My daughter misses her dad. :(

[*Fantasia*]

My daughter was having a rough time this morning. She was crying and said that she misses her dad. Her dad died when she was only 2 (near 3) and my son was 5. Though she doesn't know her dad that well, from time to time, she will tell me that she wishes that her dad was still alive. And I tell her that even though he is not here with us, he is alive in our hearts. When you pray, also pray for him, and talk to him, he can hear you, and he can see you. He is our personal Angel.

I think my daughter is looking for someone to be there as a father. Maybe she feels different cause her friends have both mother and a father. :sigh::

My son is fine. I gave my son a big hug and got teary. I told him that I love him and to have a good day in school. He asked me why are you crying. I told him cause you sister was crying. Then I let him walk to his door. Then I just stood there next to Tina and telling her that everything is going to be alright. I didn't want to make a scene, so we just stood there away from the line (kids have to stand in line in front of the door). Then after some tears, we walked to her line and gave her a kiss and told her I love her and to have a good day in school. Then the class went inside.

It's so unfair that my kids have to go through this. Life is unfair. And life is too short. "God please keep giving me strength so I can be strong for my children and for myself."

Sorry for the long post. I just had to share my feelings and my thoughts. Thank you for listening.

Telly

PS. Does anybody know where I can find Princess Ata? My daughter misses her, she misplaced it and we can't find her. I am willing to call Downtown Disney and order it over the phone and deliver it to my house. She could use some pixe dust and I thought that would be a nice way to cheer her up a little. Thank you.

 

[Pop Daddy]

Im sorry, life is so unfair

 

[browneyes]

 

[Pin Wizard]

I remember those times with DS. It gets better as they get older. Yes, life's unfair...to so many people for different reasons. Hugs to you and your little ones, Telly!

 

[barrett7890]

my heart goes out to you, i can't begin to imagine how you are coping with this

cami
x

 

[Serena]

 

[enchantedpixiedust]

I'm sorry all of you are going through this. Life just seems so unfair sometimes. Thoughts are always with you.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Hang in there...

For some reason my kids always find coins at the bus stop. I tell them they are from their Grandpa in heaven. Maybe now your kids will find some too.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I take care of a girl who lost her father when she was 2 or 3yo. From what her mother was told, kids don't handle grief like adults. Every new stage they go through has the potential for the grief to happen all over again since the older they get the more they realize the loss that they've had. Of course that's extra hard on the adults, who are still grieving in their own way.

Avery (the girl I watch) is now 9yo and of course understands death a lot more than she did right after it happened. She used to be filled with such anger and would yell and demand her dad back.

My 4yo will sometimes ask Avery about her father. At first I was concerned that she would be upset my his questions, but I think it's good for her to be asked about him and it gives her a chance to talk about him.

Hugs to you and your family! It must be very tough and I can't even imagine what you've gone through.

T&B

 

[dizny4us]

 

[Mom2Ashli]

I am very sorry that you have to go thru this. Sending some pixie dust your way.

 

[edcrbnsoul]

I cant even pretend to imagine what it must be like but I can offer you this

 

[Brer Rabbit]

Your post touched my heart, my prayers are with you and your children, may I suggest " God Winks" by Squire Rushnell for you, it gave me hope when I needed it, hugs for you and your family.

 

[safetymom]

It has been 9 years since my kids lost their Dad. There are still times or moments when they mention how much they would like to talk with their Dad.

It does get softer to deal with but there isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss my husband and the kids miss their Dad.

I have had a lot to deal with since he died but I try to take life one day at a time just like after he died.

Remember to take care of yourself while you are taking care of your kids. Easier said than done I know.

 

[Dan Murphy]

's for all those here hurting. Sad it is.

Hoping all the children can have a smile, every day.

 

[TEENEE]

I don't know if this will help your daughter but it did help my son when we lost my uncle. My son and uncle were as close as a father and son. My son was part of a grief program at his school. The kids all wrote letters to the person they had lost and attached them to balloons and sent the balloons to their loved one in heaven. Another time they wrote letters on a small piece of paper, rolled the paper like a scroll, decorated it and used like a bead on a necklace. Only the child knew what was written on the letters. My thoughts are with you and your children.

 

[mrsgus06]

Dear Fantasia,

I totally understand what you are going thru. My stepdaughters were 2 (almost 3) and 4 when their mother passed away after giving birth to her third child. Every now and then, Hailey, the 2 year old, will cry because she misses her Mommy. She told me she remembers her but if you ask her about Mommy, she will tell me stories about me and her. We keep a picture of Mommy in each of the girls rooms. This happened back in Oct of 2001 and it looks like we may be on the same time line. Kelsey, the 4 year old tells me she is now having trouble remembering her Mommy . I have cried many a day with those two girls. The good news is I have adopted Hailey and Kelsey and the third little girl, Logan and hubby adopted Logan! Every day is hard but hold your head up and remember, he is always in your heart.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

 

[CEDmom]

I'm so sorry . Please check your PMs when you have time.

 

[KristiKelly]