Mother of Bride and groom dresses

[pixiewings71]

Guess you have never been invited to a black tie wedding....why do you care what she did for her wedding???

I guess you don't actually know what black tie means, it doesn't mean everyone wears black...
I have attended a few black tie weddings, I did not wear black, only the men wore black suits.

Indicating the formality of an event is different than dictating the exact color someone can wear. I was just at a black tie event and wore gold. There were others there is red, green, blue, silver etc. I have been to many weddings of varying formality from backyard to black the in NYC, and I managed to dress appropriately without the bride dictating what I can and can't wear. At my wedding I couldn't tell you what anyone wore outside of the bridal party and mog because I didn't care. They were there to help celebrate our wedding, not be the backdrop to photos

My FIRST thought!!!!
You never wore white or black to a wedding- EVER!!!

Nope, to do either is a huge faux pas.

OP when my dd got married I wore a dark blue just under me knees in length dress, she was married in August and used dark blue as her color, my DBF wore a blue shirt and striped tie to match with his nice slacks and he took a jacket (but didn't wear it, it was about 100 degrees and it was an outdoor wedding in the middle of the day. lol) Her Father wore a dark blue suit and his wife wore a skin tight short (mid-thigh) gold dress with fringe all down the front. lol

 

[JediBonas]

My gown was ivory, my bridesmaids wore red, my MIL I think was in blue and my mom in purple. I think. My mom ended up with three or four mother of the bride dresses because she couldn't decide on one! I have no idea what she ended up doing with the ones she didn't wear.

 

[Happy Snowman]

I guess you don't actually know what black tie means, it doesn't mean everyone wears black...
I have attended a few black tie weddings, I did not wear black, only the men wore black suits.







Nope, to do either is a huge faux pas.

OP when my dd got married I wore a dark blue just under me knees in length dress, she was married in August and used dark blue as her color, my DBF wore a blue shirt and striped tie to match with his nice slacks and he took a jacket (but didn't wear it, it was about 100 degrees and it was an outdoor wedding in the middle of the day. lol) Her Father wore a dark blue suit and his wife wore a skin tight short (mid-thigh) gold dress with fringe all down the front. lol

Yes, I know full well what Black Tie means, have been to several, but they are still dictating what you need to wear to a wedding....

and which DD got married?? your 18 year old or your 14 year old???

 

[NewRVLady]

and which DD got married?? your 18 year old or your 14 year old???

Really?

 

[Skywalker]

Yes, I know full well what Black Tie means, have been to several, but they are still dictating what you need to wear to a wedding....

Telling people that its a formal event is not the same as dictating what they wear. Especially if its a bait and switch and the host is not even dressing that way so they can be the centre of attention. A guide to the formality level of the event is so EVERYONE can be comfortable and on the same page.

 

[Happy Snowman]

Telling people that its a formal event is not the same as dictating what they wear. Especially if its a bait and switch and the host is not even dressing that way so they can be the centre of attention. A guide to the formality level of the event is so EVERYONE can be comfortable and on the same page.

Sure it is---people are complaining because they don't "own black" or won't buy something special for a wedding--same deal here....but whatever....

 

[maleficent32]

Sure it is---people are complaining because they don't "own black" or won't buy something special for a wedding--same deal here....but whatever....

I see what you are saying but there really is a difference between letting people know how to dress to match the occasion and dictating to people what color they have to wear, and then accusing those who didn't follow your orders as disrespectful

 

[Happy Snowman]

I see what you are saying but there really is a difference between letting people know how to dress to match the occasion and dictating to people what color they have to wear, and then accusing those who didn't follow your orders as disrespectful

Yes, that is not ok, but I don't see how wanting a black wedding being any different than wanting a formal wedding....

 

[Ceila]

Guess you have never been invited to a black tie wedding....why do you care what she did for her wedding???

Yes, that is not ok, but I don't see how wanting a black wedding being any different than wanting a formal wedding....

I'm sorry, but the more you post, the more it appears obvious that you have never attended a black tie event. Letting your guests know the level of formality of an event is absolutely nothing like dictating what color to wear (and then being snarky about those who don't follow orders).

 

[Happy Snowman]

I'm sorry, but the more you post, the more it appears obvious that you have never attended a black tie event. Letting your guests know the level of formality of an event is absolutely nothing like dictating what color to wear (and then being snarky about those who don't follow orders).

I've attended several black tie weddings actually and I'm sorry you don't see the difference. Expecting your guests to wear formal attire or expecting your guests to wear all black both indicate the formality of the event. Snark aside, which I think is what is really getting some posters upset, there is no difference in the request for guest attire.....just like asking your guests to wear beach clothing, or dress in period costumes, or Halloween costumes, or whatever. All of these requests dictate what your guests should wear and indicate the mood of the event.

 

[Disney Doll]

Ooh...Happy Snowman isn't so happy. . Black tie and "wear a black dress" are 2 different things. If dome bride sent me an invite telling me what color to wear, she'd have one less person on the guest list.

OP, that dress is lovely but you do have Quite a bit of time before the Wedding. Maybe you'll see something you like better?

 

[wishesuponastar]

I think you may be right that I might find something I like better. I also need to ask daughter if I should be looking at long gowns like I posted or shorter dresses.

 

[Ceila]

I've attended several black tie weddings actually and I'm sorry you don't see the difference. Expecting your guests to wear formal attire or expecting your guests to wear all black both indicate the formality of the event. Snark aside, which I think is what is really getting some posters upset, there is no difference in the request for guest attire.....just like asking your guests to wear beach clothing, or dress in period costumes, or Halloween costumes, or whatever. All of these requests dictate what your guests should wear and indicate the mood of the event.

Telling guests the level of formality is welcomed by those guests so they may choose appropriate attire. Dictating the specific color is controlling, and, if this thread is any evidence, not welcomed by the vast majority of guests.

Since you seem to equate having to wear a specific color dress with simply having to wear a tux / formal gown, I stand by my feeling that you really haven't been to one or perhaps you have but it was a stretch for you. Nobody I know who goes to these things would put the two in the same category.

 

[JanaDee]

I've attended several black tie weddings actually and I'm sorry you don't see the difference. Expecting your guests to wear formal attire or expecting your guests to wear all black both indicate the formality of the event. Snark aside, which I think is what is really getting some posters upset, there is no difference in the request for guest attire.....just like asking your guests to wear beach clothing, or dress in period costumes, or Halloween costumes, or whatever. All of these requests dictate what your guests should wear and indicate the mood of the event.

There is no comparison between asking guests to wear a specific type of clothing vs telling them to wear a specific color clothing.

Like others have already said, that is one invite that would be going in the trash.

 

[TheIncredibles!]

There is no comparison between asking guests to wear a specific type of clothing vs telling them to wear a specific color clothing. Like others have already said, that is one invite that would be going in the trash.

Agreed. Dress codes are socially acceptable and adhered to by many without thought. Without being told specifically most know what they should wear to church, what they should wear to a Broadway show, what they should wear out in public in general and what they should wear to a formal party. Although I have not been to a black tie wedding (shocking considering I live in NJ where our weddings are formal to begin with), I have been to an expensive per plate black tie fundraiser hosted on Ellis Island and I have been to a formal masquerade party where the option was full masquerade costume or tux for the men and floor length gown for the woman.

If a bride told me that I had to dress only in a specific color I'd let her know what I thought about her request. The venue and type of party dictates a dress code, a spoiled brat dictates what color a guest needs to wear.

 

[Snowysmom]

I have been the mother of the groom twice. I wore a dark purple just below the knee dress for my older DS wedding. The mother of the bride wore a light blue long dress. I wore a wine colored just below the knee dress for my younger DS wedding while the mother of the bride wore a gold knee length dress. In both cases I conferred with the mother of the bride regarding dress length and color so we both could find something we liked and that was flattering.

 

[Skywalker]

.just like asking your guests to wear beach clothing, or dress in period costumes, or Halloween costumes, or whatever. All of these requests dictate what your guests should wear and indicate the mood of the event.

I get what you are saying, but okay let's take your example of Halloween costumes. There is a difference between having a Halloween party and requesting people wear costumes, and telling each guest WHICH costume they are required to wear, solely for the purpose that some people can look better than others. its like telling everyone to show up in the same Clown costume just so that the host can dress like Romeo and Juliet and outshine everyone else.

Now, there IS a group that is socially acceptable to dictate what they wear, for the sole purpose of making yourself stand out and look better - that is called the bridal party. lol

 

[maelstrom]

My wedding colours were turquoise and chartreuse (peacock themed). EVERYONE wore something turquoise to the wedding and it was fantastic (small wedding). My mother wore black pantset with a glittery turquoise paisley design on the tanktop and jacket (from Macy's). My mother-in-law wore a turquoise dress (from Catherines Plus Sizes). Neither outfit was over-the-top.