! He actually thinks its a great idea we are going for Christmas and said we might do this every year!!!

 

[snowbunny]

"I'll go on rides while you stay with the kids"..............? Sure thing honey

 

[hallie615]

Are we all married to the same person?? My DH is usually as excited as I am about our trip, except for the planning. I think if I ask him to look at the places i picked to eat one more time he will murder me. (ha ha)

All I can say is thank god I found the dis boards, now I feel I have people to share all my planning with and that I am not alone with all my WDW planning.

 

[pamouselover]

My Dh was the same way.. I dont know if he is just faking it for me but he has gotten very excited about our up coming trip.
Give up and enjoy it! Share your planning joy with your friends here on the DIS...we undersatnd!