My DD12 in trouble........

[Lorix2]

My DD14 does the exact same thing! Only she throws the granola bar wrappers behind the computer monitor and on the side of the desk between the wall. She is the only one who likes them, so I know it's her yet when you ask her how they got there I get the "I don't know"....she thinks I'm stupid.

I took the computer away for 2 weeks after numerous warnings. I made her clean them all up and it has stopped her from trying to sneak these things again. You must follow through or it'll keep happening.

I swear brain cells are sleeping at this age

 

[hemispheredancer]

I am going through all this right now with DD11. She is 11 going on 15, I swear! Her mouth is her biggest enemy right now. She doesn't know when to shut up and quit mouthing off. I have taken things away and it doesn't seem to phase her one bit. She takes no pride in anything she does and does it all half*ss. I told her this morning that her hair need to be brushed a little more since there were snarls at the end. She replies with "I don't care. It looks fine to me." Instead of going back in her room and putting 100% into it instead of 50% she chooses to argue about it. Her famous comment when I tell her to quit backtalking me is "I didn't say anything OR it wasn't me". I am at my wits end with her and if I could send her off to camp for 2 weeks, I would gladly do it. Almost like she needs a wake-up call reminding her how good she's got it.

 

[kmp1191]

Going through this as well, but w/ my ds,soon to be 11!!!
I could have choked him this morning!! What is it about siblings?? I just don't get it!! DD will be 7 next week, and DS will be 11 in August, and I have never met 2 kids that can fight more than them!!! DD will walk into the room and DS will snap at her for no reason!! Then when I ask him why, he gets all defensive and mad. I tell him not to eat anywhere but in the kitchen and he gets mad, I tell him no computer or TV in the morning while we are getting ready and he's mad.
I swear, I gave birth to the maddest kid in the country!!

 

[BeckWhy]

That's it? God my little brother swears at my parents and everyone else (and I don't mean just hell, I mean way way way way way worse words).

It could be a phase, it could be a friend that she just made, or she could turn out like me.

But... this is what I tell my parents about us kids, as long as we know when we are out we do not cause problems like that at school or with our bosses at work.

As far as I know, none of us do. I don't talk about to my bosses, nor does my brother.

Edit: Oh wait! I got one.. you shoulda washed her mouth out with soap! hehehe

 

[ohiominnie]

That's it? God my little brother swears at my parents and everyone else (and I don't mean just hell, I mean way way way way way worse words).

Not a chance I'd tolerate that in my house.
My kids know the bad words (heck, they are in PG movies!) but they know they are not good words to use. Besides, anyone with a decent vocabulary can come up with more than those words!!!
Being a Christian home, I like to remind my kids that they aren't only disrepecting ME, but they are disrespecting and disobeying God.....and you do THAT and you have bigger problems than losing TV for the rest of the day!!
Honor your father and your mother.
Obey your parents.
Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord.
Be content with such things as you have.

My kids have heard them all.

And when my dd just LOOKS like she's thinking evil thoughts about me, I remind her that just because she doesn't say them out loud, doesn't mean that God doesn't know what's in her heart and she'll have to deal with that herself.

I saw a little boy in the grocery store with his grandma about a month ago. He couldn't have been more than 4. He wanted to push the cart, but grandma didn't want him to. He told her to get her f-ing hands off the cart or he'd kick her a$$. She backed away from the cart.

Sorry, but that deserves strong discipline. If you can't handle them when they are FOUR, you won't be able to handle them when they are 15 and when they (espeicially boys) are bigger than you.

 

[BeckWhy]

Not a chance I'd tolerate that in my house.
My kids know the bad words (heck, they are in PG movies!) but they know they are not good words to use. Besides, anyone with a decent vocabulary can come up with more than those words!!!
Being a Christian home, I like to remind my kids that they aren't only disrepecting ME, but they are disrespecting and disobeying God.....and you do THAT and you have bigger problems than losing TV for the rest of the day!!
Honor your father and your mother.
Obey your parents.
Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord.
Be content with such things as you have.

My kids have heard them all.

And when my dd just LOOKS like she's thinking evil thoughts about me, I remind her that just because she doesn't say them out loud, doesn't mean that God doesn't know what's in her heart and she'll have to deal with that herself.

I saw a little boy in the grocery store with his grandma about a month ago. He couldn't have been more than 4. He wanted to push the cart, but grandma didn't want him to. He told her to get her f-ing hands off the cart or he'd kick her a$$. She backed away from the cart.

Sorry, but that deserves strong discipline. If you can't handle them when they are FOUR, you won't be able to handle them when they are 15 and when they (espeicially boys) are bigger than you.

You are right... If I were the parent and my brother or that 4 year old was my child... oh no.. that would not be happening... but we won't get into what I think should be done in situations like that. But you are right, there should be no disrespect to the parents in their home. I keep telling my boyfriend we better not have kids like that or I'll shoot em (not really though, ya know)...

 

[Becky2005]

Remind me to NOT open these type of threads! Really...life was going rather well....my 12 year old hasn't *quite* gotten there yet (although she did start getting a little mouthy around 10 & that still rears it's ugly head now & then!).

I'm scared, very scared of teen years! Add to that, I have one turning 3 this year too (so will have a 13 year old & 3 year old at the same time! For ME, 3 was a whole lot harder than 2 for the other kids although maybe it will be better this time around since he was a worse 2 year old than the other 3 kids were. ).

I'll survive (maybe!) Caffeine is my friend.....

 

[L107ANGEL]

Remind me to NOT open these type of threads! Really...life was going rather well....my 12 year old hasn't *quite* gotten there yet (although she did start getting a little mouthy around 10 & that still rears it's ugly head now & then!).

I'm scared, very scared of teen years! Add to that, I have one turning 3 this year too (so will have a 13 year old & 3 year old at the same time! For ME, 3 was a whole lot harder than 2 for the other kids although maybe it will be better this time around since he was a worse 2 year old than the other 3 kids were. ).

I'll survive (maybe!) Caffeine is my friend.....

Where is that tag fairy

 

[ohiominnie]

For ME, 3 was a whole lot harder than 2 for the other kids although maybe it will be better this time around since he was a worse 2 year old than the other 3 kids were. ).

I'll survive (maybe!) Caffeine is my friend.....

Everyone I talk to says that 3 is MUCH worse than 2. I totally agree. My take on it is this.....2 yr olds get into trouble. They are curious and they want to explore the world....so they do. But they don't KNOW it's wrong to do some of those things.

Whereas a 3 yr old KNOWS better and does it anyway. Grrrrrr.

Good luck to you, oh mother of a 3 yr old and a 13 yr old!!

 

[luvdzny]

For those of you that are worried that it will happen to your child, calm down. I raised 3 kids, 2 boys & 1 girl, the boys are 22 & 20 and DD is 17. Never had that problem with any of them. I loved the teen years!

 

[dizagain]

I'm right there with you! DD12 is such a sweetheart most of the time - in fact she probably spends too much time trying to be good - until lovely PMS time. Then she turns into a crying screaming arguing mess.

DD10 who has always been our "trying" child is turning into a monster this summer. She has a neighborhood friend with the same temperament as her and the two of them influence each other - it's a vicious cycle. Yesterday I had to call them back home from the friend's house because they left an extra chair, torn bits of paper, and the dreaded empty Capri Sun packs in the office. Then not an hour later I had to take older DD somewhere and I had her run up to the neighbor's door to check in and make sure it was fine to leave DD there for 10 minutes and the girls would not open the door to her because they thought I was making her come home! Well, yes, I did make DD come home right then and SHE"S STILL HERE at 11:30 the next morning because she has chosen to be rude over being respectful.

Now, sometimes I would rather let it go so I can have some peace, but DH and I are determined to make her miserable until she settles down - we'll see how long THAT takes! Plus, I'm expecting a new baby boy in the next few weeks...should add to the fun!

 

[AC7179]

For those of you that are worried that it will happen to your child, calm down. I raised 3 kids, 2 boys & 1 girl, the boys are 22 & 20 and DD is 17. Never had that problem with any of them. I loved the teen years!

Wow! Lucky you! I'm sure you have great parenting skills but I also have to beleive that luck played a bit of a role too......so I will congratulate you and also tell you to thank your lucky stars you got off easy!

 

[AC7179]

And as an update to my main post, I came home from running errands today to find my dd12 sitting on the couch reading. I came in super quietly so she couldn't hear me, hoping she wasn't sneak watching tv and she wasn't. It's like once she gets over it she knows she was not being smart---but in the heat of the moment----open mouth, insert foot.

 

[AC7179]

I'm right there with you! DD12 is such a sweetheart most of the time - in fact she probably spends too much time trying to be good - until lovely PMS time. Then she turns into a crying screaming arguing mess.

DD10 who has always been our "trying" child is turning into a monster this summer. She has a neighborhood friend with the same temperament as her and the two of them influence each other - it's a vicious cycle. Yesterday I had to call them back home from the friend's house because they left an extra chair, torn bits of paper, and the dreaded empty Capri Sun packs in the office. Then not an hour later I had to take older DD somewhere and I had her run up to the neighbor's door to check in and make sure it was fine to leave DD there for 10 minutes and the girls would not open the door to her because they thought I was making her come home! Well, yes, I did make DD come home right then and SHE"S STILL HERE at 11:30 the next morning because she has chosen to be rude over being respectful.


Now, sometimes I would rather let it go so I can have some peace, but DH and I are determined to make her miserable until she settles down - we'll see how long THAT takes! Plus, I'm expecting a new baby boy in the next few weeks...should add to the fun!

Congratulations on the soon to be new arrival!
I have the 12 year old and a 2 year old, and it is an interesting ride!
Congrats again and good luck!

 

[Froggyswife]

Have a 14 yo dd she started that at 12 hasn't got any better. Course I also Have a 39 yo adolescent frog too. Both of them think they have to have the last word which means IT NEVER STOPS!! At least till I threaten them with great bodily harm.

 

[AC7179]

Laughing at the threat of bodily harm! I might need to try that one!

 

[doxdogy]

Mine lost all brain function at around 13. Thankfully when she turned 17 it seemed to kick back into gear. I remember one winter I woke up to the house stiffling hot. The thermostat had been turned up to 80! DD told me that she hadn't gotten cold while playing on the computer and turned the heat up. Mind you she was sitting there in her sleep shorts.

 

[Froggyswife]

Laughing at the threat of bodily harm! I might need to try that one!

The threat has more weight if you are holding a 15 ft. bullwhip at the time.

 

[AC7179]

80 degrees totally sounds like something mine would do!

I tell ya, kids!

Froggyswife---you are TOO funny.