My brother-in-law died very unexpectedly this morning - prayers for my sister please.

[Tiggeroo]

C.ann - I'm so sorry. You're really having a rough time lately. I wish I could do something practical, but you are definitely in my prayers, as is your sister. Conserve your strenght and take care of yourself. You will be no help to your ds if you end up in the hospital.

 

[KristiKelly]

That is so shocking & sad, I'm so sorry for your sister and your family, you'll be in my thoughts & prayers. A similar thing happened to my uncle in 1999. That afternoon he was helping with an Easter Egg hunt @ church and that night was found dead in his backyard. I guess it's a lesson for us all to always tell those special people how much they mean. If I were you, I would call the hospital (someone up top) and tell them of that Dr.'s poor manners - she really sucks!!! Again your family will be in my thoughts & prayers.

 

[vald1977]

So sorry to hear about the loss of your bil. I will keep your sister and you in my prayers.

 

[Rajah]

I'm so sorry.

 

[Sandy V.]

I'm so sorry C.Ann. You seem like such a nice person, and you've had a lot of tough things thrown your way lately. Hang in there!

Hugs to you!

 

[mommytotwo]

C. Ann, how is everything going? If you need more help, just let me know. I know that this is a tough time for you and your family. I had to help with planning my grandma and grandpa's funerals when I was around twelve years old, and had to do preperations for my son at the funeral home a few years back.

 

[Planogirl]

I'm so sorry C. Ann. It's unbelievable how fragile life really is. Bless your sister and you too.

 

[kamgen]

I am so sorry for your loss....you and your sister are in my prayers.

 

[Mishetta]

Oh, I'm so very sorry. I don't know what's best, to go suddenly or to have a long drawn out illness where your family sees you deteriorate. I'm so very, very sorry. I can't imagine the shock & disbelief.

After the dust settles, I would contact the hospital administration & inform them of the blunt annoucement of the death of your BIL. Just amazing!

My deepest sympathy C.Ann to you & your family.

 

[HoneyPooh]

to you and your sister. I just went through the same thing in September. My DH got a call at 7:00 a.m. that his SIL found his brother deceased in bed that morning. 50 years old, no known health problems. What made it worse was that they did not do an autopsy so we'll never know what happened. I'm now paranoid that something will happen to my DH or DS's. Hang in there, it sounds like you are being a terrific and supportive sister.

 

[newmousecateer]

Condolences to your sister, you, and the rest of the family C.Ann.

 

[wilderness01]

I am so sorry for you and your family.

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

I am so sorry for your loss. You have had such a hard time lately, sending hugs your way.

 

[femmegirl]

My thoughts and prayers will include your sister and the family. I am sorry for your loss

 

[TeresaNJ]

So sorry. My thoughts are with you and your sister.

 

[believe]

I didn't read all the post, so if this has already been said I am sorry. First let me say that I am so sorry for your loss and for your sister's loss. You are going through so much at this time. Know that I am praying for you through all your trials.

My Mother just passed away last month and I was involved in the entire process.

When we went to the funeral home we made sure we had the following to avoid extra trips. We had all life insurance policies, they will put these towards the cost of the funeral. They do all the filing at no extra cost. We had the clothes for my Mom. We also had a picture so they knew what she looked like before everything at the hospital. They will order any death certificates you need. They only charge you what they are charged and it is one less thing you have to do. They will also handle ordering any future ones for you if you prefer. If you give them your pastor's information they will contact them and if your pastor does charge for their services they will add that in...we contacted our's since we had 2 involved and they don't require payment. I needed more thank you cards than they gave in the set we ordered, you may want to see if you can order more. Our funeral home just gave me another box. We didn't do an obituary, my Mom's choice, and it was a private service.

As for cemeteries, most require full payment of the opening and closing of the grave before they will start anything. We were fortunate that my Mom had already done this and had already picked out the stone, she just hadn't ordered it.

Social Security has probably already been notified, but you can call your local one to make sure. They will send your sister a letter telling her to call them regarding the one time Survivor payment of $255 and to discuss any other benefits for the future.

If your sister had accounts with her DH they may be locked by now until everything is taken care of. I know at my sister's bank they go through the death notices every day and lock the accounts until any estates are settled.

If their is anything that is not standard your sister wants, don't hesitate to ask. My Dad requested to stay till the last dirt was in and they allowed us to even though machinery was used. They also wasn't going to let us back because of ice on the roads, but they knew how my family was and still let us back.

One part that I really liked at the funeral was that before they closed the casket we were allowed to 'tuck' my Mom in. We put the fabric that was outside the casket into it and covered Mom with an additional piece on top of the casket. They actually offered this at the last minute and I am so glad they did. Not that it is for everyone.

 

[Denine]

I am so sorry.

 

[Otto's Doll]

Nothing I can do or say will help, but please know how much people will be praying, and how much you are cared for here. God bless you and your sister and family at this time.

 

[tc]

I am so sorry for your loss, and your sister's loss. Prayers and pd sent from out west. Please accept my deepest condolences.

 

[2bemarried]

Many 's and prayers for your sister and family.