My dd's best friend's parents are mad at my dd...

[Mermaid02]

...the other night my dd had a sleepover. Apparently at some point she made coffee and offered it to the other girls. Yes we do let her drink coffee...she doesn't drink it very much...and usually prefers iced coffee...(btw- these girls are all going on 15)... one girls had a little, the girl in question had none. Now apparently this girls parents FLIPPED and told her how her cousin was addicted to caffeine... how her Dad hated that "have to have a cup of coffee in the morning" feeling...and then they told her they didn't want her in "that kind of environment" ummmmmmmm it was COFFEE not HEROIN

Hey, I remember being 15 and how tempting ANY forbidden fruit was. I really think coffee is pretty tame, but of course would never give it to someone else's child and have since told Megan that it is up to her friend's parents if they allow them coffee.

I also suggested she not call this friend for a while- let things simmer down a bit.

I think they over reacted, what do you think?

 

[MinnieM21]

They definately over reacted. That is absolutely ridiculous. I remember that I started drinking coffee at 13 and really come on! There are kids who are 15 and are drinking alcohol. The parents should be happy their kids aren't into doing things such as drinking alcohol or taking drugs. Honestly that is the dumbest thing I've heard. It's coffee for crying out loud! Your DD oftered them coffee, it's not as if she forced them to take heroin.

 

[Pooh67_68]

overreacated.

 

[Mermaid02]

Apparently they told her that the sleepover was a bad idea because "it disrupted her sleep pattern". Yes they did stay up almost all night but they didn't get up until 10:00 either. I think they are setting themselves up for some MAJOR rebellion.

 

[EdiePA]

C'mon there's caffeine in nearly every beverage that teenagers choose to drink! My sons drank Mountain Dew for years and that has recently been banned at our hospital for the high amounts of caffeine that it has -- to say nothing of Jolt and several others.

I think it was an over-reaction, too. DS#1's class was drinking beer in the seventh grade and these parents are worried about caffeine?

I think your advice was good -- lay low, let it blow over and see what happens.

Edie

 

[MsDisney23]

I hear ya, and I would just let it go for now, I would not bring it up at all to anyone, unless it where brought up to me again. I see nothing wrong, I tried tea when I was very young, and to be honest I thought it was so nasty, but enjoy it today as an adult.

 

[sk!mom]

Overreaction, yes!

As the parent of a 19 yo, I kind of feel sorry for this family. How in the world will they handle some of the truly major issues that some of us eventually face when struggling to raise responsible adults?

 

[Mermaid02]

When I was a teen there were houses where kids knew they could go and drink- that's my house except they're drinking coffee not beer

 

[Nancy]

Way over reacting! Plus at 15 they were they are worried about a seepover disrupting her sleeping pattern???? That's what sleepovers are for!

 

[Winka]

Wow. There really are people like this out there? How did they ever let their precious out of her playpen?

These people didn't flip out at you, though, did they? You just heard about the flip-out through your dd? If they had flipped out at me...shudder!

These seem like the kind of people who DEFINITELY do NOT need caffeine in their diet.

 

[MinnieM21]

I agree, those parents are really setting themselves up for some MAJOR rebellion. I remember when I was younger, the parents who made the biggest deals out of the smallest things had the kids who rebelled later on. If they think their DD drinking coffee is the biggest issue they're going to have to face, they've obviously been living in a cave. I can't get over how dumb that is.

 

[Mermaid02]

Nope they only said this to their dd.... and I am ASSUMING it is true.
They are perfectly nice people, I just can't believe this is an issue.

 

[meeshi]

Wow, I think they over reacted just a tad. And I love the comment about it disrupting her sleep pattern, that's cute. Did they expect the girls to go to bed at 10:00?

 

[Serena]

Oh please, if that's all they have to worry about, then they have been pretty lucky.

I just hope your bad influence doesn't warp their child. What's next, candy?!

 

[Hillbeans]

I think that if this girls parents didn't want their child exposed to "coffee" they should have told you. If she is your best friend, I can't imagine this would be a big surprise that your DD may occasionally have coffee or that you have it in your house.

Now with this being said, my mom was sooooo strict with me and I could have seen her getting mad at this when I was 15. She got mad at everything . I think that some people think Coffee is an "adult" drink.

 

[dianeschlicht]

LOL! Over reacted and I'd say that poor child is over protected. Usually those are the ones who end up getting into the most trouble when they get older. My grandmother gave me decaf instant coffee when I was very young just to dunk my cookies in. I still love coffee, but only drink decaf. I guess I don't get what the uproar was all about.

Did they come to you with the "problem", or did they only confront your DD? If they didn't come to you, I would go to them! Sounds like they put a little "verbal abuse" on her.

 

[browneyes]

Yep they overreacted (that word looks funny spelled in the morning, btw).

 

[dianeschlicht]

Originally posted by browneyes
Yep they overreacted (that word looks funny spelled in the morning, btw).

LOL, is that because you need your coffee?

 

[Twinkles6892]

Originally posted by meeshi
Wow, I think they over reacted just a tad. And I love the comment about it disrupting her sleep pattern, that's cute. Did they expect the girls to go to bed at 10:00?

Well, they let her put off all of her homework on school days and then stay up till 1 getting it done. One time, she stayed up till 3 working on a project that was due the next day, when I worked on the project for a week and had it done earlier and we both got A+s

And they feed their dog whenever he barks!!!!!! Feeding the thing when he barks,

 

[stinkerbelle]

Originally posted by Hillbeans
I think that some people think Coffee is an "adult" drink.

They must blow a gasket then when they see all the young teens in line at Starbucks, Gloria Jeans (VERY yummy frozen coffees!), and Dunkin Donuts for their coollattas, frappuccions, lattes, iced mochas, etc...

I started drinking coffee when I was 13/14 maybe? My parents could have cared less...just like another poster said...better then Mountain Dew! My SIL (15) drinks the lattees/cappuccions or iced coffees on occasion...

some people actually LIKE the taste of coffee and don't need it just to wake up in the AM.

heck - even my DOG likes coffee...she knows what the Dunkin Donuts cups look like and always gets a few laps of DH's.