My dd's best friend's parents are mad at my dd...

[Pop Daddy]

I would think thats a litte wierd drinking coffee and offering it at 14, but I wouldnt be mad at her

 

[Twinkles6892]

Long post.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

I think they way overreacted. Like you said, it's coffee, not heroin or liquor. She'd probably get the same amount of caffeine if you gave her soda.

 

[Pop Daddy]

Originally posted by Twinkles6892
Long post.

 

[Pam]

I just hope your bad influence doesn't warp their child. What's next, candy?!

OH NO!!! GASP!! You didn't have the audacity to offer her a Snickers bar, too, did you???

My DD began drinking coffee at age 13/14 - in small "doses" if you will - at almost age 19, she still enjoys it moderately.

These parents sound as those they just wanted something to gripe about - especially after reading that they let her stay up late to do homework.

 

[browneyes]

Originally posted by dianeschlicht
LOL, is that because you need your coffee?

I guess so. I just finished a cup and the word looks ok now.

 

[year2late]

So the parent also witholds cocoa, cola, chocolate, nonherbal iced tea etc from the child too?

Way over reacted (unless it was an Irish Coffee)

 

[oogieboogie]

I'm reading these posts about kids drinking coffee, and I'm thinking to myself... boy I had a weird childhood. Growing up, my dad would let me drink from his beer can during meals. He had an open bar where if I wanted to drink any hard liquor I could just take it.

But you know what... because it was so accessible at home, it wasn't such a big thing anymore. Since I didn't have to sneak around to drink the stuff, there really was no temptation, and to this day, I don't drink at all.

Now, I'm not saying this is acceptable, but I think when something is totally forbidden without a good explanation given, then it becomes an even more compelling item, and the kids will do anything to get their hands on it.

 

[snoopy]

My brother and SIL would have reacted this way. Their kids, although much younger, have never had sugar, cafeine or any processed foods. I gave the one kid an ice cream cone once because my kids were having one and he looked so sad, boy did I catch hell for that one. They also do not allow their children to watch TV. Any TV, ever.

I would chalk this one up to different strokes, and next time your DD wants to invite this kid over, be sure and get the specifics from the parents of what they allow and reiterate them with both your DD and her friend.

 

[chrissyk]

I started drinking coffee in-utero, so I can't understand why this was such a big deal, LOL! The parents really ARE setting her up for a big rebellion, though. My mom kept us away from sugar when we were kids. As soon as I was in high-school, I would sneak over to CVS and buy TONS of candy.

The day that I got to college, my younger sister and I went to the grocery store and spent $50 on junk food. Then, while my parents were at some sort of orientation, we stuck it all in my steamer trunk and locked it, LOL! We ate that stash whenever she came to visit. I gained weight and felt sick a lot, but I had to get it out of my system. My sister still blames my mom for our "food rebellion," LOL!

 

[year2late]

Originally posted by snoopy
My brother and SIL would have reacted this way. Their kids, although much younger, have never had sugar, cafeine or any processed foods. I gave the one kid an ice cream cone once because my kids were having one and he looked so sad, boy did I catch hell for that one. They also do not allow their children to watch TV. Any TV, ever.

My brother and SIL have many of the same rules.

Guess what when they travel 3000 miles to see us, we hav etrouble prying the remote from their hands, The kids are teens now and home remains overly strict....but they go to friends houses and now are fine connoseurs of any thing sweet or processed and could answer most TV trivia, Sometimes teaching moderation is a good thing.

 

[Tinkbell]

Wow. At 15, coffee should be the least of that family's worries. I see major rebellion down the line too.

 

[snoopy]

Originally posted by year2late
My brother and SIL have many of the same rules.

Guess what when they travel 3000 miles to see us, we hav etrouble prying the remote from their hands, The kids are teens now and home remains overly strict....but they go to friends houses and now are fine connoseurs of any thing sweet or processed and could answer most TV trivia, Sometimes teaching moderation is a good thing.

Yup, similar scenario here. Its a constant battle when they come visit -- the parents have their every minute scheduled down to the tiniest details, i.e., 9am-10am - nature walk; 10am-12pm, arts and crafts; 12pm-1pm healthy lunch; 1pm-2pm quiet time; etc. etc. It then becomes a screaming fit from the children, who really just want to veg in front of the TV.

And then the issue with the food, well, I just feel bad for them. Can you imagine, you are a little kid, and all the kids at the party are having birthday cake, but you only get an apple?

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Originally posted by snoopy
Yup, similar scenario here. Its a constant battle when they come visit -- the parents have their every minute scheduled down to the tiniest details, i.e., 9am-10am - nature walk; 10am-12pm, arts and crafts; 12pm-1pm healthy lunch; 1pm-2pm quiet time; etc. etc. It then becomes a screaming fit from the children, who really just want to veg in front of the TV.

And then the issue with the food, well, I just feel bad for them. Can you imagine, you are a little kid, and all the kids at the party are having birthday cake, but you only get an apple?

I love cake. I would have cried. Luckily my parents were sane and allowed us to have snacks in moderation.

I always worry about kids like this, that when they grow up, and move away they will suddenly start eating all the junk food they could not have as children and wind up with all kinds of health problems. Two of my cousins sons are like this. His exW does not allow the boys to have ANYTHING that is not 100% healthy, not even chocolate chip granola or anything.

 

[DISshopkeeper]

I'm impressed that your 14yo can make coffee!

 

[danacara]

They sound a little bit "off."

I think coffee at 15 is totally fine.

 

[BedKnobbery2]

Just one more point of view, and I'm surprised this hasn't been brought up yet.....is it possible the family avoids caffeine for religious reasons? I know that Latter-Day Saints (aka, Mormons) cannot consume caffeine, not sure about other religions. So in that family, it could be that a 15 year old drinking coffee is akin to a 15 year old drinking beer--which I know many of the people here would object to having happen at a sleepover.

Anyway, just wanted to throw in another possibility.

 

[Kallison]

We have friends who breastfed until the kids were teens (well almost), eat organic and don't have sugar in the house. When they are at our house, I line up the Froot Loops, Captain Crunch, Trix, etc. The kids will eat 5 or 6 bowls in a row. We also do make your own sundaes with as many jimmies as you want. The Mom always goes "Oh they don't eat like that all the time", I'm like - yes we do.

I knew a woman whose parents never let her have sugar. She was constantly stuffing Twinkies in her face and was also bulimic.

I'm always giving out smarties to my students, I'm sure I'll get busted by the sugar police one of these days.

 

[Twinkles6892]

Originally posted by DISshopkeeper
I'm impressed that your 14yo can make coffee!

Um... Well, it wasn't the best coffee in the world and I couldn't find the coffee and I opened a new one and got in trouble. But it was pretty good once you loaded the creamer and sugar to it.

BTW, we made a cake at 2 am, and her mom was mad about that too. When my mom and the other girls mom heard about it, they said, "Freaks." But when coffee freaks mom heard aobut it, "It was very irresponsible of us. We are inexperienced cooks and we must have been tired and very easily could have burned the house down." We're 15, not 2

Plus, she ats 1/2 the cake herself. 1/2 a cake or a cup of coffee???

 

[Maleficent13]

Originally posted by Twinkles6892
Um... Well, it wasn't the best coffee in the world and I couldn't find the coffee and I opened a new one and got in trouble. But it was pretty good once you loaded the creamer and sugar to it.

BTW, we made a cake at 2 am, and her mom was mad about that too. When my mom and the other girls mom heard about it, they said, "Freaks." But when coffee freaks mom heard aobut it, "It was very irresponsible of us. We are inexperienced cooks and we must have been tired and very easily could have burned the house down." We're 15, not 2

Plus, she ats 1/2 the cake herself. 1/2 a cake or a cup of coffee???

You sound a lot like me and my friends at 15. Sleepovers generally involved baking at odd hours of the night...my mom would usually just get up when she smelled the cookies/cupcakes/brownies and eat it with us. This made me miss my sleepover days!