Moms to be Part 4

[kpm76]

Congrats Nette!! Sean is adorable

 

[TSRE]

Huh, I had never thought of that with Catholic hospitals. My hospital is part of a Catholic system, but the name of it is Methodist, and my doc suggested I sign the papers for tubal ligation just in case I needed an emergency c-section, so obviously they do that. I wouldn't switch for that reason, either - it matters too much to be at the hospital you trust.

 

[TarzansKat]

Question: How long is the normal hospital stay with the first baby (assuming everything with baby is ok?) My insurance really doesn't say and I can ask my Dr, but don't go back for a week and a half. I was just kind of curious!

I think around here it's 2 and between 4-5.

The nurse with my first one actually gave me a lecture on how horrible it would be when I got home and that I should stay there. If I had listened to her I think I never would've wanted to leave. She had had a bad experience herself.

Nothing like trying to scare the crap out of you, eh? Geez!

As for how long you stay in the hospital, federal mandates say that insurance has to pay for 48 hrs after a regular delivery and 96 after a c-section.

Thanks for clearing that up, I was really curious.

Catholic hospital. No permanent birth control.

Wow. I'm Catholic and I never thought of that. I wonder if they do them at the hospital we're going to.

 

[Piecey]

I'm going to bet it's the same reason I couldn't... Catholic hospital. I had the option to go to another hospital with my doctor, but I've heard scary things about how regimented and inflexible that hospital is... Not to mention that they apparently have a much higher rate of "intervention".

Pretty much my situation, too!

There are 3 hospitals in this general area. One is out of state (I live on the border) and my OB doesn't go there. It's the only other hospital I would trust, no way in Hades would I go near the other one. I had outpatient surgery there (really needed it done, to wait to go to the Catholic hospital would have been over 3 months ) but that experience was enough for me to know that I have no desire to deliver, and spend multiple days, at that hospital.

I had quite the struggle with making a decision on what to do because my family was pushing me to find a new OB and go to the other hospital. I decided to stick with my OB and my hospital because it was what I was comfortable with. I love my OB. She is highly religious, keeps her office in the Catholic hospital, and even though I am not at all religious I'm happier with my current setup. Plus, the hospital is less than 5 minute drive from home. Super easy for DH to bring DS to visit me.

Ah...okay. That's one of the reasons why I was so glad when I found a doctor locally that was in-network with my hospital. I am getting my tubes tied and avoided the catholic hospitals for that reason (they are really good hospitals though). Does anyone know if I'll have a longer hospital stay because of it? Just thought of that today.

If you have an RCS I don't think so, but I think you do if you have a regular delivery. There was someone on the last Moms to be Thread with me that had a regular delivery and got her tubes tied and I *think* she stayed an extra day.

Huh, I had never thought of that with Catholic hospitals. My hospital is part of a Catholic system, but the name of it is Methodist, and my doc suggested I sign the papers for tubal ligation just in case I needed an emergency c-section, so obviously they do that. I wouldn't switch for that reason, either - it matters too much to be at the hospital you trust.

That is ultimately what caused me to stick to my guns and tell everyone NO! My cousin is a L&D nurse at the "other" hospital and she kept trying to get me to switch but that is the kinda thing where you want to be absolutely comfortable with where you are, and I wouldn't be comfortable there. So I chose the Catholic hospital. I'll go sometime before the Mirena wears off to get my tubes tied. I can handle an outpatient procedure at the "other" place...

Wow. I'm Catholic and I never thought of that. I wonder if they do them at the hospital we're going to.

I'm surprised they haven't brought it up to you? Although, like I said, my OB is IN the hospital. So they probably run into it a lot, I would bet the majority of her patients deliver there. They asked me at my very first appointment if I wanted my tubes tied and I said "I do, but I know she can't do them here, and I'm not going to *xyz*" and that was that. The nurse said "Yep, not here." and we moved on.

 

[TarzansKat]

I'm surprised they haven't brought it up to you? Although, like I said, my OB is IN the hospital. So they probably run into it a lot, I would bet the majority of her patients deliver there. They asked me at my very first appointment if I wanted my tubes tied and I said "I do, but I know she can't do them here, and I'm not going to *xyz*" and that was that. The nurse said "Yep, not here." and we moved on.

You know, it's just never come up. I'm sure if I brought it up, they'd let me know what my options are, but it's not something that's been mentioned to me.

Before my mom passed, I would have told you I was done. Two was enough, that was it, done, done, done. But because a lot of therapists recommend not making any huge life changes for at least a year after that kind of a loss, and because of how much that's changed my views on things, now I'm not so sure. I doubt that we'll have more, but at the same time, I am not quite ready to rule out the possibility completely.

 

[WDWorBUST]

You know, it's just never come up. I'm sure if I brought it up, they'd let me know what my options are, but it's not something that's been mentioned to me.

Before my mom passed, I would have told you I was done. Two was enough, that was it, done, done, done. But because a lot of therapists recommend not making any huge life changes for at least a year after that kind of a loss, and because of how much that's changed my views on things, now I'm not so sure. I doubt that we'll have more, but at the same time, I am not quite ready to rule out the possibility completely.

I can completely understand not making that kind of decision right now. I think you are very wise not to.

I know without a doubt I'm done because 2 children are all I have ever wanted and think we can handle.....and I will turn 37 next year and just don't see myself doing this again. However, I haven't talked to my doctor about it yet and will probably do that this next appointment.

 

[TarzansKat]

I can completely understand not making that kind of decision right now. I think you are very wise not to.

This is true of all my "major" decisions right now. Whereas before I could tell you things with pretty much absolute certainty, now I feel completely emotionally stunted. I know it's all part of the grieving process, so I'm trying to calm my inner control freak and cut myself some slack.

I know without a doubt I'm done because 2 children are all I have ever wanted and think we can handle.....and I will turn 37 next year and just don't see myself doing this again. However, I haven't talked to my doctor about it yet and will probably do that this next appointment.

I hear you, for sure! Don't get me wrong, I love my kiddo(s), and for the most part enjoy the process, but right now, I am so ready to be done with being pregnant. I think that's part of that exasperation that comes toward the end of pregnancy.

 

[cmskok]

Nette, Congratulations! He is adorable!

On a much different note, maybe we can send some of our good vibes to my friend Faith, whose son was born 2 nights ago at 24 weeks, weighing 1 pound 9 ounces. Faith's dad's funeral is today as well. Poor girl is suffering so much. Thanks everybody!

 

[TarzansKat]

On a much different note, maybe we can send some of our good vibes to my friend Faith, whose son was born 2 nights ago at 24 weeks, weighing 1 pound 9 ounces. Faith's dad's funeral is today as well. Poor girl is suffering so much. Thanks everybody!

I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[DMickey28]

I just popped on this thread for fun ... wow, so many of you are almost there!!

Sean is adorable! I love RCS babies ...

My DS is 15.5 weeks now and I am already jealous of you guys. I don't know if we are having anymore kids though ... I'll wait another year and half before making that decision. I want a baby girl!! So jealous of Pollito ... one of each!

 

[WDWorBUST]

Nette, Congratulations! He is adorable!

On a much different note, maybe we can send some of our good vibes to my friend Faith, whose son was born 2 nights ago at 24 weeks, weighing 1 pound 9 ounces. Faith's dad's funeral is today as well. Poor girl is suffering so much. Thanks everybody!

Prayers are being said.

I hear you, for sure! Don't get me wrong, I love my kiddo(s), and for the most part enjoy the process, but right now, I am so ready to be done with being pregnant. I think that's part of that exasperation that comes toward the end of pregnancy.

And of course I left out the part that it took us well over a year just to get pregnant both times. I don't think I could go through TTC again....it can be SUCH a rollercoaster.

 

[TarzansKat]

And of course I left out the part that it took us well over a year just to get pregnant both times. I don't think I could go through TTC again....it can be SUCH a rollercoaster.

Wow.

I don't know how you did it. I had anxiety over it, and the first time was six months. This time, four, which was a total shocker, believe me. I had a missed period and refused to believe I was pregnant, even though my husband "knew."

With that kind of emotional rollercoaster, I'm not sure I would be too thrilled to sign up again as well.

 

[Temair]

I hear you, for sure! Don't get me wrong, I love my kiddo(s), and for the most part enjoy the process, but right now, I am so ready to be done with being pregnant. I think that's part of that exasperation that comes toward the end of pregnancy.

I have to agree with that feeling and I'm only 29 weeks along. I'm so ready to have this baby in my arms. With my DD I loved being pregnant, this time I still love being pregnant, but its much more exhausting and hard on my poor body at 34 than at 23. We are pretty sure this will be the last one, but I'm not 100% sure so will wait to do anything permanent. DH will take care of that when we make that decision.

 

[TarzansKat]

I have to agree with that feeling and I'm only 29 weeks along. I'm so ready to have this baby in my arms. With my DD I loved being pregnant, this time I still love being pregnant, but its much more exhausting and hard on my poor body at 34 than at 23. We are pretty sure this will be the last one, but I'm not 100% sure so will wait to do anything permanent. DH will take care of that when we make that decision.

I hear what you're saying. Even with just a five year gap between pregnancies, this one, being the second, has been much harder on my body. In some ways it doesn't affect me, but in others, it does. My stomach muscles are so much weaker that it's really easy for me to feel lower abdominal pressure just from sitting the wrong way or walking too much.

I'm just at that point where virtually no position is comfortable any more. If I get comfortable on the couch, I know it'll hurt when I get up.

 

[Piecey]

I can't decide if this pregnancy is harder on me because...
1) I'm home now. Before, I worked and went to college so there wasn't a lot of time to slow down and focus and really think about all those aches and pains. I just pushed through because I had a ton of stuff to get done.
2) I'm chasing a 27lb 13 month old around the house. Carrying him up the stairs winds me.
3) Pregnancies so close together, my body never had time to recover.

Or maybe it's a mix of all 3... either way, I'm so done. Thank goodness I only have 7 weeks left.

My best friend's baby shower is tomorrow! We are both so excited, she has been so apprehensive about things after miscarrying her first baby and having a ton of issues with this pregnancy.
She is an RN but got hit in the stomache at work by a patient at about 16 weeks and went into labor. She, thankfully, only dilated to 1 and has only had a few more issues where she has had to go in the hospital, but is on a brethine pump 24/7 and has to monitor herself 2x daily for contractions (I think she has an NST machine at her house)... she is out of work on worker's comp.
Anyway, she is actually due the same day as Pollito and having her baby shower early partially so that I can go and because they are stopping her brethine pump 4 weeks before her due date- on my due date! 8/31. Odds are baby won't be far behind that... which excites her, because her birthday is 8/31.

 

[lspst8]

Thanks for the warm welcome everyone!

I'm 10 weeks today, and I'm already done with being pregnant. I've jokingly told my husband that this it is for me, but he says I should wait until the baby is actually here before I make any decisions. I've been so exhausted all the time, and I'm already getting up 2 or 3 times a night to go to the bathroom. I don't know how I'll handle this for 30 more weeks -- although I do think I may have talked my DH into getting us a queen sized bed now! (We only have a double now, and I think I've driving him crazy with all my moving around in the night.) I would spring for a king bed, but he hates them.

Everyone says I should feel better in a few weeks, but I don't know if I believe them. I'm so sick of falling asleep at 8:30 every night, even on the weekends when I'm able to nap during the day.

 

[WDWorBUST]

Lauren - it will definitely get better. I was so mad when my morning sickness didn't go away after hitting the second trimester....but it did eventually at around 16 weeks. I also had more trouble sleeping earlier because of bathroom trips. Now I just try to make sure I stop drinking earlier in the evening and I can usually make it with just one bathroom trip per night. Of course now that I"m starting to get bigger I am having a harder time getting comfortable to sleep. And although I am more tired than I was prior to pregnancy I am no longer experiencing the utter exhaustion like I was before. Is this your first pregnancy? I will say my first pregnancy was a breeze compared to this one. Of course I'm also 7 years older this time and was fortunate enough not to have morning sickness with my first. The one thing I can promise you though is that every little pain, every discomfort, the lack of sleep, the throwing your guts up, etc is so worth it in the end .

 

[TSRE]

You know, it's just never come up. I'm sure if I brought it up, they'd let me know what my options are, but it's not something that's been mentioned to me.

Before my mom passed, I would have told you I was done. Two was enough, that was it, done, done, done. But because a lot of therapists recommend not making any huge life changes for at least a year after that kind of a loss, and because of how much that's changed my views on things, now I'm not so sure. I doubt that we'll have more, but at the same time, I am not quite ready to rule out the possibility completely.

I think you are very wise to wait to make that decision. Even without a major thing like that, I am really glad we never made the decision permanent, because I realize now that I never really was done, I was just done with having a preschooler & toddler and couldn't handle the thought of another one. My friends were telling me to schedule the "procedure" for DH before the baby was born, but even though we are done after this one, I don't want to do that. If, God forbid, something happened, I know I am not done and would want the option of trying again.

Nette, Congratulations! He is adorable!

On a much different note, maybe we can send some of our good vibes to my friend Faith, whose son was born 2 nights ago at 24 weeks, weighing 1 pound 9 ounces. Faith's dad's funeral is today as well. Poor girl is suffering so much. Thanks everybody!

Wow, so much pain. I have prayed for her comfort & strength.

Prayers are being said.



And of course I left out the part that it took us well over a year just to get pregnant both times. I don't think I could go through TTC again....it can be SUCH a rollercoaster.

I don't blame you - that adds such a different dimension to the whole thing.

Thanks for the warm welcome everyone!

I'm 10 weeks today, and I'm already done with being pregnant. I've jokingly told my husband that this it is for me, but he says I should wait until the baby is actually here before I make any decisions. I've been so exhausted all the time, and I'm already getting up 2 or 3 times a night to go to the bathroom. I don't know how I'll handle this for 30 more weeks -- although I do think I may have talked my DH into getting us a queen sized bed now! (We only have a double now, and I think I've driving him crazy with all my moving around in the night.) I would spring for a king bed, but he hates them.

Everyone says I should feel better in a few weeks, but I don't know if I believe them. I'm so sick of falling asleep at 8:30 every night, even on the weekends when I'm able to nap during the day.

Hang in there - most people really do feel better for the 2nd trimester! I'd angle for the bigger bed, though - a double with 3 of you in it will get tight. I swear, in the middle of the night, I feel like I am as big as not just 2 people, but at least 4 .



And about it being harder when you are older, I agree! Physically at least, for me, I feel so much more worn down and just tired. I fell like I could sleep all day if given the opportunity, every day. Having a toddler definitely makes it harder, too, from my experience. You just can't rest, even if you desperately need to, when there is a little one to chase. I finally have my boys trained - when Mommy is taking a nap, they had better be bleeding or dying if they are going to wake me up (not really, but you get the point)! Naptime is sacred - but they are able to feed and take care of themselves safely for 1/2 hour at this point.

Does anyone know what you can do for leg cramps? I had conveniently forgotten that they happened to me all the time with the other pregnancies, until I woke up with a horrible cramp in my left leg/foot last night. My calf muscle is still so tight that it is visible in my leg even when I'm trying to relax it. Is it a vitamin problem or something?

 

[Piecey]

Bananas save me from leg cramps- I eat one everyday

 

[LaurenLC]

Welcome to all the new mommy's to be! Congratulations on your little one, Nette! He's adorable!
I hope everyone is doing well!