My BF won't go to Disney with me anymore

[AlexMouse]

So... just wondering if anyone has any advice.

We've been to Disneyland together 4 or 5 times over the last 10 years or so, and have been to WDW once back in 1998.

But he won't agree to go anymore. He says we've been to Disneyland enough and that we don't need to go anymore (regardless of my argument that there's "new stuff.")

I was trying to talk to him about the possibility of planning a trip to WDW in a couple of years, but he just basically said we shouldn't even talk about since I don't have a job right now. It's true, I don't, but hopefully will be employed again soon, and when I am, I'd like to look forward to going back to Disney!

My sister is really the one who shares my Disney love, and even though we always have a great time it's just not really the same as being able to go with my someone special.

I know I can't force anyone to be as in to Disney as I am. I've tried explaining how much it means to me, but he just doesn't "get it." He'd rather stay at home and play World of Warcraft, I suppose.

I've gone on vacations with him that I wasn't particularly thrilled about ahead of time (camping... though I did actually have a good time), but he just doesn't seem to want to "do Disney" again.

He's not opposed to me going by myself or with someone else, though I think that if I ended up going with another guy he'd probably be jealous.

Has anyone here ever dealt with a similar situation, and if so what did you do?

 

[DOPEYLUVER]

My sister is really the one who shares my Disney love, and even though we always have a great time it's just not really the same as being able to go with my someone special.

I guess I love Disney more than I love my husband. I recently took a trip to WDW with my BFFL and we are planning another trip at Christmas time. I've never been at Christmas but have always wanted to go, so I know I will have a great time.

Hubby can stay home and I will be experiencing Disney with someone who may actually love it more than I do at Christmas which no one loves as much as I do.

 

[soulmates]

No, I haven't, but a good friend of mine, her hubby is the same way. He's been and he's over it. You just can't "Convince" them...they have to love it, like us. However, her DD LOVES it and they go every year, the 2 of them. Hubby has no problem, he know's how much she loves it. In a perfect world, our other halves would ADORE Disney as we do..but sadly, some just don't SEE the magic!

 

[daannzzz]

I don't have a special someone so have gone to Disneyland and WDW quite a few times by myself. You should give that a try. I know it doesn't work for some people but it can be awesome as you do not need to worry about someone elses needs and wants. In any case you could plan a trip alone but with the caveat that there is room for someone else at the last minute. When I book my rooms on solo trips I almost always book a room with two beds, just in case. Yes. It is a bit more expensive because there is no one to share the costs but if you plan ahead you can do it.

 

[zeitzeuge]

My previous partner of 4 years, took me to Disneyland (after months of begging and pleading) for the first time since I was 18, a couple years ago. He was more of a thrill ride type of guy. He never understood my Disney Dorkdum at all, but I was lucky enough that he appeased me and took me to Disneyland and Disneyworld both in one year. He had a great time while at the parks, but I could tell the whole time he was enjoying seeing ME acting like a 5 year old more then anything. He kept saying he loves Disneyland, but I never believed him fully. Guess I was wrong. He just got back from a trip with his new partner. They went to WDW for 7 days.

It sucks when a partner doesn't "get it" or can't at least go with you because he wants to make you happy. Relationships are about giving and taking correct? Ok, NOT somthing I should have said in this crowd.

I'm SO lucky to have a partner now that is just a big a DD (disneydork) as I am. He "gets" me. I like to think that I've even fueled his obsession some.

Hopefully you and your partner can work something out. If not, I would be finding ANYone to go to the parks with or do some solo trips for my Disney fix.

Good luck.

 

[AlexMouse]

I don't have a special someone so have gone to Disneyland and WDW quite a few times by myself.

I've done Disneyland 3 times by myself. Nothing wrong with it... in some ways it's an advantage.

For sure though, I still prefer to go with someone.

 

[AlexMouse]

@ zeitzeuge:

Well... u guys r sure cute in your pics... (hope its ok to say that)... looks like you were having a great time

 

[zeitzeuge]

@ zeitzeuge:

Well... u guys r sure cute in your pics... (hope its ok to say that)... looks like you were having a great time

Thanks Alex and of course it's ok to say that. I never turn down a compliment. Please go ahead and say more. Kidding.

We have a blast when we go to DL. We go commando (not the no underwear type of commando) style through the parks every day we're there, doing everything we possibly can. Nothing like being a kid again for 3 or 4 days.

 

[Sphyrna]

It'd be nice if he would compromise. One vacation go somewhere he wants and the next vacation go to Disney. I understand what you mean about doing Disney alone. It has its advantages but at the same time it would be nice to share it with that special someone.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Well, it is not the same as the parks, but maybe your boyfriend would be intereseted in going on a Disney Cruise The crusie is still very much wonderful and amazing but also a very different experience from the parks and it has lots of adults only stuff going on and plenty of stuff without the characters for your BF (and plenty with for you) all with the kind of service which Disney is known for (which personally I think has slipped at WDW but not yet on the cruise). Of course, a cruise will liekly set you back even more than a park trip so you may not want to broach the subject while he is still touchy about finances

 

[AlexMouse]

NHdisneylover:

Great suggestion. I've mention it to him before, but you're right, it may be a subject to bring up again in the future.

Neither of us have ever been on a cruise.

 

[Kaler131]

he just doesn't "get it." He'd rather stay at home and play World of Warcraft, I suppose.

Oh that SOOOO sounds like my DH!! I just go without him....I go with my sister and my kids or I go alone with my kids. I am leaving him at home in June for the "Disney" part of our vacation and he's joining us for the second week for the "Universal" part of our vacation. That's just fine with me!!

 

[NHdisneylover]

NHdisneylover:

Great suggestion. I've mention it to him before, but you're right, it may be a subject to bring up again in the future.

Neither of us have ever been on a cruise.

Just be aware that once you cruise DCL you will very likely be addicted Disney cruise lines is its own special kind of wonderful

 

[MAF]

I can kind of see your b/f's point though. I mean why should he pay for an expensive trip to somewhere he doesn't want to go to?

 

[AlexMouse]

I can kind of see your b/f's point though. I mean why should he pay for an expensive trip to somewhere he doesn't want to go to?

That would be a valid point if he ever paid for anything, but I am the bread-winner in our relationship. (Even now that I'm unemployed...)

It's never really bothered me much.

Still, it's time off of work etc, so I suppose I can partially see your point.

 

[zeitzeuge]

I guess I see relationships as compromising. We often do things we might not necessarily want to do all the time, but we do it to make our partner happy.

 

[MAF]

That would be a valid point if he ever paid for anything, but I am the bread-winner in our relationship. (Even now that I'm unemployed...)

It's never really bothered me much.

Still, it's time off of work etc, so I suppose I can partially see your point.

Ok well I'm sorry for misjudging the situation. Well I don't know, I guess I might dump a boyfriend over the choice of going to WDW...

 

[Crashdown]

It's over. Time to move on.

 

[tig82174]

Ok well I'm sorry for misjudging the situation. Well I don't know, I guess I might dump a boyfriend over the choice of going to WDW...

I'm glad YOU said that....because I was thinking it!! Of course I'm joking (kinda)....but I've always teased that I have really only 4 "deal breakers" in a serious relationship....and one of them is a serious love of all things Disney!!

(Thank heavens my partner fits the bill!!)

 

[TuckandStuiesMom]

I have been in a veeeeerrrrrrrry longterm mixed marriage. (I love All Things Disney / my Significant Other thinks its a waste) Sad... but over time you come to grips with it. His other many wonderful qualities far outweigh this relatively minor point of disagreement.
Just go by yourself or with other people, bring home something nice to make up for your absence, and be gentle about the things that he's wild about/ you're not all that fond of... (I'm thinkin' about those nasty 1/2 empty herring in sour cream jars in the back of the refrigerator -- if you're reading this, Mr. Chuck )