OK so here's the kind of year I've had: Last spring, in march, my dad died of cancer. It was a devastating blow to the family, especially my mom. During that time my partner and I decided we would go ahead and do Disney the following winter 2013. My mom got wind of this not long after my dad passed and expressed interest in going. We thought it would be a cool idea if my mom came down too. She is still not sure if she wants to go, but as of late she is leaning on the side of going. If she does go she only wants to stay for 3 days and spend her time pool side and then join us for meals (shes 70 and not keen on walking everywhere) As if things weren't bad enough this year , a few months after my dad passed I also lost my dog. Not as big of a deal as loosing your dad but it just brought everything back. A nice relaxing trip is definitely just what the doctor ordered, right? Well everything got booked in August and now we're just waiting for airline prices to come down a bit. Today my partner dropped the bomb of an idea of having his parents drive up from their house in Sarasota FL to "meet us" while we're there. This is not a good plan because his mom and I do NOT gel at all. My partner gets along with my mom wonderfully but unfortunately that is not the case with his mom and me. And my partner has NO IDEA... he assumes we get along but we really dont at all. I tried explaining we were dropping $3000 on this trip and that the only reason i was keen on my mom going was the fact that she was happy to go off and do her own thing while we did our thing. His mom LATCHES on for dear life -- literally....I have pictures to prove it and all the while she dismisses me. I think I need this to be a trip for us to just be together...i don't know what to do. Should I tell my mom she cant go and tell my partner I wish this to be a parent-free trip? Should I define this as a trip for only my side of the family only, highlighting the fact that it would be better if my mom didn't have to deal with too many other people showing up pulling her in different directions? Or should we stay a day longer and have his parents meet us on our last day, do the parks with us and then drive back down to Sarasota and fly home from ft Myers? I'm stumped. The one thing I do know is I'm NOT spending 3 grand on Disney to have his mom show up on day #2 of our trip and not leave until our last day! Believe me she would pick us up from the airport if we let her! Help!