my 8 yr old is growing BOOBIES!!!

[Serena]

I think the dis is a great place to address things that concern us. Maybe it's TMI, but it's also very helpful to others who may be going through the same thing.

Just as long as we don't show the daughter the thread.

 

[peachgirl]

Originally posted by phamton
TMI

 

[bumcat]

My 10 yr old son is growing a bigger... oh nevermind

 

[pw2pp]

My 10 yr old son is growing a bigger... oh nevermind

yikes!

 

[sncbird]

I also have a DD who's 8 and we just noticed the same thing. She's also very tall for her age. I appreciate the book suggestions that people have recommended and I think this thread is fine for the community board. For those who find it distastful or offensive - no one made you click on the thread to read it. It states clearly in the title what the thread is about. But, I realize everyone in entitiled to their opinion.

 

[peg2001]

I'll be there soon as I have a DD7 and then a DD4. However, am I the only one who prefers the real names for parts of the body, like "breasts", over the nicknames?

Peggy

 

[jocon]

Don't be so Reagan conservative.....there is nothing to be embarassed or ashamed of......crazy is the thought that someone cannot ask for advice from friends. The same people who think the OP was "TMI" are the same ones who would offer their unsolicited opinion of child rearing if something bad happened dealing with something related to this topic.

 

[phamton]

Originally posted by Serena
I think the dis is a great place to address things that concern us. Maybe it's TMI, but it's also very helpful to others who may be going through the same thing.

I can see the helpful information. Maybe it's just me but I think announcing on a public BB what should be a private matter between a mother and daughter is TMI.

I've raise 5 kids and wouldn't have announced this to my close friends in real life. It seems a betrayal of trust and privacy. If I had a question about puberty, I would have asked in a way that didn't reveal info about my daughter. Such as: "Does anyone know the approximate age that puberty begins? Can someone rcommend some good books?" Never would I announce my daugher is growing boobs or my son finally has pubic hair.

Originally posted by jocon
there is nothing to be embarassed or ashamed of

I never felt it was anything to be embarrassed or ashamed of. But would you really want your mother to announce this about you on a public forum? I respect my child's privacy. I have no reason to be ashamed of anything my husband and I do in the "bedroom" but certainly would not share intimate details with my children. Nor would I want it announced in my children's classroom at school. It's not embarrassment or shame but private.

As much as we would like to see the Dis CB as just a few friends having a quiet intimate conversation, it is far from that. It is a public BB that probably has more lurkers than registered readers. You may as well take out a full page ad in the newspaper and announce your daughter's good news.

 

[aprilgail2]

Originally posted by peg2001
I'll be there soon as I have a DD7 and then a DD4. However, am I the only one who prefers the real names for parts of the body, like "breasts", over the nicknames?

Peggy

No you are NOT the only one...I shutter when I hear parents referring to *****'s as "winkys" or some other such silly names they tell their children to call them....my mom is still not used to my daughter who is now 4 saying proper names...when she was 2 and told grandma to "please wipe my ******" I though grandma was going to have a stroke LOL.

 

[DebbieB]

If this forum was local and the people involved would be recognized, I could see privacy concerns. Unless the original poster has announced her real name in the past, I don't see it as an issue. She doesn't even list a specific city in her tag. It's a topic I'm sure many have or will face, nothing wrong with sharing ideas.

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

My pediatrician recommended the American Girl book for my DD7. I was happy to see that others found it to be a good resource.

Thanks everybody!

Lori

 

[Pooh Girl 71]

I don't think 8 is too young to have the other talk yet. I was 9 when I got my first period.

 

[RitaZ.]

I've raise 5 kids and wouldn't have announced this to my close friends in real life.

We all do things differently. Our "own" way isn't the only and right way of handling these real life issues.

I'm not bothered by the subject of this thread at all. For the most part, posters have tried to exchange information and titles of books that may be helpful to the young girls and their parents. What's wrong with that? I only see it as helpful. As parents, sometimes we are unsure on how to deal with real life issues regarding our children and so we ask for opinions.

I also agree with what DebbieB said.

 

[phamton]

Originally posted by DebbieB
If this forum was local and the people involved would be recognized, I could see privacy concerns. Unless the original poster has announced her real name in the past, I don't see it as an issue. She doesn't even list a specific city in her tag. It's a topic I'm sure many have or will face, nothing wrong with sharing ideas.

So because our next-door neighbor isn't reading the Dis, it's OK to reveal intimate details about ourselves or our children? We, as a group, are appalled that a mother might read her teenager's journal because it is an invasion of privacy and trust but see nothing wrong with revealing she is growing breasts.

I still say that sharing ideas would be appropriate without referring to private issues of our children. It's all about trust between a parent and a child.

So should we expect equal time for our male children? Maybe a post saying: "My son is becoming a man. He had his first nocturnal emission last night." Afterall, it is a topic many have or will face with their sons.

 

[ToriLammy]

Originally posted by peg2001
I'll be there soon as I have a DD7 and then a DD4. However, am I the only one who prefers the real names for parts of the body, like "breasts", over the nicknames?

Peggy

Nope you're not the only one.

 

[peachgirl]

. For those who find it distastful or offensive - no one made you click on the thread to read it.

Actually, I find the title of the thread to be just as distasteful and the content.

Just because something happens doesn't make it appropriate material to discuss in such a public way.

It has nothing to do with conservative, it's has everything to do with good taste. There are better ways of asking for information on puberty than to announce to the world that your daughter has breasts.

 

[goofy4tink]

Well, here I sat, pretty unconcerned about the whole puberty thing. I mean, it has looked to me that the girls in my dd's age range, 10, that are developing seem to be on the more 'sturdy' side. So, my too thin dd wouldn't have to worry and neither would I for a while yet. Now what happens? You guys tell me that your thin dd's are starting also!!! We do have the American Girl books and love them. They are very well read. My dd knows all there is to know (we had the talk). So, I guess I can stop being so complacent and start worrying too.

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

goofy4tink,

You're lucky, now I find out that I have to worry about nocturnal emissions too!

Lori

 

[browneyes]

Originally posted by phamton
So should we expect equal time for our male children? Maybe a post saying: "My son is becoming a man. He had his first nocturnal emission last night." Afterall, it is a topic many have or will face with their sons.

Congrats to your son. I'm sure most parents notice that about their sons-NOT. One of the first signs of puberty for a female is budding. One of the first signs of puberty for a male would be the voice changing. I'm sure you would find it offensive if people posted "My ds is becoming a man, his voice is squeaking." since that would be speaking about our children's private growing up issues. It would be giving equal time to our male children though.

 

[phamton]

Originally posted by pirateofthecarolinas
goofy4tink,

You're lucky, now I find out that I have to worry about nocturnal emissions too!

Don't worry. I'm sure someone will post about their sons soon. Just stick around and the CB and you can gain some valuable information.