Mother of Bride and groom dresses

[Happy Snowman]

I would wait to buy the dress for an event happening in over a year. It doesn't sound like your DD has picked her bridesmaids dresses yet so I would wait for that for sure. Your tastes may change between now and then along with other details of the wedding. I'd wait at least 6 more months to get your dress.

 

[Happy Snowman]

Seriously? You wanted to dictate what color your guests wore?

PPs have asked good questions. I think it also depends on your colouring (and hers) - different colours are going to look good/bad on different people.



That struck me as odd too - never been to a wedding (as a guest) where the colour of my clothes was dictated!

Guess you have never been invited to a black tie wedding....why do you care what she did for her wedding???

 

[Gracie09]

Guess you have never been invited to a black tie wedding....why do you care what she did for her wedding???

Indicating the formality of an event is different than dictating the exact color someone can wear. I was just at a black tie event and wore gold. There were others there is red, green, blue, silver etc. I have been to many weddings of varying formality from backyard to black the in NYC, and I managed to dress appropriately without the bride dictating what I can and can't wear. At my wedding I couldn't tell you what anyone wore outside of the bridal party and mog because I didn't care. They were there to help celebrate our wedding, not be the backdrop to photos

 

[ronandannette]

Guess you have never been invited to a black tie wedding....why do you care what she did for her wedding???

Have you? "Black tie" attire does NOT mean everybody wears black!

 

[marlynnp]

Guess you have never been invited to a black tie wedding....why do you care what she did for her wedding???

Black tie doesn't mean everyone wears black...

It's men in tuxedos (yes, they'd be black) and women in floor length gowns of ANY COLOR

 

[Gracie09]

Guess you have never been invited to a black tie wedding....why do you care what she did for her wedding???

Indicating the formality of an event is different than dictating the exact color someone can wear. I was just at a black tie event and wore gold. There were others there is red, green, blue, silver etc. I have been to many weddings of varying formality from backyard to black the in NYC, and I managed to dress appropriately without the bride dictating what I can and can't wear. At my wedding I couldn't tell you what anyone wore outside of the bridal party and mog because I didn't care. They were there to help celebrate our wedding, not be the backdrop to photos

 

[jrmasm]

Black tie doesn't mean everyone wears black... It's men in tuxedos (yes, they'd be black) and women in floor length gowns of ANY COLOR

Tux can also be midnight blue for black tie.

 

[SirDuff]

Guess you have never been invited to a black tie wedding....why do you care what she did for her wedding???

People have already covered the difference between "black tie" and "everyone wear only black".

To your second point - why do we care about most of what is posted here? She posted about it, so people talked about it.

 

[NewRVLady]

If I were you and had my heart set on that particular dress I'd order it now in my present size. It can always be altered if need be.

I would be afraid of the alteration fees around here....I'm hoping to lose lots.

FYI-I started the dreaded "Hunt for the Dress" in local Bridal shops. I found sizing for MOB dresses to be wacko!! Most were strapless with some sort of a bolero jacket....I kept thinking-is this a wedding or a BULLFIGHT I was going to???
I ended up going to a large Dept store in big city an hour away.

I really liked the Adrianna Paypell Gowns they carried (Macy's, Nordstom and Dillards carries this line)
I kept away from a DEFINED waist dress-most that had a higher waist-or Grecian gown tucking were more flattering

There is always going to be a dress you can find-wait to buy!

 

[ronandannette]

Indicating the formality of an event is different than dictating the exact color someone can wear. I was just at a black tie event and wore gold. There were others there is red, green, blue, silver etc. I have been to many weddings of varying formality from backyard to black the in NYC, and I managed to dress appropriately without the bride dictating what I can and can't wear. At my wedding I couldn't tell you what anyone wore outside of the bridal party and mog because I didn't care. They were there to help celebrate our wedding, not be the backdrop to photos

Yeah, that little detail slipped in there was pretty telling, wasn't it.

 

[Myothername]

One of my facebook friends should have seen these posts when her daughter got married. I don't know her that well. We went to high school together is all. I have not kept up with her. I honestly thought she had gotten remarried (for like the umpteenth time). It looked like an ivory colored wedding gown.

 

[DisneyChula]

Yeah, that little detail slipped in there was pretty telling, wasn't it.

That and those who didn't go along with her color "request" were assumed to be showing their displeasure towards the marriage rather than just not wanting to go along with a (this is my opinion) very obnoxious request.

 

[Skywalker]

I do recall one party where it was requested what we wore....an acquaintance had a "Black and White Ball" (after she read about some rich people having one lol) and guests were "required" to wear either black or white...

Main difference being, the hosts were dressed to the same theme, they didn't do it so that they themselves could show up in red to stand out above everyone else.

But then again, it seems some people don't want "guests", they just want an audience.

 

[scrapquitler]

What color did you choose? I think bridesmaids may have black/silver. Dark grey comes to my mind as MOB but I'm hoping for more ideas. March wedding

At my wedding, the bridesmaids wore turquoise, my MIL wore a mauve chiffon dress and my Mom wore a peach suit.

For your wedding, with black/silver, I think a cranberry color might look nice. I think that the MOB/MOG really have to consider their coloring and pick something that looks good on them, which to me is more important than 'matching' the bridal party. As long as it doesn't clash, I think it's all good.

 

[Wendy31]

Like others have mentioned, in addition to the color of the bridesmaids' dresses, I think you should also consider the time of year/season, the time of day, & formality/venue of the wedding.

DH & I got married at 3:00 pm on a Saturday in April - the flowers in mine & the bridesmaids' bouquets & the table centerpieces were very springy. We had a traditional church wedding.

My bridesmaids' dresses were French blue, but there were some pink & yellow accents brought in mostly w/ the flowers.

My mom's dress was a light pink chiffon dress. My MIL's dress was a dark pink brocade & beaded suit.

In contrast, DH's younger brother & his wife got married in late November in his college's chapel w/ the reception following at a separate venue - a southern mansion used for various events. The wedding began in late afternoon, & the reception carried into the evening. The bridesmaids' dresses were navy blue. DH's mother wore a dressy gray suit, & the bride's mother wore a deep plum dress.

DH's niece got married in July. She had an outdoor wedding on a farm that started about 4 or 5, if I remember correctly. The ceremony was outside, & the reception was inside the barn. The bridesmaids' dresses were champagne-colored. My sister-in-law (the MOB) wore a Kelly green dress - it looked very fresh & summery & young & went great w/ her coloring! On the other hand, the MOG, who was only about 3 years older than the MOB wore a brownish-gray dress that looked very dowdy & heavy - and didn't fit the venue & time of year at all.

If the bridesmaids' dresses are black or black/silver, what color are the flowers in the bouquets?

W/ black bridesmaids' dresses, you can go w/ a lot of different colors for your MOB dress, but you don't want to clash w/ the flowers. Depending on the other colors (if there are any) being used for the wedding, a platinum, turquoise, cranberry, plum or grape, or even a berry pink or a coral could work well - I'd look for what works well w/ your coloring & overall style!

Regarding dictating what my quests should wear... I can't imagine! I mean, I can understand if the bride & groom have a "theme" & request that their guests dress to go along w/ their theme (like a Renaissance Faire wedding for example) or state something like "black tie" on the invitation, but, beyond that, it's really rather rude to ask your guests dress only in black so that you can be the center of attention.

 

[Wishing on a star]

OP, that is a gorgeous dress!
I am the one who had commented on the possible grey color, but this dress is just beautiful with lots of lace and sparkle and 'interest'.



Sounds like you do have quite some time to decide.
So, happy shopping!

 

[Burnedout]

Guess you have never been invited to a black tie wedding....why do you care what she did for her wedding???

So when you go to black tie events your female companion has to wear black? Pretty much the tackiest thing out there is to dictate what a woman can wear when dressing up.

 

[disykat]

I would not attend a "must wear black" wedding unless I was in the wedding or a very close family member. I don't own black and it is not in my budget to just buy a new dress to be a guest at a wedding - especially when not following the color scheme is seen as an agressive statement against the wedding!

As for MOG dress, I think any dress that fits the general mood of the wedding would work.

 

[usd2bmd]

I had a somewhat odd vision for our wedding (according to some of the guests). I wanted EVERYONE but the bridal party in all black. Husband and his groomsman were in their uniforms, I was in white, my daughter and bridesmaids were in red. Everyone who actually respects us was in black. Only a couple people were in other colors like purple and teal (they did not want to be there and wanted to show their disapproval outwardly of our marriage).

Ironic, considering traditionally wearing black to a wedding (especially by the MOG or MOB) used to signify disapproval.

I have two weddings coming up this summer and I only hope that they don't decide to dictate what color I as a guest should wear.

PPs have asked good questions. I think it also depends on your colouring (and hers) - different colours are going to look good/bad on different people.



That struck me as odd too - never been to a wedding (as a guest) where the colour of my clothes was dictated!

Neither have I, and I hope I never attend one.

 

[NewRVLady]

Ironic, considering traditionally wearing black to a wedding (especially by the MOG or MOB) used to signify disapproval.

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My FIRST thought!!!!
You never wore white or black to a wedding- EVER!!!