My brother-in-law died very unexpectedly this morning - prayers for my sister please.

[dianeschlicht]

So sorry, C Ann.

 

[Tuffcookie]

So sorry for your loss.

TC

 

[Lars624]

I'm so sorry C.Ann

 

[snels]

I am sorry for your loss.
Your sister is very fortunate to have you to lean on.
God bless you.
Sandy

 

[Disney Ella]

I'm so sorry to hear about your BIL. Your sister is very fortunate to have you there to help.

 

[poohandwendy]

Oh C Ann, how horrible, I am so sorry.

I can echo the 'funeral director" will really be helpful. You will need to decide where to have the 'wake', at her home or at a church or a local restaurant. You will have tons of people asking how they can help. Take them up on it, that is what friends and loved ones are for!!! Don't be shy, ask them for specific things (can you grab coffee, styro foam cups, tissues, soda.. for the house?) Can you take out the garbage on saturday, we might forget?... Can you bring over left-overs containers for the food (she will probably be overwhelmed with food contributions) Can you clean out the frige to make room? I know these things seem small and weird even, but you will both be VERY overwhelmed in the next few days, every bit of help is going to lessen some of the anxiety. It will be very difficult for her to make even the smallest decision. Make the tiny ones for her.

You will need to decide who will be pall bearers. You will need to decide what he will be buried in, and if she wants him laid out with his wedding band and buried with, if there is something special you want to place in his pocket? Gosh, these are really hard questions, but they will be all asked right away by the funeral director. Call her doctor and tell them what she is dealing with, she will be so out of it , she may forget what is necessary to take care of her own health. If she has health issues, it is a good idea for her doctor to be aware of her situation. He may want to prescribe something to help ease her anxiety for the next few days.

Remember to take care of yourself as well, to keep drinking fluids and eat even if it is just a bit here and there (sounds dumb, but if you dehydrate youself, you will end up passing out...it happened at my fathers funeral to my sister)

I will keep you in my prayers....how sad...HUGS

 

[Cindy B]

Sorry to hear abotu this .. it hadd been one challenging week or so for you.

As for the death certificates, yes, you will need several. When my MIL passed away, most utilities needed a death certificate as proof to turn off the utilities. (phone company definitely).

As for the funeral process, my hubby had to plan the entire funeral for his mother, along with his brothers. The funeral director will give you so much information, and just do your best. My hubby said it was information overload, but stop, ask questions, and if you don't understand something... say something.

 

[CRB#33]

Oh C. Ann! Big hugs and my deepest sympathy

Take care of your sis. She may want to help you in your search for things. Try not to do it all yourself, thinking she can't until you make sure. People grieving terribly don't always think straight and can feel completely differently three days from now and then resentment can creep in.

Just love her, hold her and do what she asks if you can.

Again my deepest sympathy.

 

[dizneenut]

I'm so sorry.

 

[TammyNC]

I am so sorry for the loss of your BIL. Your sister and your entire family will be in my prayers. Hopefully your brothers will step up to give some support although you aren't thinking they will. Your sister has a great support person right now, YOU. I hope that today goes smoothly with everything that you all need to do.

 

[Pooh93]

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your sister.

 

[marlasmom]

I am so very sorry. My prayers go out to all of you.

 

[Kteacher]

I am so sorry

 

[newholiday]

Im sorry

 

[helenabear]

I am so sorry My prayers are with you all

 

[Poohbear123]

So sorry to hear about your Brother in law. You are in my prayers...........Faith.

 

[rasnlms]

I am so sorry for the loss. My prayers are for your family.

 

[loisg1]

C.Ann, I will keep your family in prayer. God bless.

 

[browneyes]

I'm sorry. I'll pray for your family.

 

[Hillbeans]

May god bless you and your family during this time. Stay strong!