My DD cut her hair

[eeyore kelly]

My DD cut her hair yesterday at school. It's not bad and it can be hid, but since she has a history of this, I have threaten to cut it off at the shoulders if she did it again. My DD has waist lenght hair. Now I have to follow through. Why did she do this to me? I can't decide to be mad or sad.

 

[stinkerbelle]

Originally posted by eeyore kelly
Why did she do this to me? I can't decide to be mad or sad.

I don't think she did it to *you*.
it's her hair.

how old is she? I'm confused.

 

[Cthia]

You don't say how old she is. My DD was about 5 when she "cut" her hair. Luckily I was able to hide it while it grew out.

Do you leave her hair down all day? She may hate having it in her face daily. I pull my DD hair back daily even though I would love her to have it straight all day.

My DD hair is long, down to the top of butt and I know I would regret cutting her hair. She is 9 and I remember at her age I cut my hair short to look like everyone else and I regretted it.

 

[eeyore kelly]

She's eight. What I mean by "why did she do this to me?" is that today when she gets home and I bring her to get it cut, she'll cry and I'll cry, and I'll feel like the meanest person alive. All because i have to follow through. Sometimes it bites being Mom.

Her hair goes up every day. She didn't cut the sides she cut some in the back. it looks like she took a piece of her pony tail and just snipped it.

 

[Cthia]

Maybe try talking to her to see why she is cutting her hair.

Remember you can always change your mind about getting her hair cut.

I know it will be a hard thing for you to do.

 

[LMC]

My DD did this twice last year (5yo). Our hairstylist told her last time "did you go to school to learn how to cut hair?" of course the answer is no. So the sylists says well then you are not allowed to cut hair, until you have gone to school to learn how. And proceded to convince DD that she is not to put scissors to her hair anymore only the stylist. So far it has worked! She has waist length hair and asks me all the time to cut it but I refuse!!!

 

[jwsqrdplus2]

It sounds like you intend to follow through (which can be hard as a parent sometimes!!), so I have a small suggestion for you. Take her someplace where her hair can be donated to Locks of Love. Try to make something good out of this situation.

Good luck!

 

[FayeW]

Originally posted by LMC
She has waist length hair and asks me all the time to cut it but I refuse!!!

Obviously, the waist length hair is for you, not for her. How much clearer can she be, she cut it twice herself and asks you to let her cut it! This seems very selfish of you. I will admit that I don't understand what motivates people to insist that their children grow ridiculously long hair.

 

[decker96]

My DD did this once a year at 2 1/2, 3 1/2 and 4 1/2. It was always in April, usually around Easter time (I'm sure that has nothing to do with it, but I thought it was weird). Anyway, the first time (2 1/2) was right after I had gotten her her first pair of little kid scissors. She chopped her bangs and a little on one side. Not too bad, on the side I could hide it and her bangs grow extremely fast.

The next time (3 1/2) she took a huge chunk out of one side and a big chunk out of the bangs, almost to the scalp. The worst part about it was she was the flower girl in my sister's wedding which was 8 weeks from the time she chopped her hair. We'd been growing it out (I kept it up in a ponytail most of the time so it wouldn't bug her) so she could get her hair done "with the big girls" the morning of the wedding. I cried that time. Our stylist fixed it up the best she could and at least the bangs were fine by the wedding. She still got a cute little updo, so it was okay. And I hid the scissors.

The last time (4 1/2) she did it she also took a big chunk out of both sides (she climbed the shelves in my bathroom closet to get to the scissors). This time I just told our stylist to cut it up to where DD had chopped it. It was VERY short. When we got home she looked in the mirror and cried and said, "I look like a boy". She never did it again after that.

Maybe cutting it shorter will get her to stop doing it. If she doesn't like her hair short, she won't do it again. Hair grows back, don't worry. It will suck at the time, but she'll get used to it. Actually after the second time my DD cut her hair I decided it was really alot cuter when it was shoulder length (it was about mid-back before) and much easier to maintain so that's the length she keeps it at now.

It does stink having to be the bad guy, but that's part of our job as mom!

 

[HisEllyNelly]

My DD did this last year when she first turned 5. It was quite funny actually when I asked her if she had cut her hair she said no mama...scissors in hand, clumps of hair all over. She had long hair all one length...had to have it cut to a short bob. So I kept it short till this past summer she saw her cousins long pretty hair and was upset she cant have hair like that. I told her it takes time and she cant cut it herself. IF she decides she wants short hair again to tell me...I will take her to get it done, but she is not to use scissors on anything but paper.

 

[POOH&PIGLET]

Originally posted by jwsqrdplus2
Take her someplace where her hair can be donated to Locks of Love.

An excellent idea!

 

[KristiKelly]

I bet she'll feel a whole lot better with it cut a little shorter. Shoulder length is not all that short & can still be pulled up. DD's hair has never been any longer than shoulder length (maybe an inch longer) & I can pull it back in ponytails or whatever. I'm not a fan of really long hair though & I bet it takes forever to dry.

 

[stacilee]

I am sorry that she did that.

It seems they all do it at least once!
In my daughters kindergarten class two little boys "took turns" giving each other a trim!
The one boy had one or two snips off his hair and then said that's all thanks, now it's your turn. He proceeded to cut the other little boy's bangs off at the scalp and took big chunks out everywhere else. It's amazing how fast they can do this kind of damage. I remember the teacher telling me that when she saw it she thought she was going to have a heartattack! At that moment I thought, "you think you almost had a heart attack, just wait till he gets off the bus like that! His poor mother!" Needless to say the next day he came to school with a tight buzz cut.

It is always more awful when it is a girl.

If she loves to cut hair that much and she is old enough to understand that she is never to do that again to herself or to another child maybe you could buy her a couple of cheap baby dolls (with hair)at the dollar store and let her get it out of her system by giving THEM a new do. **with supervision of course!
Believe it or not, that is how MY mother broke me of the habit! I cut my childrens hair to this day. They look great if I must say so myself! LOL

If you really DO have to cut it, do you think you have 12 inches worth? You could donate it to Locks of Love, a charity that makes human hair wigs for children fighting cancer. Practically any beauty shop can tell you who to contact for instructions.

If it HAS to get cut it just seems a shame to waste it by throwing it in the trash.......

Hang in there mom..... It only gets worse.............

It might turn a bad experience into a good one!

 

[Jenn Lynn]

I just had 3 inches cut off of DD's hair. I grew it out for SIL's wedding and as soon as it was over she got it cut. It does take a little getting used to though.

 

[CEDmom]

I'd be inclined to get to the bottom of the problem before I just took her to get it cut off. It is only hair afterall and maybe there is a bigger issue lurking behind her doing this.

DD did this as well when she was about 3 1/2. She has bery fine hair and when she bends over some from the back will fall over in front giving her extra long bangs. It was getting in her way so she cut the long hair and a good chunk of her really bangs as well. I had gone into another room for a second when she did this. I made the mistake of trying to fix it myself and made it even worse.

BTW, don't believe those sissors that say they only cut paper .

 

[shelbyjosh]

Maybe this is her way of telling you she doesn't want it long. You cannot rely on what she tells you. My DD9 wants hers short. She figure skates and needs some length so I can bun it. When we go to the hairdresser she tells the lady "short". All I have to do is wink at the lady and all DD gets is a trim!!

Good idea for Locks of Love. They love "virgin" hair. Get it short and see how she does with it. Just remember...IT WILL GROW BACK!!!!

 

[hydster]

I feel for you! My 10 yr old dd has done it a couple of times but I could never come to the "root" of the problem and she has since outgrown it but it was awful when she did it! I told her next time she cut her own hair I was going to buzz her hair all off like her brothers...cured her almost instantly! LOL

On a side note..my sil just told me a few days ago her 6 yr old dd decided that she didn't like how her eyebrows looked so she shaved them off with bil's electric razor. LOL Talk about looking terrible! Sil's had to draw them on but she just wipes them off during the day....and now they are getting stubble and are prickly. So see it could be worse

I'd say if she cuts her hair maybe you should just cut it shorter and see how she does!

Hugs to you! I remember doing it when I was about that age as well....it looks so much easier than it is!

Heidi

 

[LMC]

FayeW:
No I don't think I am being selfish and it is not ridiculously long; it doesn't get any longer than it is now.
Have you ever had a child ask you for a sucker, piece of gum, or soda and told them "no"? Well if so, why "no"? It's called parenting and making the best choice(s) for each individual child. Once the hair is gone it will take years to grow back and not just reappear like she thinks it will. So until she understands the result of the action I make the decisions.